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Why do we tell people our secrets?
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I was pondering this earlier on, but why do we tell people secrets? It just seems like no matter how secret something is someone else always gets told. Or am I wrong?- Do tell if I am.
I thought the reason we tell certain people only is because we trust them, but why do we need to tell them? Thats what I'm saying.
I think a lager too many
I thought the reason we tell certain people only is because we trust them, but why do we need to tell them? Thats what I'm saying.
I think a lager too many
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the juicier the secret, the greater our urge to tell it to everyone we know.
But yeah. I think little secrets, are just too impossible to keep to yourself sometimes, not that I would go blabbing them to everybody but I would probably share it with my best friend or Mum, sometimes it helps if its a problem then it can take the pressure off you and stop you worrying.
And if its not a problem, its gossip or something then its just fun sharing it with someone who you know won't say anything
Has anyone got any friends who you just wouldn't tell anything to? I've got one that I would never ever tell a secret to, shes got the biggest mouth ever, she doesnt mean to let things slip she just does, its the way she is!
Yes.
I have fuckloads of drinking buddies, but only about two or three people who I could even begin to confide in.
But yeah, secrets kinda stop being secrets when you blab about them.
But other secrects yeah i think its because it takes the weight off your shoulders not having to kep it to yourself.
hmm not making much sense oh well
I will tell things to some people some things because I respect the closeness that I have with them: I know what I say will be secure with them, so I'm satisfied it won't go oot and aboot, eh?
The disturbing thing is I probobly will. Thanks for your preach Rolleh, and the rest of you. I'm feeling... Englightened .
There are plenty of people I won't tell my secrets to, though. Normally if it's something that's really really upset me, I only tell people who I don't know that well and will probably never see again, because it saves me worrying that they're going to be asking how I am all the time and worrying about me. I hate that :mad:
Stretch a little furthur and ask why.
but if it's something deep and related to someone else then i would sooo never tell it.
That's the secrets about me. Secret about other people I just tell because it's usually funny as fuck or scandalous.
that is the exact same as me. I don't like telling people my secrets because it makes me feel vulnerable, what to I don't know. I prefer no one knowing what's wrong than someone knowing I'm hurt or upset. I'm just a secretive, messed up person :yes:
But some secrets just eat you up. Before people knew I'm gay I felt so crap when people assumed I was straight or made gay jokes because I didn't have the guts to come out.
i hope it's been positive for you being honest.
someone in this thread said something about themselves being a secretive fucked up person ...try dropping the secrecy and i think you'll go along way to becoming unfucked.
me maybe? i said messed up lol plus i cant become unsecretive, for personal reasons
come on ...tell me why you have to be a secretive person ...lie to me if you must but remember ...the lies we tell say a lot about us.
oh ur making me feel bad im secretive because im the kinda gal who'd rather deal with her own emotions privately, than have people know whats wrong and keep questioning me. its easier for me to deal and move on on my own and that wasn't a lie :angel:
yup that I am
Well, I think that the reason why we tell people secrets is because we trust them, enough, to tell them this secret and that they won't tell anyone else and that you can trust them, enough, to tell them this secret, that you won't have to worry about it being told unto others as long as the secret is told in total and complete secracy, as well as not ever being told told to someone or ones that you don't know or trust.
So you can tell the whole world you slept with your brother-in-law or something but they won't know who you are!!!