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Bit lonely...

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ok, I am a normal bloke, went to uni, graduated got a good job. Work hard, doing well at work. Got a nice girlfriend who I like alot.
Life is not what it should be though. I am missing something. I think I need more friends. the whole transition from uni to work means I have lost touch with alot of people. I'm not interested in the same things anymore. Basically i'm not really interested in going out and getting drunk anymore. It is just not where I am right now and this has meant..well sometimes I am a bit of a Billy Nomates.
The questions. What kind of things should I do to improve friendships, make new ones? Where do you go about making new friends? is there a social life without alcohol?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yes of course there is a social life without alcohol, y dont u try going to the gym, take up a new hobby, play football/rugby theres loadsa stuff. dont u and gf go out much as a couple???

    dont worry im sure ur not billy nomates!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yo!
    I know what you mean about not finding new friends.
    There is not really any particular place to find friends, they just sort of. . . come along when you don't expect it.

    I am in a simlar(ish) situation. Like I have ace friends, but I have non that understand me, and those that do, well we find it hard to speak.


    I think to make friends, just be confident, outgoing, make people be attracted to you (in a friend way). Like be outgoing, stand out and DON'T be shy! If you are shy/quiet you can't expect people to want to be your friend.

    Sorry dude, I have to go now. (the rents are nagging at me)
    Please Email me back and let me know how you are.
    I am Graham, I'm 16 and from Wrexham.
    Take care, see you soon.
    Graham.

    P.s what is your Email address? Mine is the_best_thing_@hotmail.com (yours didn't work)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    there is loadsa stuff u can do, take up a hobby to meet people, i think that is the best way. cant u go out with ppl from ur work?

    everyone getslonely, so try not to worry about it. i bet if u asked everyone on here, loads wud say they r lonely.

    there is social life without alcohol (or so i have been told) but i myself am yet to discover it. if ur a confident person then u wont need alcohol. however im not.

    So good luck with ur new hobby <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

    ~*~Emma~*~

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmmm, well yeah. I have friends at work. A really great bunch. I could do more stiff with them this is true.
    I go to the gym, but quite frankly I can't really see how that is part of a social life. Unless you already know someone who goes there. When I was at uni I used to go to the uni gym and would bump into quite a few people there. Now I have a job I have joined a fancy, expensive health club. I really love it. It is so refreshing to have equipment that works, a nice cafe area, pool, sauna,etc. It is not really somewhere to go to make friends though. I mean what do you say "Hi, having a nice workout?". Get what I mean?
    I get on really well with my girlfriend, soulmates, etc. We have a good social life together, but I want more than that. For one thing I don't want my socail life to revolve around this couple thing. I have had that in the past, to the point where if I went out without my ex it would always suprise people. I realised that this is just not what I wanted and that is a big reason why that relationship broke up. I don't want to fall into that again. As far as girlfriends and social lives go I think you should have someone who should be able to fit into everything you do, but does not have to, and often doesn't.
    Ok, I am really going on. I mean the subject of my post says it all I am not depressed or lonely I am...well just a bit lonely. I have a good life, it is just the student life to work life transition is not going too great in some ways.
    This might sound a bit sad but I was reading an article about Christaina sthe other day and they sounded kinda cool. I mean to be quite honest I am agnostic but I would like taht kinda community feel. Where life does not revolve around going out and getting really drunk. The problem is most of my close friendships to revolve around going out and geting drunk...and this is just not a place I want to be really...any more. been there done that, ahd some great times, had some bad times, feel that I have grown up by myself, been forced to mature by changing circumstances and want to move on...

    Erm, not sure any of that made sense but there ya go.

    NoisyDonjon@hotmail.com
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by SpikeIsland:
    This might sound a bit sad but I was reading an article about Christaina sthe other day and they sounded kinda cool. I mean to be quite honest I am agnostic but I would like taht kinda community feel. Where life does not revolve around going out and getting really drunk. The problem is most of my close friendships to revolve around going out and geting drunk...and this is just not a place I want to be really...any more.

    Sounds like you have grown out of goin out and gettin pissed all the time, your friends mite eventually grow out of it too. But in the mean while, if you like working out and doin sport then why don't you take up a team sport like football or something? i used to be in a team, and we were all so close it was great, definitely a good way to meet people and be friends.

    And whats this religious thing ur going on about? i think if its what you wanna do then go for it, but some of these things can really brainwash people. I also think you should only go with it if you share the beliefs, not just to meet people.

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
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