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She wants me to forgive her

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
My ex wants to get back with me and forgive her, i wana get back with her, but i duno if i can forgive her for breaking my heart, or even trust her not to do it again. As last time she said she wanted me and only me, then days later said she didnt want me, but wanted someone else. But now shes turned round and said, i only want you, not him, i just love you and not him, will you tell him to leave me alone etc etc, and forgive me.

As i said i wana get back with her, but can i forgive her? Will she just hurt me again? Does she really want me back.

Also she said she wants to make it up, should i let her? If so whats a good way to let her, to prove to me she wants me, any ideas?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well shes decided to change her mind again, all within the space of one phone call. its really winding me up now, i wish the other bloke she liked was dead, she wants us both, but she cant have us both, for starters he lives no where near her, and it really annoys me!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Leave her

    I remember your posts, you were heartbroken. No way does she deserve you, and she's just messing with your head doing this.

    I know it's difficult, and you are tempted to go and beg and plead, but don't. It's not worth it. Honestly.

    You deserve better mate.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know everyone will hate me for sayin this but everyone makes mistakes, next time she says she wants you back tell her to come back when she's thought about if thats what she wants aswell and THEN & only THEN can u talk!! If you love he that much then u never know, maybe things can be sorted but be sure that it's what you want aswell before you start to build on your relationship again, go for it!! It can work if you want it to!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi

    well i think u should leave her. she obviously wants her cake and to eat it!! if she keeps changing her mind then she cant love you b/c she would want to be with you and only you.

    it all depends on how much you love her...is it really what you want...your heart been broken again b/c from what you've said it sounds like if you get back woth her thats whats gonna happen.

    we cant tell you whether or not you can forgive her...thats something you have to work out for yourself - dont think about the past that you've had with her...think about YOUR future and what YOU want. be careful with what you decide to do but make sure that its what you want. some girls have a way of getting what they want and they dont care about how they get it...they dont care about who they hurt just as long as they have what they want.

    so its up to you...think about what you want and ask yourself one question

    IS SHE WORTH IT IN ALL HONESTY?

    b/c thats what it all boils down to. dont be swayed by her charms and do what you want and not what she wants!

    hope i've been of some use! keep us posted on how things go.

    good luck <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lose her
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Leave her shes playin u 4 a fool! Wat it is, is thats shes curious as 2 wat it will b like wit this guy and thats y she wants him.. every person wants somethin someone tells them they cant have( yorkie advert). She prob does love you but she can't decide who her heart wants yet... but its best to leave her bcoz this cud happen again. I was in the same boat. And alot of other boats <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i used to wish the girl my guy liked was dead too but that is a strong word 2 use. Ur heartin only urself. She thinks she can control u dont let her think she can hav u wen she wants... knowledge is power.

    [ 12-05-2002: Message edited by: Dark Pheonix ]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Listen mate, overall I'm in the same boat...seriously, I'm over it now an gettin on with other people but you need to realise this isn't how you want to spend the rest of your life!

    And if you don't want to spend the rest of your life with someone you didnt trust 100% then why bother now??

    How old are you anyway?

    Just ditch her mate, trust me.

    I been there, it hurts, you will NOT get want you want, im there now <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Let me know how old (or young) you are!

    Phil.. <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dump her she is obivously not commited to you once a cheat always a cheat! eventually she will do it again!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by NeoNero:
    <STRONG>My ex wants to get back with me and forgive her, i wana get back with her, but i duno if i can forgive her for breaking my heart, or even trust her not to do it again. As last time she said she wanted me and only me, then days later said she didnt want me, but wanted someone else. But now shes turned round and said, i only want you, not him, i just love you and not him, will you tell him to leave me alone etc etc, and forgive me.

    As i said i wana get back with her, but can i forgive her? Will she just hurt me again? Does she really want me back.

    Also she said she wants to make it up, should i let her? If so whats a good way to let her, to prove to me she wants me, any ideas?</STRONG>

    first of all *hugs*

    it sounds like she's really messing you around. people like this don't deserve people like you. you sound like a decent guy who has been mucked around so much by this girl you don't know what's happening.

    my advice to you is to walk away. it's gonna be really hard, but in the long run, is the best thing that you can do. both for you and for her. if you keep yourself available for her, then she's gonna see it as an easy option to just keep pricking you around. and if you keep taking her back, then you will eventually hate yourself, as well as her, for letting her do this to you.

    it sounds like she doesn't really know what she wants. while her head is so messed up like this, she shouldn't be with anyone, but take some time out to sort it out. what she shouldn't, and wouldn't do if she truly cared is keep hurting you. it's not fair on you.

    so tell her in no uncertain terms what is going on in your head. tell her that you can't be her doormat anymore, but that you will always be her friend.

    hope that helps a bit. keep us updated!!!

    <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey mate! soz only just seen your thread. leave her mate because as soon as you go she will realise what a great guy she is missing out on and may end up leaving the other bloke for good. On the other hand though, if you do this you may have to take the consiquences(sp?) of her realising it is actually this new bloke she wants and no longer you.

    like they say 'you don't know what you've got till its gone'

    good luck <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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