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gods sake i have to choke down two xmas dinners this year
one at my grans with my dad n his gf and one with my mum n her husband
gah! oh well i like brussel sprouts!!
one at my grans with my dad n his gf and one with my mum n her husband
gah! oh well i like brussel sprouts!!
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My sister (dads daughter) cant have her xmas with our dad. At least you get to see yours, she doesnt. So be
I'm only having one.
Is there no way to alternate year by year who you spend it with? or spend christmas day with one and new years day with the other or sumthing?
Sorry to hear it char *hugs* i know its not nice to have your whole family split up, my parents had a trial seperation a couple of years ago and i hated it! :crying:
My Mum and Dad don't get on at all, but at Christmas I have to go there and play happy families all day, it's crap, pretending.
I would rather have 2 seperate dinners than do that.
.:Crispy:.
I'm sorry your parents aren't together but I have no sympathy for children whose parents have split up. It's just one of those things. I was upset that my parents split up but at least they're not still living together and throwing plates at eachother or whatever rowing couples do.
I reserve my sympathy for abused children or children who are orphans or when one of their parents has died or doesn't see them.
As Tweety said, be glad both of your parents are still alive. We are truly priviliged, and be glad you are eating at all this Christmas. Two Xmas Dinners? Why not give your leftovers to a homeless person?
Indeedy.
How many people actually think about people less fortunate than them at Xmas? There was this family down the road from us, single mum, two kids. My mam always told us that she worked her fingers to the bone to give them kids a good time at Xmas, and even though it wasn't much they got in the end up, they were damn appreciative of it.
And that's just people down the road from us. Think about orphans in Romania and stuff.
I'm not being nasty, but moaning about the presents you get and complaining about having to eat two Xmas dinners is totally and utterly selfish and self-centered and totally what I hate about Xmas.
People so need to get a grip.
Couldn't agree more. I could be bothered less with how many presents or not, that I get, or how many Christmas dinners or whatever I'm going to have.
Also, even though I no longer have my parents, here and alive, I am grateful that I still am, that I still have a place to live, food, clothe on my back.
If I could, at all, I would love to donate some food and/or toys or both, or whatever else I could possibly provide, to some of the families and children that will have very little or nothing, at all, for Christmas, or whenever I possibly could, but just wish that there was a place around here, that I could do that.
I would even feel better, if I could volunteer my time, around where I live, in the US, that I could even help to just feed the homeless on Christmas.
Sorry if I'm sounding like I'm being a snobbish, snotty person, but just wish that, in some ways, that people, all around the world, could help others, in some way/s.
Ok, enough rambling and going on now. Will just stop and leave this thread before everyone thinks I'm like totally nuts:crazyeyes
i wasnt moaning about eating two xmas dinners, its just getting bad, when im with one family the other bitches about the other side and blah blah
just xmas is the time when your supposed to be happy when in fact it brings up all the rifts in your life
because normally they tell you to fuck off if you offer them food- i dont blame them, you cant buy a BMW with a Big Mac.
Wtf?!?!
Do you have quotas of sympathy which you can use?
Yes divorced parents might be better than so many other things, but it's still not plesant for all.
Sometimes the self-righteous do gooders spite out more crap than actual good they do.
:crying:
my feelings exactly... its so weird without dad, think this christmas will be the hardest cos its the first without him...
Wow. That's unbelievably callous. Even by my standards.
i have a big, happy family, and i'm totally grateful for it.
but i have an adopted cousin, who, because of her own actions, is no longer a real part of our family, and who we don't really talk to. she lives way below the poverty line in scunthorpe.
every christmas, my aunt and uncle (her adoptive parents) post her and her scummy boyfriend a present, despite everything she's done to them (and it's a lot), because they know that whatever they buy for them will be the only thing they get.