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Basically, this has happened to me a couple of times, a bit worried it might happen again, wondered what other people thought about it.
Like, if you're in a relatively new relationship, and someone else comes on the scene, with so much more confidence than you, so much more to say for themslevs than you, they just seem like a better catch than you. And they've got one thing on their mind, and it's to get with your boyfriend/girlfriend.
You don't like them, and they don't like you. It's all very well saying "if he/she really likes you, then they won't leave you", because we all know how feelings just take over sometimes
What the fuck do you do in that kinda situation?
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Like, if you're in a relatively new relationship, and someone else comes on the scene, with so much more confidence than you, so much more to say for themslevs than you, they just seem like a better catch than you. And they've got one thing on their mind, and it's to get with your boyfriend/girlfriend.
You don't like them, and they don't like you. It's all very well saying "if he/she really likes you, then they won't leave you", because we all know how feelings just take over sometimes
What the fuck do you do in that kinda situation?
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The last time that happened to me it was some 15yr old sexbomb who really wanted to be with my bloke. I was pretty laid back about it and in the end it nature took it's course and me and my bloke fizzled out.
I know how frustrating it is though but at the end of the day your partner is with you for a reason. Because they like you and not someone else. If they're going to go off with the other person then they're obviously not for you and you're better off without them.
single but not available. it sucks.
Gutted.
One time he was supposed to come to my house but his rehearsal majorly ran over, so I texted him to ask what was going on and I got a reply from his phone saying 'Hi honey it's [flirty bitch] here, he's busy at the moment but don't be angry with him, he'll be there as soon as he can.' I was FUMING after that, especially when my boyfriend told me he hadn't actually been told he had a text at all - she'd just read it and replied to it without telling him.
I ended up speaking to him about it and he reassured me that he didn't like her and only had eyes for me, and that he knew she was flirting with him but that he found it annoying and unattractive. It doesn't matter now anyway because we're all at different unis but yeah, I didn't like the person I became when I was so jealous. I got so paranoid and edgy about it. I guess the best thing to do, if it's possible, is try to talk to your boyfriend or girlfriend about it but not to the extent where you make yourself seem like a bunny boiler. At the end of the day you have to trust them enough I guess.
But yeah if it's really that bad then you might feel better if you took action like that.
Aint no punk gonna steal my bitch
Tbh, I couldn't really ever see myself doing that. Not because I don't want to, but like I say, these blokes always seem to be the type that walk all over the likes of me, and if I started saying "Keep well away" or whatever, it'd likely not work at all.
Anyhow, it's just an idle thought at the mo, not got any specific worries on that score at the mo. I was talking away to her the other night, and it was all so open and all that, which is fanatastic. Suppose it's a matter of actually getting to know and go out with her mates aswell, that's where things fucked up before. Was basically a wanky situation, these things do play on my mind sometimes. But like I say, she's very open and mature about talking about emotional shit, so it's all quite cool.
Every relationship is a learning experience for people anyway, so if shit like that comes up again, I'll maybe be OK dealing with it.
Dont you love it when a plan comes together?
*titters*
i love those adverts
those smirnoff ice 'as clear as your concience' was better though, specially when that guy shagged his mates mum
Couldnt belive the cheek of him though when he knew i was there wish i said more to be honist but just didnt quite know how to react, He kept txting her after that so she told him just to take a jump.
Am afraid there is no easy way to get rid of people like this you just gotta trust the person you are with, its the only way im affraid with out driving yourself crazy.