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public displays of affection

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
does anyone get embarrased by public displays of affection?

how much is too much?

at my college people are really open n stuff, u walk into the common room n there are people gettin off with each other all over the place and sometimes groping each other too.

I get really embarrassed if i know someone is watching me snog someone, especially teachers (!) but they don't seem to care, and neither do the students.

Maybe i am abnormal or else very very paranoid and easily embarrassed.


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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think it's flippin' disgusting.

    All that tonsil-licking in public! Think of all the germs spread around everywhere!

    I can't say I'm totally shocked that young people behave in this uncouth manner at all - only last week I caught newly married Mrs. Roach from No. 39 in my shed with the milkman!

    Dirty get. For such foul manners, I stuck my bottle of semi-skimmed where the monkey keeps his nuts! He'll not be riding his float for another couple of weeks, that's for sure.... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif"&gt;

    I'm 73.

    [This message has been edited by Irate Albert (edited 30-03-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    I don't understand why ppl play tonsil tennis in public, personally, I think that it's rude because other ppl have to watch, especially when they're all over you.

    I think that maybe it's a way of showing that you can score with the opposite sex?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This isn't really answering your question (sorry) but I really hate being surrounded by people shoving their tongue down someone else's throat - especially if I'm all on my own and feeling lonely or something. I feel like I dunno where to look and it really embarrasses me to see other people being so obvious.

    Having said that, when I was going out with someone I felt he wasn't giving me ENOUGH attention in public, so I don't get embarrassed about doing it, just seeing other people at it!

    You're not abnormal or a freak - some people just prefer to keep things private, which is totally understandable. Each to their own - don't worry about it. If it weren't for the more restrained among us, people like me would have killed ourselves long ago! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if im going out with someone i have no problems snogging them in the street or anything, but not the ten minute thing with additional groping or anything <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; especially if im with a friend. coz i hate being that friend, i never know where to look!!
    but then again..it depends how sober i am. and i must admit sometimes i do go a bit far in public, but not when im standing there with my friends or anything. if we've both gone out together, then i have no problem snogging etc in the street.
    not verifying "etc" though <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's better not to snog in public, but you should certainly make the effort to show some affection to your boy/girl friend, like hugging them or holding hands, so they don't feel like you're not really committed to them (point in fact my ex who practically avoided me in public)
    I think snogging and groping is not really appropriate, (except maybe in secluded areas of the park!!) it's not really ok in front of big groups of people, it's more exhibitionism then, and really horrible if you're on your own, or just split up with someone.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think its nice for people to be open and stuff but personally I get really pissed off when Im in a club and there r two people snogging and all over each other in the middle of the club. I dont go to a club to be watching that all night and I think it should be kept for when u r alone at home.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    its nice in public to be holding hands or arms round each other or something, hugging etc. it makes you feel wanted and loved and like hes not embarrassed to be with you and to show that to anyone who cares to look.

    i dont like snogging in front of people i know, but like in clubs everyone does it, i think tis okay there. but not groping etc!! ive snogged in public before and i dont see anything wrong with it, as long as it isnt in front of like a few friends,coz in a club before i was with 2 friends and they were just snogging constantly (one female and one male hehe). and it just makes you feel uncomfortable and like a gooseberry!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I was in a club once and there was a lad, trousers round his ankles gettin a blow job off of some slut.
    I think that sort of thing is definitly disgusting. Snogging in the streets should be stopped as well. But NOT other displays of affection, I love hugging my gf in town, and holding her hand, and i think kissing should be ok, just nothing heavier until you are in private.

  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by Whowhere:
    Snogging in the streets should be stopped as well.

    this sounds slightly arcane and a little victorian or something. how exactly should it "be stopped" ?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    this sounds slightly arcane and a little victorian or something. how exactly should it "be stopped" ?


    Sorry, I didnt have time to explain cos I was late for work.
    I dont mean stopped, im just against it, snogging if it is a couple is something you should expect them to do in private. I personally dont want to be at work serving someone who starts to snog his gf right in front of me, and it has happened before. It pissed me off immensely. It shouldnt be stopped, i think people should have more consideration for others, that's what I REALLY meant!
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    ah now well thats slightly different then. fair enough ifs its your opinion, especially now youve re-stated it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; hehe

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i personally am not into PDA. i once dumped a guy who was giving me too much. i didn't like it when i was looking at something, then he would just come up behind me and hug me from behind and bring his face too close to me! URGH!! maybe it was the fact that i didn't like him too much either.

    i don't mind hand holding and the occasional kiss on the cheek. but not tonsil hockey or groping. i see enough of it and i think it's yuck. i don't wanna see tongues going in and out!
    i wouldn't mind if he placed his arm round my waist. just i can't walk properly don't think. it's funny.

    to me...some serious affections should be done in private, not to let the whole world see it. more or less, i think it's kinda rude. it may make the people that are single a bit queasy i think. but even apart from that, normal people not wanna see a game of tonsil hockey anyway.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think everything up to snogging in public is ok (but only when its me) otherwise I don't really know where to look if there's someone else snogging right next to me or something.
    But getting a bj in public, that is most definitely disgusting, I'd be way too embarrassed to get that in public (although if I`m in the situation, you never know... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Gees, why is no one posting to this thread?
    Anyway, slight amendment to my last post.
    Anything goes. My hands are all over the place no matter where we are. I`d probly have sex right there and then in the canteen if 1)she was up for it. 2)we wouldn`t get arrested.


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  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by Talyn:
    Gees, why is no one posting to this thread?

    i was going to let it all flow on past me but you did ask.

    umm... because it was posted in march and carried on in april, you added one post on the end in may and by that time people had stopped looking at it. it happens, posts die out, and then they sink down in the topic list and thats that. until someone finds them again <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif">.

    get ready:

    dude. post. dead.

    no offence talyn (inexplicable urge to add "dude"), apart from your inability to read dates <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; sometimes, you just gotta let the threads go y'know? let them die their death.



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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    please don't be angrry with me girl-from-mars (or anyone else for that matter) but this is exactly what i meant in my post in that discussion about resurecting old threads

    surely a thread that asks

    does anyone get embarrased by public displays of affection?

    is a valid quote for "rejuvination" in that it is still relevant to peoples lives in general.

    if talyn had started a new thread with the same question and i was irate albert, liberty chickadee, susielovescalvin, babe_behind_the_bar, lolly, whowhere angelfire383 or even yourself, i would probably not want to type in my views again and the thread would then not be so rounded. and if i was drifter i might think to myself "hmph, i already asked that one" and feel ignored

    do i have a point?
    bb

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  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    yes you do have a point, i have no problem with the general discussion of the topic or anything. but the fact that talyn had been digging up practically every post he could fiind all night and repeatedly ignoring comments to stop and still doing it (and the fact he did the exact same thing several weeks ago) is INCREDIBLY irritating.

    and the main reason i commented here, was because he first resurrected the post on 5th may (last post before was 3rd april), and then when no new replies had been added yet again, he didnt take the hint and AGAIN dug it up on 16th june and specifically asked why no one was posting to the thread.

    threads dont just stay alive permanently. activity within them peters out and dies, and this is clearly what happened here, none of the posters that were around at the time clearly wanted to comment, other than those who replied. the sensible thing is to let it rest. i wasnt even a life changing revelation he made the second time round. that was the most irritating part, the fact that it was a double whammy so to speak.

    can you see my point?

    "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
    ~ Nietzsche
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:

    can you see my point?


    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; touché <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
    bb



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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think there's a point, because if this post hadn't been rejuvinated, i would not have seen it, and therefore would not be posting this reply

    emma said:
    "its nice in public to be holding hands or arms round each other or something, hugging etc. it makes you feel wanted and loved and like hes not embarrassed to be with you and to show that to anyone who cares to look."

    and i almost cried. This is exactly the kind of thing i've been trying to tell my gf, but she thinks i'm lying. I genuinely think she's embarassed to be with me!

    she absolutely refuses to hold my hand anywhere outside of my bedroom door.

    and please don't dudepostdead me cos i know, i just didn't think it was worth putting this in a new thread

    [This message has been edited by luv-snail (edited 21-06-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by luv-snail:
    she absolutely refuses to hold my hand anywhere outside of my bedroom door.

    (I won't dude.post.dead because I still feel a newbie! haven't seen you around for a while luv_snail. Anyway, this is a valid question!)

    Really? Wow, that's harsh! Try explaining your feelings to your gf really clearly. Tell her it's normal,it shows you're pleased to be with her - if necessary, make her laugh by saying "it's a male thing, shows nobody else can touch you!" (although that could be misinterpreted, it's worth a go!)

    good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    me and my bf r similar! we r so close we're on our own but we hardly go out 2getha or do things wiv m8's etc! we've bin 2getha nearly 3 months and hav bin out in public about 5 times! i dont really mind bcos its still a novetly 4 me etc but it does get a little annoyin but it isnt bcos of him! its both of us we r very different people and hav different circle of friends!!
    shudnt worry - she probably just prefers bein alone - i do!!
    hope that helps
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by luv-snail:
    and i almost cried. This is exactly the kind of thing i've been trying to tell my gf, but she thinks i'm lying. I genuinely think she's embarassed to be with me!

    she absolutely refuses to hold my hand anywhere outside of my bedroom door.

    i agree with stallar, you should talk to her, but you should be aware that some people are acutely shy and you should be sympathetic and understanding towards that.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by luv-snail:
    and i almost cried.

    does 15 times a day make u emotional? sorry <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;



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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think its ok if its discreet (kissing and stuff, i refuse to call it 'snogging' coz its an ugly word!!!) and i think hand holding, hands in each others pockets etc is cumpolsury coz it makes you feel needed.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think it's okay, but if you're hanging out with friends it's not. It makes the other people extremely awkward and uncomfortable.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey as long as you aren't screwing in front of me, I'm happy.

    Why shouldn't you show you love in public?

    And luv-snail, maybe it just because she's embarrassed. Not of you, but generally. give her time, she'll gain confidence.

    "He's just a pimp, with a limp and some vaseline""
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I just wish i had a gf to hold hands with :crying:

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  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    dale maybe show her that post you made, copy it and paste it to her on yahoo perhaps?

    wish i had someone to hold hands with too <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; last time i was with someone we didnt really get chance to go out together much apart from in the town. and i got the feeling he didnt really like holding my hand and stuff in public either <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; i just want someone to ... well, see above, to save repeating myself <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
    ~ Nietzsche
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm not too keen on full - on snogging in front of loadsa people, I don't mind a kiss on the lips and hugging and stuff. I guess we save the rest of the action till later hehe <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No problem with the odd snog or hand holding.
    I wouldnt really mind letting someone know i love them with the odd gesture, but all tthat absolute ****ing is just not nice
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