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This is true but I tend to think, and she did too, that its worse for the child anyway. I mean who would want to know they were adopted and then find out they were conceived from a rape. Also having to go through with the pregnancy and birth and then have to give the child up for adoption is a lot harder than getting an abortion. I couldnt do it myself. I guess its personal choice though.
persoanlly, i couldnt cope with a baby now.im stressed enough with year 13 and a levels and friend troubles and stuff.. im on the pill, but i know its not 100%, but my boyf cant use condoms for some personal reasons (not being selfish,or just doign the normal bloke excuses), and if i did get pregnant i would have an abortion. i agree with lolly (er think it was her, the thread's gone now!) that people trying for babies who cant have them would appreciate being able to adopt these unwanted babies.. but the reality is more likely that the child will go into foster homes and be passed around before finally finding a family who want to adopt.now is that any life for a kid?and they would go their whole life being traumatised by it and not knowing hteir parents, esp if it was after a rape. i dont disagree with adoption obviously, but i just think that if a pregnancy is going to screw up someone's life, including carrying it to term, its not the answer just to give birth to all babies as there isnt exactly a shortage of children. not that abortion should be used in late stages if all that about the foetus pain is true. and it shouldnt be used as contraceptive, people should only use it if theyhave explored all other opportunities or are physically or mentally unable to have a child. theres so much more to say on this, but i'll shut up now as ive been talking forever! i hope i havent offended anyone!!
And a foetus a few weeks old concieved by someone who raped you should not be allowed to ruin your life.
I do realise that abortion is a very sensetive issue. THis will probably have J9 mad at me. But I think that abortion up till 14 weeks should be legal, as up till that time the foetus has absolutley no chance of survival in the world.
I think that if a sixteen year old girl has decided she couldn't cope with a baby, no-one should force her to have a child that she doesn't want,which could ruin her life.
I'm not saying that all teenagers shouldn't become mothers. I'm sure that there are many people out there who got pregnant at an early age, considered abortion and are now very glad that they went through with the pregnancy.
I do think that people should have the right to choose. As for the abortion video, I think I agree with Harry when he says that it was probably done by someone who was wildly anti-abortion who wanted to shock.
Anyone can find the ugliest possible side of a subject and film it. What they normally don't do is look at something objectively.
Most abortions take place very early on in the pregnancy. I see nothing wrong with it.
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
Has anyone watched big brother, lets face it if you haven't you have lived in a box for the last 9 months, but anyway the baby thing on their seemed like a brilliant way of doing things. The baby gets given to a school pupil at let say the age of 13 and they have to look after it for a weekend, see how they like it. Though this is practiced in some schools, it isn't practiced in a lot, if it was part of the curiculam then they would be forced to do it!
I think my castrating program is more fun though!
BaRt
Live Life On The Edge!
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
a the baby is 2 or 3 years old
b the teenage mother has finished her GCSE's?
In some cultures they would just kill the baby straight away! At least this is kind of fair, isn't it?
BaRt
Live Life On The Edge!
it is difficult for me to imagine this as much as a female would but a life grows inside you and then you suddenly end that life? Imagine what the mother would feel like after. The questions she'll ask herself. I strongly disagree with abortion!!!!
Life is like a beautiful melody, only the lyrics are messed up
However a lot of adopted kids are messed up.
I've known a couple of kids who've been adopted, and they were both fucked up. I'm not saying everyone who's been adopted is messed up, but its more likely.
I don't think adoption is the answer. In anycase, there aren't enough parents who are willing to adopt, when compared with the number of people who have abortions every year.
The alternative to legal adoption, shunting the child round sets of foster parents, is far far worse. How can someone develope normally if they spent no longer than a few years with each set of parents?
Some teenagers make great parents. But most can't cope with someone completely dependant on them, when they are just children themselves. Most fourteen year olds couldn't cope with looking after a completely helpless person throughout their GCSEs and A levels.
Better sex education is needed, and contraception needs to be made more freely availible.
I'd keep it.
Well Caliph, I'm 16 and having sex (not at this moment, you understand!) so I s'pose I'm right in the 'danger zone'. I had a pregnancy scare once a while ago, and I was bloody terrified. I was with my ex Satan then and he'd persuaded me to down a few vodkas and then have sex without any protection. What can I say, I was weak. I should have told him to bugger off then. My period was late and I can't describe the fear of thinking you may be pregnant...it's awful. Luckily I wasn't, but I easily could have been. If I was, I'm almost 100% sure I would have had an abortion.
I'm still at school for one thing, and for another I was a lot less mature then, it's surprising how much you can grow up after something like that! He would have been useless, and anyway, I loved him - it was just some stupid little infatuation. I don't even remember liking that much. Fuck know why I was sleeping with him. I was in no way ready to be a mother and I would have had it terminated as soon as possible, I'm sure.
Now, it would be different. The last thing I would want to do is bring an innocent child into my mess of a life, but it would be better off now. It would have a father. I hope that I'll be with my boyfriend for a long time, but even if we broke up tomorrow it's not as if he would abandon his baby. Despite the fact he's not a bastard, he wouldn't really have much choice unless he wanted to be disowned by the whole family. I really, really wouldn't want to be pregnant as I have so much to learn yet, but I don't think I would have an abortion. If it could have a stable home and a loving family, which it would, it goes against everything I rant about if I had an abortion. So long as I can get my GCSEs and everything, he/she would hopefully have a good life despite the fact they weren't planned.
Sorry ppl, this is a little off topic but kind of relevant. I don't know if you knew but the ages at which women first have periods, at which the first sexual characteristics (etc.) appear have all dropped (dramatically, by several years) in the last 100 years and are still dropping. People believe this is due to:
1. Better health and nutrition, so your bodies can develop faster.
2. Increased levels of hormones such as oestrogen in food and water (this is also believed to increase male infertility).
The net result of this is that women are having to cope with being sexual beings at younger ages than ever before, at more immature stages of their lives. As far as nature is concerned, the only important thing is to get as many babies out there as possible.
It has no innate concept of emotional maturity. While more emotionally mature parents will always have functioned better in the past (leading theoretically to sexuality at an emotionally mature age), nature has produced humans who mature at the 'correct' rate in a more hostile environment than the current one.
Hence, I believe it is possible that women actually do have sexual capabilities and drives that they are not really mature enough to handle. So if you're old enough to shag, are you old to handle the consequences? I don't think so. You know, if women keep maturing quicker and quicker, I think the trend would indicate that at some point in the next hundred years, the 'average' women would be capable of having a baby at more like 11 years old than 13 (whatever it is at the moment). HOW THE HELL CAN PEOPLE AT 11 BE RESPONSIBLE. Hey?
I think the only way to start tackling the issue ATM is much younger sex ed. (and better support systems for women in general).
Something else you didn't mention is the emotional complications that sex brings - these are as important as disease in my opinion.
Infact my ex bloke's pickin me up this mornin and we're off down the FPC cos i keep faintin and my periods l8. I really reallly hope im not. Ill keep u updated.
Sorry to those who I may have upset.
Lots of love,
N.Reich