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Today me and my mate where going to go out, when her accelerator cable snapped on her car.
So here we are now staying in posting this topic.
My Mate text her boyf to say what had happened, he said "oh didn't u get that fixed once before" and that was that. He didn't ask if she was stranded in the middle of no where, of if she was ok, nothing.
This is like the icing on the cake, he always seems to put the pub/football before anything. Yet he insists he loves her, but has a funny way of showing it sometimes. What shoudl she do....Her names Charlotte by the way and she says hi.
So here we are now staying in posting this topic.
My Mate text her boyf to say what had happened, he said "oh didn't u get that fixed once before" and that was that. He didn't ask if she was stranded in the middle of no where, of if she was ok, nothing.
This is like the icing on the cake, he always seems to put the pub/football before anything. Yet he insists he loves her, but has a funny way of showing it sometimes. What shoudl she do....Her names Charlotte by the way and she says hi.
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Yet you insist you need attention 24/7 when u've got a guy.
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
It would just be nice to see that your guy is bothered about you now and then. Like tonite, he knew where we were going and it involves driving down a county lane with no lights, he never bothered asking if we or she was stranded in the middle of no where in the snow. As it happens it happened outside my house!! BUT he still doesn't know this as he never asked. But she doesn't want to see him 24/7.
And mandi i think u should get ur mate 2 talk 2 her bf & tell him how she feels!
Its hard to explain, but sometimes males are a bit dozy like that. He probably was worried about you, and he did wanna know what was goin on, but he just didnt communicate that to you....
I'm not like that because I would always put my girl first before anything else, except exams or somethin. And I dont mind cryin infort of a girl or whatever. Thats maybe why I get a lot of stick for bein a "ponce" or a "soft lad". Maybe this guy didnt want to act concerned, maybe an ego thing ??
OR...
I think this guy might be taking her for granted a bit. Maybe she should tell him what she feels, and take it from there, or maybe issue the ultimatum.
i love it when lads go all soppy on u! it just shows they have feelings and stuff. i agree wit every1 here, i think charlotte should just tell her bf that it upsets her that he puts footie and stuff b4 her.
thank fully jamie dont put things b4 me, but sometimes it would be nice if hejust opened up 2 me a bit more and payed a little more attention 2 me!
Then when she does say do u wanna go cinema or something he's like....oh i'll see what my mate is doing first then let u know. So then she says don't bother.
He has spoken to other friends of ours who have said he'll lose her if he doesn't change, then he'll be ok for a while then go back to his usual self again.
He also has a Girl friend (not relationship just mates) who fancies him like mad, and who hates charlotte. He doesn't tell her when he's seeing her, she finds out from someone else. She tells him she don't like it, or at least to tell her before hand what he's doing or it seems he has something to hide, but he still does nowt about it.
Deep down i think she should call it a day, as her ex didn't want to see her much either, but that went on for 4 years and i don't want to see her get hurt again. I just havn't got the heart to tell her.
Trouble is, she probably wont thank you for telling her <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
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I know he likes her alot (don't want to use the word love) but just has a funny way of showing it. I want to tell her straight that he's not worth it, but i know she'll hate me (for a little while at least, until she comes back saying u were right!)