best mates

Former Member

my best mate is hangin out with my ex alot. It really bothers me because she knows how much he hurt me-the only one who knows what he drove me to.

Trouble is I can't tell her as she will think I'm being slefish and childish but I know full well if I hung out with her ex she'd certainly havea few things to say.

I'm being too nice to her, lying, saying I don't mind them hanging out together, but its building up inside and I know I'm gonna explode and say the worng thing.

I don't know why I feel like this-I wish I didn't but she is MY best mate, not his. still I guess not anymore.

What should I do and why the hell do I feel so stupid for feeling this way-how can I not be jealous of her and him hanging out?

Former Member

Tell her how you feel, but don't make it sound offensive. I'd be pretty well pissed if a good friend of mine hung around with an ex if it seemed there was more than a friendly intention. The way I see it is you don't wanna keep dwelling on it, and wouldn't you rather someone else is the reason you're upset rather than the reason being your own tact?

Former Member

Yeh I've told her as I couldn't face being without her and she said some really nice things to me that I never realised. She said that my ex can never give her what I do and that I'm not just a taxi buddy! She said she's not gonna see him til I can sort things out with him, which opens up a whole knew dilema!

I really need to get off my chest what my ex did/made me feel etc to him and have never done so because he has manic depression and I'm scared that if I do he will take that information and ultimatly do something stupid. Whcih even if it has meant my own snaity is compromised I've done so far.

But back to the original situation-with her and him hanging out I have to tell him and sort things out as then I can get it off my chest and no longer feel all crappy. gah life is never simple eh?

Former Member

lol... well if it was simple then it'd get boring wouldn't it?

I know it's hard to tell 'unstable' people things that might push them over the edge but if you want to say something you should be able to. I mean if he was your boyfriend once you must be able to talk to him with a bit of honesty right?

Like you said. Get it off your chest and enjoy your life. Dwelling sucks

Former Member

yeh, thats what I'm gonna do-you're right, lifes too short to spend time feelin crappy huh?!