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I've got some confidence back in myself, which is a good thing. There's this new girl at my work, and she is really, really nice looking and just my cup of tea.
It's a small shop we work in, and i would probably see her at the changeover of shifts for 5, 10 minutes.
The thing is, its my turn to show her round the shop, and show her what to, on wednesday, thursday, friday and saturday, which is gonna be mega kool. coz its like 10 hours me and her, and we r gonna b alone for a while in the shop.
I'm kinda gettin the impression that I should use this time to get to know her better etc, but I dunno I keep feeling the urge to buy a packet of Rolos, eat all but one of them, and stick the last one in her drawer ??
let me know what y'all think
It's a small shop we work in, and i would probably see her at the changeover of shifts for 5, 10 minutes.
The thing is, its my turn to show her round the shop, and show her what to, on wednesday, thursday, friday and saturday, which is gonna be mega kool. coz its like 10 hours me and her, and we r gonna b alone for a while in the shop.
I'm kinda gettin the impression that I should use this time to get to know her better etc, but I dunno I keep feeling the urge to buy a packet of Rolos, eat all but one of them, and stick the last one in her drawer ??
let me know what y'all think
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I'm glad 2 hear ur feelin a bit better <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
No offense, i think the rolo think is kinda cheesy, but i guess it's also romantic. But then she mite look @ it and think ewwww whats this old rolo doing in my drawer lol.
Yeah so just b urself and have fun getting to know her <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Good luck!
There's a girl in my mirror
I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did
IMHO, the best thing to do would be to be kind & be yourself. Don't rush things, just be nice, chat as much as you can & make sure you drop a couple of fairly subtle inuendo's (?sp). Good luck.
j9
just a quick reminder though, dating a co-worker is always dangerous if things don't work out. it won't be very comfortable for either of you.
good luck.
Drifter got it right - she may just think the rolo's a skanky leftover <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
but if she knows it's from you she may think it's sweet!
~*~JiLLiaNNe~*~
If you love something, set it free.
If it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't it never was.
Its hard, she seems really shy, I know I was when I started working there.
But I think she does need time.... i've dropped a few hints, but its the shyness...
The shop wasnt busy at all, she sat there watching TV, and I stood there doing nothin, just whistlin to myself. I did try and talk to her, but all i got was a smile, and a little laugh, when I said somethin that she thought was funny.
Shyness or dis-interest......i hope its the former lol
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
But then again maybe he is right, you seem to be doing the right thing Confused by just chatting and getting to know her. It could be that she's just giving out "I'm not interested" signals at you .... on the other hand you could be right and she's just shy.
Don't worry too much about getting her to go out with you, I've found that the more you worry about it the less likely it is that it's going to work! Not quite sure why, I think it's something to do with the way you act subconsciously or the signals you give off.
I can't really make up my mind about this! I guess if you want to know for sure you should just go up and ask her out - maybe in a more subtle way like "If I asked you out, what would you say?" - then if she says no you can pass it off as a hypothetical question and then it's less embarrassing. I've tried both ways, been rejected both times, and the second one definitely hurts less!
Anyway you're probably even more confused after all this conflicting advice, I think you just have to take the bits that feel right, and if it doesn't work out treat it as a learning experience.
I am sooooo unbeleivably thick when it comes to women, my head is in cloud-cuckoo land all the time.
She is really pretty, I'm plain. I s'pose I've been watchin to many films, when the geek ends up with the gorgeous girl/boy.
Still, freindship is a wonderful thing.
Absolutely true. Love at first sight is rare, if possible at all, but as she gets to know you she might think ur a really sweet guys.
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
we have got on really well together, she has obviously taken a shine to me (why i dunno lol), she sends me these cute text messages and things, the last one was about do u wanna b more than freinds, which is kinda a good sign i think.
I honestly cannot beleive the change in my luck, one day im like what an ugly bastard i am, the next its like this gorgeous girl i like, likes me too.
to ne one who has huge confidence problems, my advice would be to pretened and act like you do have confidence. it worked for me ne way.
thanx 4 ure advice/support every1.
"Don't pork the payroll"
Dipping your pen in the company ink often leads to all sorts of strife.
confidence is like a false accent: if u pretend to have it for long enough, it eventually becomes the norm>
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
sounds good to me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
j9
There's a girl in my mirror
I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did
agree with you shell head, although i wouldn't call it "pretending", exactly.
perception is the most powerful thing in the world. this is why television, print, music, movies and the internet have such power over people because they work to influence people's perceptions of the world.
the question for individuals is always what u choose to perceive and what you want to provide as a perception for others. if you project an air of confidence, some people will buy into it, and begin treating you differently. and once u notice that, the perception has become ur reality. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
so drifter like you said -- u might try providing people with a perception of confidence, and it just might become a self fulfilling prophecy for you.
gives new meaning to the phrase "don't worry be happy" doesn't it? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Am I the only one that disagrees? I've been pretending to have confidence for years (literally)and anyone who's spoken to me will know that I'm still having trouble with it.
It's so fantastic when you actually get what you want, I remember only a few months back, when the guy I'd been infatuated with for near 2 years asked me if we could get together (turned out he was a total bastard but never mind that is another story)
so yes I'm made up 4 u!!
i still have the same anxieties in my new relationship (am i talking to her too much/not enough ??, whats she sayin about me behind my back ??)
Really paranoid I know, but I just dont feel I can relax. This new girl is like a stunner, and this whole thing seems far too good to be true.
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
good luck
Mind you, the day after i left it, the boss cleaned out all the drawers in the shop, so its a bloody good job she found it when she did....