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Are all blokes (and women) the same?
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You know when your bored and you think about your ex's and stuff and all the bad stuff, well i did just that. Just before we split, he hit onto my best mate. I admit things where not going well, and he knew it was only a metter of time before i left, but my best mate for gods sake. I didn't think he would stoop that low. Anyway. I went out last nite and saw someone getting off with a girl, who i know is in a relationship. Not a close friend of mine so i won't tell, i don't want to get involved. Then as u all know by now i'm having doubts with my current boyf and his ex, all i have is his word, but when he's away he could tell me anything! And when i look around me and see what guys/gals who i know, are or have been up to, i started to wonder are they all the same.
This also goes for women too. My mate is always going on that her bloke always has lasses around him, and he sees Girl-Friends just for a social drink or whatever and she gets really upset. Then last night, she was big time flirting, in a way that if the tables where turned she would go balistic, and although i know it didn;t mean anything, she ended up getting off with this bloke.
Can we trust anyone?
This also goes for women too. My mate is always going on that her bloke always has lasses around him, and he sees Girl-Friends just for a social drink or whatever and she gets really upset. Then last night, she was big time flirting, in a way that if the tables where turned she would go balistic, and although i know it didn;t mean anything, she ended up getting off with this bloke.
Can we trust anyone?
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Trust no-one and you won't get hurt is my motto.
Not exactly a good way to live your life though.
There's a girl in my mirror
I wonder who she is
Sometimes I think I know her
Sometimes I really wish I did
But a safe way.
Sorry 2 sound so mean but it is my opinion
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Gee thanks. That's really made my day. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
Yep. I can trust the same person again, if they prove themselves to me. I KNOW that people (espeically around our age) change quickly and often. If they break ur trust, it can often just be a lapse in concentration, something innocent etc.
And all the grown-ups say is sorry, cos we got no reply.
it really gets me down.
<IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> sorry im just moping now........
I guess I'd be pretty offended if some1 told me that they didn't trust me, but I guess I can't say that I trust any1 apart from my councillor and my mum.
Although I've never been in a sexual relationship, I have been betrayed by some of my friends and now I don't trust any1.
I try to keep going on my own. I sort out my own problems, I keep myself to myself and I only confide in people who I trust in the situation.
I guess I'm missing out on the best things in life by pushing ppl away. I doubt I'll ever be in a trusting relationship & after I leave college I will probably be alone (I'll probably die alone).
I guess that trusting ppl is dangerous, but not all ppl are bad. I know that there are nasty ppl in the world and others who will try to hurt you, it's really up to you if you want to risk it.
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Good luck :-)
you just have to learn to trust people little by little, there ARE some good people out there, you just have to find them. i guess one person isnt gonna be 100% trustworthy all the time, there might be times where they accidentally let slip things you didnt want them to, these thigns do happen.. or if theyre worried about you they might talk about it with someone THEY trust.
i dont have that many people i can trust.. i have friends on the internet who i trust, even though most of them dont know each other or my friends, i can still trust them with anything and know they wont tell anyone if i ask them not to. all relationships, friends as well as romantic ones are about taking risks, you have to give a little bit of yourself in order that they'll give something back.
anyway im goig a bit off topic i think..
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
I had an affair and when my ex-husband was happy to take me back, I said no. I knew that he could never trust me again & after I had done that to him, I wouldn't be able to trust him (good for the goose 'n'all that).
However, with my current husband (god, sounds like there are going to be more lol) I know I will never cheat on him, nor him on me. Maybe it's something to do with how I trust him.
Life would be miserable if you could never trust anyone, less potentially painful, but you would miss out on so much (IMHO)
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i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made us to match the men.
saying that, it took my ex ages to gain my trust, then he destroyed it all on Wednesday when he dumped me by email, telling me he hadn't wanted to be with me for the last three weeks! I couldn't tell he was lying to me, in fact I've come to the point I feel like he only stopped with me till I'd gone to bed with him.
Right now I'm thinking there is no Mr. Right out there, only Mr Will_Do_For_Now
and right now I'm not prepared to settle for second best, so I'm thinking I will be alone for a long time..
It's been said that if you don't trust anyone then you're not gonna be hurt, but that's wrong! I mean, I've been hurt by people I didn't trust too.
We are all in the gutter.
The difference between us is that some of us face skyward..
and right now I'm not prepared to settle for second best, so I'm thinking I will be alone for a long time..
Yes RIGHT NOW you do feel like this, but it does get easier, if he can't even tell you to your face that its over, he really aint worth the hassle, and hasn't got the guts to confront you.
Why are blokes like that. When i was younger i was seeing this lad, and he finished with me on the phone and i never saw him again. I wasn't too gutted. Then after him i saw this other lad (god i sound like a slapper) he came out with the old line "i think of you more as a sister than a girlfriend" like that was supposed to make me feel better. Why can't they just give us a good and realistic reason for ending it and be upfront about it all instead of making silly excuses or not having the balls to at least tell u to your face.
It is hard to trust again, but as has been said before, instinct will tell you when Mr Right comes along, and whether u can trust him or not.