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Considering Marriage..AM I CRAZY??

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Im 17 yrs old rite, ill b 18 in a few months, Ive been wth ma bf now for about a year and im madly in love. I wanna spend every minute of every day with him. He asked me to get engaged to him n i said yes...AM I mad??
Love y'all Natters x

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think you're mad <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; I think it's really sweet.

    If you're sure that in a few months, a year, a few years that you won't want to experience things with someone else and that the two of you have what it takes then I'd say go for it!

    Good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    YOUR MAD....MAD I TELL YOU!!!! only joking. Well only you know how you feel about this bloke!! you are only young though so I wouldn't go rushing into marriage - getting engaged is one thing but marriage is something completely different. So many people are getting divorced now as they get married to young - I think marriage should be for life so like i said before, don't rush into anything.

    Genie x
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yes, you're nuts!!!
    You're too young!!!
    Never piss into the wind!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/cool7.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well as sum of the others have said only u know how u feel about this guy, BUT if ur asking ppl if ur mad 4 doin this or not then i don't think ur ready.

    I'm nearly 17 myself & i haven't been wit my bf as long as u have but personally i wouldn't consider marrying him even in say 2yrs time coz i wanna actually have a life without being tied down 1st. Thats not 2 say i'm gonna go out & cheat on him. U can still have commitment without marriage & even though a yr sounds like a long time, personally i don't think its long enough 2 consider getting married 2 sum1.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi!
    I'll be 17 in a few weeks, so i'm even younger than you,but i'm engaged too.Ive been with my boyfreind (or fiance!) for over a year and we're deeply in love and wana be with eachother forever.There's no point putting your problem up on the board for anyone to answer, because everyone's different.Girls at 17 can have a mental age of 12 and would never dream of getting married yet.But some are more mature for their age and feel ready and think it's the best thing in the world. Some girls may have experienced bad experiences which have put them off commitment such as divorce in the family etc. There are soooo many things that could influence a persons decision wether to marry young or not.
    Also the people on this site have no idea how you and your boyfreind feel for eachother so they cant really tell you what to do, they can only advise.
    Only you can decide wether you are ready or not through lots of thinking and talking to your boyfreind.
    Good luck with your decision! Hope ive helped without rambling on too much!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think you're mad but young! I think if you want you should get engaged (well you've doen that) but don't go rushign into getting married, wait a few years!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Kat:
    I don't think you're mad but young! I think if you want you should get engaged (well you've doen that) but don't go rushign into getting married, wait a few years!!!


    That's it. Nothing wrong with waiting. If the two of you are meant for each other then nothing will prevent you from getting married in the end. However, time will tell. Don't rush it love..........take your time.

    Never piss into the wind!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/cool7.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    o u make me wanna cry. my hormones r overcoming me. i am in a pretty new relationship n i wud marry my guy neday.lol no seriously u shud go 4 it! Best o' luck, u'll make the rite choice eventually! i wish u the best n all. loads luv,
    Kiz
    i am the emotionless freak who dusnt make sense on a good day
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
    toughy

    simply because anything could rock the boat between you...and because when it's good it's perfect but when it's bad it's hell

    are you engaged..............or engaged to be married? there's a big difference...marriage is an eternal thing, needs a lot of thinking, lot of time, planning and checking that it would work.

    why marry one guy you're in love with and then wonder 5 years later what you're going with him when he's got a job somewhere commuting, you hardly see him and you've met some of your mate's blokes that are so perfect for you....

    life's full of surprises, so make sure you know the only ones you could get are positive for your relationship with this man


    personally i believe marriage should occur after sex, after living together for a while and after you are both in steady jobs etc...

    basically simulate married life to see if it's going to work. it eliminates any nasty break ups and troubles to be overcome.

    [This message has been edited by *ád înfînîtûm* (edited 27-08-2001).]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    GGGGGRRRRRRRRR @ very big screen <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;

    Lxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by lurvlylucy:
    GGGGGRRRRRRRRR @ very big screen <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;

    Lxxx


    noted and changed <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
    Death is one of the few things that can be done as easily lying down. The difference between sex and death is that with death you can do it alone and no one is going to make fun of you
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; Aww thanx <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Sorry for moanin! Just took me AGGGGESS to read what ud put! lol <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Lxxx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think that getting engaged is an alright idea but i'd not get married too soon.make sure you both have secure jobs, you won't want to be married and depending on someone else for accomodation. if you are sure your gonna love this person for the rest of your life, then carry on but don't rush into things.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im 16,also 17 in a few weeks like Alley, and iv been engaged to my boyfriend for amonth now and iv been goin out with him for nearly nine months i dont think its the time you have been with a person or how long your engaged for its,how much u love them and also when u can actually say u have found mr rite,only you can make the decision of whether or not to marry your fiance,but i would marry mine tomorrow if i could,even if we havent been 2gev 4 that long,because he is my mr rite and ilove him more than anything.have a think about it... good luck
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The whole piont of an engagement is to give yourself a chance to think though what marrage means to you. It makes no differance if your engagment is long or short as long as you have sorted out any problems or doubts you may have.
    but IMHO marrage is just a way to prove your love and there are many less dangerous way to do that at your age.
    wise men talk because they have somthing to say, fools talk because they have to say somthing.
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