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my dirty past...please help
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To tell all or not?????
Basically I am with a wonderful man whom I am engaged to.However recently my past is catching up with me.I have been with him for almost18mths.When we first got together I told a few white lies because I was afraid of what he would think of me and I wanted to be this perfect 'virgin'.........................
In the beginning I told him that I was a virgin and I wasn't even though I had been with a lad for 2.5 years.Its true-I never did it with him.
However I never went on to tell him the truth that in fact I had cheated and did it with someone else.Bad isn't it??????
Anyway me and that boyfriend split and I had 2others and all one offs and TOTALLY regret it.
You see my fiance has changed me.He's got me to be in touch with sensitivity and that is why I want to come clean but I am so scared it will ruin everything.
I just wished I told him at the beginning but I didn't.
So what dod I do.
I know from this you probably think I am so not worth helping cos what I have done is really bad but this is the first person I have loves so much and to me I feel like I have lost my virginity to.
I don't count the past but I really don't want to keep secrets from him but is it worth it?????
What do you reckon??????
I really would appreciate some help.Thanks
Basically I am with a wonderful man whom I am engaged to.However recently my past is catching up with me.I have been with him for almost18mths.When we first got together I told a few white lies because I was afraid of what he would think of me and I wanted to be this perfect 'virgin'.........................
In the beginning I told him that I was a virgin and I wasn't even though I had been with a lad for 2.5 years.Its true-I never did it with him.
However I never went on to tell him the truth that in fact I had cheated and did it with someone else.Bad isn't it??????
Anyway me and that boyfriend split and I had 2others and all one offs and TOTALLY regret it.
You see my fiance has changed me.He's got me to be in touch with sensitivity and that is why I want to come clean but I am so scared it will ruin everything.
I just wished I told him at the beginning but I didn't.
So what dod I do.
I know from this you probably think I am so not worth helping cos what I have done is really bad but this is the first person I have loves so much and to me I feel like I have lost my virginity to.
I don't count the past but I really don't want to keep secrets from him but is it worth it?????
What do you reckon??????
I really would appreciate some help.Thanks
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You obviously don't like lying to him, and rightly so, especially if you're going to marry him. I think you have to tell him. Otherwise you're just going to feel guilty for covering it up, and anyway dishonesty isn't a good basis for a marriage.
You shouldn't feel ashamed of the past, and he shouldn't love you any less for it. Be prepared for him to be angry and upset at your lying, but he should accept it in the end.
do be prepared for him to be abit upset though, as u did lie 2 him.
Any more opinions would be great too.
So............do yous really reckon it won't spoil the relationship.I am just so scared that he will se me in a different way and won't love me the same.
Otherwise the guilt your feeling (which you really shouldnt have to) will well up and eat you inside and could very well ruining your relationship long term if you dont tell him anyway-
I reckon he will forgive you- be a bit upset for a start at most!
So go do it sooner ratrher than later!!!
Sxxx