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Rejected or not??
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Hey,
theres a thread I made a while back about having trouble asking a mate out. (see the thread started by me on page 5 if you're interested, would help if you've seen that but this is all understandable just from what I've wrote here).
Well about 30 minutes ago when we were both online I asked her out.
Went out with her during the day to the cinema and round the shops. Was lots of flirting, kept holding hands, putting arms round each other, etc. Kissed each other on the cheek a few times and later on, kissed properly once not long before parting ways.
So thought tonight would be the best time to ask after all that...
Her response was: She likes me too, thinks I'm funny and sweet, and not like other guys. Says she'd love to go out sometime, but that shes not quite ready yet.
Then said shes not saying she wont change her mind in a few months or even weeks.
On her profile online, the bottom of it has "looking for a guy...." (and so on). Yet she said shes not ready to me before.
So do you think shes telling the truth, and that she might actually go out with me in a few months or weeks? Or that this is just a white lie to let me down easily?
Been turned down twice now and never been sucessful so pretty pissed off now, and depressed, sorry. Any rejection tips wouldnt go amiss either! Thanks for reading this.
Edit: Would it help to ask her straight if she was lying? I might ring her tomorrow, and tempted to ask that whilst on the phone if I can find out the truth.... or would that be a very bad move?
theres a thread I made a while back about having trouble asking a mate out. (see the thread started by me on page 5 if you're interested, would help if you've seen that but this is all understandable just from what I've wrote here).
Well about 30 minutes ago when we were both online I asked her out.
Went out with her during the day to the cinema and round the shops. Was lots of flirting, kept holding hands, putting arms round each other, etc. Kissed each other on the cheek a few times and later on, kissed properly once not long before parting ways.
So thought tonight would be the best time to ask after all that...
Her response was: She likes me too, thinks I'm funny and sweet, and not like other guys. Says she'd love to go out sometime, but that shes not quite ready yet.
Then said shes not saying she wont change her mind in a few months or even weeks.
On her profile online, the bottom of it has "looking for a guy...." (and so on). Yet she said shes not ready to me before.
So do you think shes telling the truth, and that she might actually go out with me in a few months or weeks? Or that this is just a white lie to let me down easily?
Been turned down twice now and never been sucessful so pretty pissed off now, and depressed, sorry. Any rejection tips wouldnt go amiss either! Thanks for reading this.
Edit: Would it help to ask her straight if she was lying? I might ring her tomorrow, and tempted to ask that whilst on the phone if I can find out the truth.... or would that be a very bad move?
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As for her rejecting you, I am not sure because I am sorta going through the same thing except we already went out. Next time you see her, talk to her about it. If you don't see her anytime soon, call her up and just talk. Try to stay away from the idea of going out and just talk to her. Then bring it up.
This was sort of my first time. The other time I was pissed and the mate asked me if I liked her, didnt actually ask that one out. And yeah I was nervous cuz of that.
She thinks my main worry was that we'd fall out if she said no cuz thats what I told her before asking - which was true because the time I told that other girl I liked her, she didnt wanna be mates anymore.
She said dont worry and that shes not going anywhere and that wont happen again. But if I ring her and mention that.... could that scare her off cuz if I'm not gonna get anywhere with her, I wanna be mates with her.
Can someone still tell me what they think of that above question? ... do you think shes telling the truth and would like to go out in a few months or even weeks? Or that it was her way of letting me down easily?
dont want this sounding rude or anything, but can someone plz reply before tonight? I'm ringing her tonight and havent got a clue what to do about it.
Would it be a good idea to ask if she meant what she said on the phone? Or could that scare her away if I mention it again, dont want it sounding like I'm pestering her.
Thanks for reading, again.