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University and r'ships
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hey, duno if this has been mentioned before but i'll ask neway. Im going to uni in September and i am currently in a serious r'ship. I love my b/f loads and he is either joining the RAF or getting a job. I'll probably be able to see him at weekends and obviously in the holidays. The thing is tho can it work? i mean can you manage to have the same great r'ship you have now if u only see him once a week? I know it would be hard and he keeps saying comments like 'oh if you met someone at uni i'd understand'. this makes me feel wierd cos its like he's expecting me to not want him and to find someone else. The truth is i cant imagine wanting ne1 else! I keep telling him and he's like well if we split we gotta stay good mates etc I duno but i think hes scared that im gonna go and have a new life and that he will just be in my past?!
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good luck with it, don't freak out about it. chances are, it will work. I live in Switzerland, and I got mates who have gfs over here (still) but go to uni the UK, so they only get to see them during holidays, but they're still going strong.
If it is gonna be a seriously long term thing, then three years probably wont make much of a difference.
Hope this helps, n good luck again.
Tt
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
its back to the old Q about if long distance relationships work. theyre quite difficult, you just want the other person to be there all the time, and if you need to talk to them or just need a hug its a bit difficult to do over a few hundred miles. ithink it makes it easier if you know the distance is going to change and you'll be able to be together sometime in the future, like for me when i go to uni i'll be a lot closer and ill see my bf every week or two instead of every month or two! well hopefully after the first year he'll come and join me at uni if we're still together! *fingers crossed* <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
but high angel, if your relationship is that strong, you'll be able to survive it, if you both have the determination, trust and love to get through the time apart. good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
I'm 18 and 5 months.
or a few thousand <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
He must realise you won't be at Uni forever, and that it is important for you and your future. So i don't think it will be a problem. You have obviously talked about it with him.
It will certainly put a strain on the relationship, but at the same time it may make you stronger...you know what they say!!!
even though ur going to have a world of new experiences and less time to give him and even though he seems to know that, if you do want this to work, never let him forget that you love him. a regular 5 minute phone call, quick follow up on a email, all of that just lets him know that you're thinking about him, and that really does go a long way in keeping things strong.
good luck with him and at uni. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
i know it's not the same as in person, but
*big hug*
i'd type more kayleigh <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">, but people would get ticked <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
My ex was in the Royal Marines, and i found the first week or so was really tough, but at that time i had college and friends to keep me occupied, try not to sit around pining for him lol!!! I'm sure everything will turn out fine, good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
We were talking about it yesterday and im glad we have decided to try and make the r'ship work when im away. I know of couples that have been together years and both decided to split once they go uni.