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How do you tell if someone's gay?
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Hi everyone, I haven't made my own post before but I was just wondering about this...
There's a guy in the year above me at school who moved here 18 months ago. He's really popular because he's good looking, clever, and basically a really nice person. In the time I've known him he's never had a girlfriend - he did get off with a girl at a party but they were both drunk at the time.
It wouldn't bother me if he was gay but I was just wondering whether you think he might be, and if there's any way to tell if someone's gay unless they tell you.
There's a guy in the year above me at school who moved here 18 months ago. He's really popular because he's good looking, clever, and basically a really nice person. In the time I've known him he's never had a girlfriend - he did get off with a girl at a party but they were both drunk at the time.
It wouldn't bother me if he was gay but I was just wondering whether you think he might be, and if there's any way to tell if someone's gay unless they tell you.
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"Is sex dirty? Only if its done right."
- Woody Allen
i also know someone really camp who people think are gay... but hes not. you cant tell, theres no label on you or neon lights saying "IM GAY!!!".. you just have to wait to be told.
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
according to robbie williams newa lol...
"all the best women are married/all the handsome men are gay"
is prob tru, u know.
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
I'm not suggesting that he might be gay purely because of that, I'm the last person who'd do it since I've never had a boyfriend and I'm nearly 17. But some blokes are gay, there's nothing wrong with it, and often they're some of the nicest guys around....
You want me to go up to him and ask him if he's gay? Somehow I can't see that as being one of the best conversations of all time..... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif">
what does it matter if he's everything u say he is?
either way, he sounds like a great guy. y dwell on something that in the grand scheme of things means nothing?
I agree with Calvin. What's it matter if he is gay? If he's a good person then that is all that matters.
Also, if he did tell you he was gay, would you keep it to yourself? That sort of subject is sometimes very hard to keep to quiet ... I've seen a friend be betrayed when he told someone about his sexuality in confidence.
Generally, it sounds like he'd make a great friend. Take that step first and everything else might fall into place.
Maybe if I knew he was gay I wouldn't fancy him so much <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
jeash!
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
My problem is that i have low self esteme at the min and even if i see someone i like i won't do anything bout it in case f rejection or something along those line... eh up...new topic alert i think.
sowwy. i was gonna ask if u did fancy him, but i didn't want to make that presumption.
there are a couple of ways to find out then, but both are risky.
1. ask a mate if he is. problem is that the mate may take offense at the question.
2. make friends with him and find out for yourself. this will take sometime. and if it turns out he is gay.. then u might get hurt. he may also not fancy you.
but then again, u might be just what he's looking for. and you can't find love unless u look for it. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
and even if he is gay, he sounds like a good guy to be mates with.
good luck with and i hope it works out.
and apologies again.
1) Dress sense, gay guys have good dress sense, often wearing arm-less tops, combats, you know the type of thing.. sometimes those pants which finish just below the knee... silver jewelery.
2) They sometimes speak in a camp voice, slightly softer
3) Pout their chests foward and sometimes with their arms dragging behind their back
4) Lots of hand movements for describing things
None of the above mean the person is gay but can be a way of getting a better judgement... why not just get to know him better, then it kills two birds with one stone if you like him and he turns out to be bi or straight your luck might be in with a chance... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Without it being a sweeping generalisation of gay traits, Justin is quite accurate. Any self-respecting gay man will dress impeccably, trendily or stylishly; personal hygiene is all important and they are perfectly groomed; they very often are very sensitive and considerate which is why women love a gay man as a friend - a man that understands women!!! He probably won't be mad about sport but he may be into entertainment, movies, etc ... the list could get rather long but if you've ever had a gay friend before, you'll soon pick up the similarities. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
good. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> last thing i wanted to do was upset you wildchild...