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She's too young
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Last night I was watching this Lifetime movie called "She's too young" It was about 14 yr old kids... yes, kids... who have sex and give head because it is the only way to be popular and to get dates. One girl went to the school nurse only to find that she had syphilis... she had also slept with/give head to 15-20 guys. They ended up finding over 25 some kids in the class who had contracted it. This just horribly discusted me. Not the movie, but the fact that kids really do this. It's far too common to see this going on now. One point in the movie one girl goes "if you don't give it to them, they will find somebody else who will." Now I may not be one to talk as I am not queen of virginity, but honestly, when you think about 14 yr olds doing such things its sad. My sister is 14 and I hope to god that she is not one of these active kids. It makes me mad how little respect people have for themselves. Opinions on young sex? If you were/are like one of these young sex craved children, why?
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that is wrong on so many levels :no:
I mean I wasn't that much better in my day, but nowadays it is more common for kids at school to give head!?
Please tell me where they learn these things, because I am fully baffled!
I am friends with a bunch of 14/15 year olds (it's not gross like you think, a bunch of guys and me played football together so I know kids who are like 8 year old, even guys in their 20's..anyway one of these guys is my mate Dan who lives round the corner - they're mates of his) and I know some of them give a lot of head and stuff. But I _try_ and keep them on the straight and narrow especially since I know how older guys are all over a chick who's easy or whatever you want to call it. Not nice at all.
Anyway, it hurts me to think they do it because an older guy says she's fit, or because it'll make her popular.
My little sister is 12 and I don't let her wear make up or dress in skirts and stuff. Now don't get me wrong, she does some days - but not if she's coming out with me. There are girls in her year who dress like some of the folks in my college year - it's weird. So I keep the young one on the straight and narrow as well as the friends outlined above.
Of course folk don't mess around with my sisters - the last one who tried to assult my sister was thrown through the leanto
My point - I don't have one I went on a tangent. But it's terrible to think what the world has come to. No pun intended.
Saying that they should at least use rubbers.
Having sex and giving head for attention and popularity, however, is just completely wrong in my opinion, especially for girls that young. If they are sexually active for those reasons then it seems obvious that they aren't mature enough and are likely to regret it when they are older.
I do think that different people are ready at different ages, and that in some circumstances it may be better to lose your virginity at a younger age than at an older age (eg. I would rather have lost my virginity at 14 when I was in a 2 year, loving relationship than at 16 in a drunken one night stand). However to me, those kind of actions clearly indicate that someone isn't mature enough, isn't doing it for the right reasons, and therefore isn't ready to be sexually active.
In a lot of Europe the age of consent is 14. I don't think it IS too young, what I think the problem is the attitude to sex that si found in the UK and the USA. Cause something to be a taboo, and everyone will do it to "rebel".
In Holland sex is seen as something open, but something for loving people, so even though the age of consent is 14 most Dutch don't lose it until they are 18 or 19. Over here a lot fo people can't wait to do it as soon after their 16th birthday as possible, and those who don't are seen as weird.
Yea right. what can we do to stop them? We can tell them however much we want that they'll regret it in later life and that it's not doing them any good but ohhhhh noooooo....do they listen? not for shit.
I was referring to giving head and jerking guys off. 14 is a bit young, as in 15. But it depends how 14 and how 15 you are. Losing your virginity one week into being 14 is bad, whereas losing it a week before you're 15 isn't as bad.
Anyways one think led to another and altough we were drunk, we stopped and i said do you want to have sex, or not i dont want to pressurise you into it.....and she said no, as she didnt know me hardly......so fair enough we left it at that.
Now i can now see you all having a go, but mistakes happen for a reason and i enjoyed myself, at the time, and so did she, and im not going to look back on it with bad memories, just thought i should share my experience with you all.......
Adam
But then what I forget is at that age, I was probably as horny as they are now.
Maybe if the media weren't using sex to sell anything from tyres to spanners, from dishwashers to bath scourers, from pens to paper, then maybe we wouldn't be in this mess.
Maybe if every magazine wasn't all about "how to please your man", "100 ways to suck him off!", "take it from behindn and he'll love you forever!" and such like, maybe we wouldn't be in this mess.
Advertising works by making people desire a product by feeling they are missing out on something. Use sex as that marketing tool and suddenly we have 12-year-old getting pregnant, 8-year-old wearing skimpy lace thongs, 14-year-old being used as bikes, because they think that they are missing out on something. The peer pressure is as bad on boys as it is on girls, so the boys pressure girls just to say they've done it. The girls do it because they think it's the only way to be liked, because that's what the media tells them.
There is plenty we can do about it, but no-one wants to for the simple fact that too many people make too much money from all these poor schmucks going around fucking each other aged 13. That is what this all boils down to- corporate greed.
Sooner or later? It wasn't so long ago that two 12-year-olds in Rotherham got pregnant within weeks of each other.
i remember reading about a 12 year old getting pregnant in something like j-17 and that must have been about three years ago now....i was fifteen at the time and it made me feel sick...she was pregnant to an 18 year old...i was like wtf?!?!
oh and i agree about the companies and stuff...its insane really
That is terrible! What has happened to society today!
Anyway, hearing all your stories my school sounds ok. Sex isnt really a thing you do to be cool. I have never heard anyone being pressurised into sex or doing it ot be like thier mates. At our school its either you are going out with someone so you do it,cos your honry etc or its the drink. Although one of my best mates is the biggest slut ever he lost his virginity when he was 12 and last friday slept with girl no.21!:crazyeyes