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public displays of affection
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does anyone get embarrased by public displays of affection?
how much is too much?
at my college people are really open n stuff, u walk into the common room n there are people gettin off with each other all over the place and sometimes groping each other too.
I get really embarrassed if i know someone is watching me snog someone, especially teachers (!) but they don't seem to care, and neither do the students.
Maybe i am abnormal or else very very paranoid and easily embarrassed.
There's a girl in my mirror
I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did
how much is too much?
at my college people are really open n stuff, u walk into the common room n there are people gettin off with each other all over the place and sometimes groping each other too.
I get really embarrassed if i know someone is watching me snog someone, especially teachers (!) but they don't seem to care, and neither do the students.
Maybe i am abnormal or else very very paranoid and easily embarrassed.
There's a girl in my mirror
I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did
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All that tonsil-licking in public! Think of all the germs spread around everywhere!
I can't say I'm totally shocked that young people behave in this uncouth manner at all - only last week I caught newly married Mrs. Roach from No. 39 in my shed with the milkman!
Dirty get. For such foul manners, I stuck my bottle of semi-skimmed where the monkey keeps his nuts! He'll not be riding his float for another couple of weeks, that's for sure.... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
I'm 73.
[This message has been edited by Irate Albert (edited 30-03-2001).]
I don't understand why ppl play tonsil tennis in public, personally, I think that it's rude because other ppl have to watch, especially when they're all over you.
I think that maybe it's a way of showing that you can score with the opposite sex?
Having said that, when I was going out with someone I felt he wasn't giving me ENOUGH attention in public, so I don't get embarrassed about doing it, just seeing other people at it!
You're not abnormal or a freak - some people just prefer to keep things private, which is totally understandable. Each to their own - don't worry about it. If it weren't for the more restrained among us, people like me would have killed ourselves long ago! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
but then again..it depends how sober i am. and i must admit sometimes i do go a bit far in public, but not when im standing there with my friends or anything. if we've both gone out together, then i have no problem snogging etc in the street.
not verifying "etc" though <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
I think snogging and groping is not really appropriate, (except maybe in secluded areas of the park!!) it's not really ok in front of big groups of people, it's more exhibitionism then, and really horrible if you're on your own, or just split up with someone.
i dont like snogging in front of people i know, but like in clubs everyone does it, i think tis okay there. but not groping etc!! ive snogged in public before and i dont see anything wrong with it, as long as it isnt in front of like a few friends,coz in a club before i was with 2 friends and they were just snogging constantly (one female and one male hehe). and it just makes you feel uncomfortable and like a gooseberry!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif">
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
I think that sort of thing is definitly disgusting. Snogging in the streets should be stopped as well. But NOT other displays of affection, I love hugging my gf in town, and holding her hand, and i think kissing should be ok, just nothing heavier until you are in private.
this sounds slightly arcane and a little victorian or something. how exactly should it "be stopped" ?
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
Sorry, I didnt have time to explain cos I was late for work.
I dont mean stopped, im just against it, snogging if it is a couple is something you should expect them to do in private. I personally dont want to be at work serving someone who starts to snog his gf right in front of me, and it has happened before. It pissed me off immensely. It shouldnt be stopped, i think people should have more consideration for others, that's what I REALLY meant!
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
i don't mind hand holding and the occasional kiss on the cheek. but not tonsil hockey or groping. i see enough of it and i think it's yuck. i don't wanna see tongues going in and out!
i wouldn't mind if he placed his arm round my waist. just i can't walk properly don't think. it's funny.
to me...some serious affections should be done in private, not to let the whole world see it. more or less, i think it's kinda rude. it may make the people that are single a bit queasy i think. but even apart from that, normal people not wanna see a game of tonsil hockey anyway.
children in the front causes accidents...accidents in the back causes children...
But getting a bj in public, that is most definitely disgusting, I'd be way too embarrassed to get that in public (although if I`m in the situation, you never know... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">)
Anyway, slight amendment to my last post.
Anything goes. My hands are all over the place no matter where we are. I`d probly have sex right there and then in the canteen if 1)she was up for it. 2)we wouldn`t get arrested.
"Honesty is just an excuse for lack of imagination."
i was going to let it all flow on past me but you did ask.
umm... because it was posted in march and carried on in april, you added one post on the end in may and by that time people had stopped looking at it. it happens, posts die out, and then they sink down in the topic list and thats that. until someone finds them again <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif">.
get ready:
dude. post. dead.
no offence talyn (inexplicable urge to add "dude"), apart from your inability to read dates <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"> sometimes, you just gotta let the threads go y'know? let them die their death.
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
~ Nietzsche
surely a thread that asks
is a valid quote for "rejuvination" in that it is still relevant to peoples lives in general.
if talyn had started a new thread with the same question and i was irate albert, liberty chickadee, susielovescalvin, babe_behind_the_bar, lolly, whowhere angelfire383 or even yourself, i would probably not want to type in my views again and the thread would then not be so rounded. and if i was drifter i might think to myself "hmph, i already asked that one" and feel ignored
do i have a point?
bb
be happy
and the main reason i commented here, was because he first resurrected the post on 5th may (last post before was 3rd april), and then when no new replies had been added yet again, he didnt take the hint and AGAIN dug it up on 16th june and specifically asked why no one was posting to the thread.
threads dont just stay alive permanently. activity within them peters out and dies, and this is clearly what happened here, none of the posters that were around at the time clearly wanted to comment, other than those who replied. the sensible thing is to let it rest. i wasnt even a life changing revelation he made the second time round. that was the most irritating part, the fact that it was a double whammy so to speak.
can you see my point?
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
~ Nietzsche
<IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> touché <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
bb
be happy
emma said:
"its nice in public to be holding hands or arms round each other or something, hugging etc. it makes you feel wanted and loved and like hes not embarrassed to be with you and to show that to anyone who cares to look."
and i almost cried. This is exactly the kind of thing i've been trying to tell my gf, but she thinks i'm lying. I genuinely think she's embarassed to be with me!
she absolutely refuses to hold my hand anywhere outside of my bedroom door.
and please don't dudepostdead me cos i know, i just didn't think it was worth putting this in a new thread
[This message has been edited by luv-snail (edited 21-06-2001).]
(I won't dude.post.dead because I still feel a newbie! haven't seen you around for a while luv_snail. Anyway, this is a valid question!)
Really? Wow, that's harsh! Try explaining your feelings to your gf really clearly. Tell her it's normal,it shows you're pleased to be with her - if necessary, make her laugh by saying "it's a male thing, shows nobody else can touch you!" (although that could be misinterpreted, it's worth a go!)
good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
This is the first day of the rest of your life.
shudnt worry - she probably just prefers bein alone - i do!!
hope that helps
hic chic
i agree with stallar, you should talk to her, but you should be aware that some people are acutely shy and you should be sympathetic and understanding towards that.
There's a girl in my mirror
I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did
does 15 times a day make u emotional? sorry <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">
Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
Why shouldn't you show you love in public?
And luv-snail, maybe it just because she's embarrassed. Not of you, but generally. give her time, she'll gain confidence.
"He's just a pimp, with a limp and some vaseline""
The only interesting answers are those which destroy the questions.
wish i had someone to hold hands with too <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> last time i was with someone we didnt really get chance to go out together much apart from in the town. and i got the feeling he didnt really like holding my hand and stuff in public either <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> i just want someone to ... well, see above, to save repeating myself <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
~ Nietzsche
I wouldnt really mind letting someone know i love them with the odd gesture, but all tthat absolute ****ing is just not nice