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Theres a girl I've met recently. We spoke on the net for about a month but are now proper mates offline because we live local and got on great.
Anyway, when we do still speak online, she occasionally says stuff like calling me sweet, cute, sexy, etc. and flirts as if she likes me.
Do girls often say stuff like that without meaning it? I'd like to ask her out but only would if I was sure she liked me.
I'm too shy to try do it otherwise incase of rejection. I've never had a gf before so I'm inexperienced with all this stuff I'm asking about, I dont have a clue!
Thanks.
Anyway, when we do still speak online, she occasionally says stuff like calling me sweet, cute, sexy, etc. and flirts as if she likes me.
Do girls often say stuff like that without meaning it? I'd like to ask her out but only would if I was sure she liked me.
I'm too shy to try do it otherwise incase of rejection. I've never had a gf before so I'm inexperienced with all this stuff I'm asking about, I dont have a clue!
Thanks.
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However, in this case, there might be something there. But you know what I'm going to say - there's only one way to find out, and that's to talk with her, and tell her how you feel. Either she'll say yes, or no (if she lets you down gently then it may sound like a maybe when she really means no). If she says no, then you'll either stay friends, or not speak again. You won't know unless you ask.
Weigh up what you've got to gain against what you've got to loose. You could gain a girlfriend, or at least keep a good friend, and either of those are good, yes? Or you could loose a friend, and someone who doesn't have any deep feelings for you anyway.
I don't know her, and you've only given us a sketchy outline of the situation, so it's impossible to say what will happen. I reckon she'll either say yes, or let you down gently and will remain a friend as long as you realise that there's never going to be a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship there.
There's only one way to know though, and that's to tell her, and ask her.
Mr_Wobble
or you could take her to a nightclub and after a while ask her to dance then dance close with her - if she likes you you'll probably end up all over each other, thats what happened to me anyway.
Good luck!
But the internet is so awful because you can't read body language as well as the words. So ask her, maybe gently nudge at it. (Though don't nudge too gently, t'missus thought I fancied a mutual friend for ages )
I'm gonna be drunk on tuesday, decided to say something then. Unless I still lose my bottle! Well will soon see.
Well, thanks again.
Um... i wouldnt if i were you, things you dont want people to hear tend to come out more when you're drunk, and also emotions are a lot higher so when you just want to tell her you like her and want to go out with her you might end up coffessing your (false) undying love for her and how you want her to have your kids etc..
As for her not taking me seriously... well that might happen and never really thought of that.
Well they're both good points. Just gonna go and think about it for a bit.
i think she may just laugh and not know whether you're being serious so perhaps it's not a good idea. then the next day there will be this sobre awkwardness like should you say something about what you said or wait for her to.
your best bet is to not get down about this probelm because it's not attractive. instead just flirt with her more online and if you don't already, then give her a complement or two and see how she reacts. then maybe you can move it towards telling her you like her.
good lucketh