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Dont know what to do about him.
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I have a friend, who lies, a lot. I used to think the world of him and couldnt understand why our friends were always slagging him off, moaning about him, calling him a mug and never believing him. Until i found out that he lies all the time. Its wrecking our friendship.
He used to involve me in some lies, and if people dont believe him he gets VERY angry at them for disbeving him calling them bad friends and he gets soooooooooo mad at them and tells me how upset he is at them-even though he admits its bull!
Now, im getting concerned, he told my fella he has lung cancer and had to go to docs on wednesday. He then came out on the wednesday when he was reminded about how he had to go 'doctors' he said he couldnt be bothered... hes acting perfectly normal and he came out with that comment months ago.
He's been lying about having a job for 3 months now. He lies about why he doenst want to come out, he lies about where he is, who hes with, what hees been up to, what he has to do, how he feels... we always find some bit of evidence to prove his lies-hes terrible at backing himself up!
How can he lie about everything?
Its wrecking our relationship hes losing all his friends, and hes going to lose me i dont know what to do about it. if i tell him to stop lying he'll only get angry at me!
TBh i think i know why he lies - hes scared thats all. I dont know how to help him.
He used to involve me in some lies, and if people dont believe him he gets VERY angry at them for disbeving him calling them bad friends and he gets soooooooooo mad at them and tells me how upset he is at them-even though he admits its bull!
Now, im getting concerned, he told my fella he has lung cancer and had to go to docs on wednesday. He then came out on the wednesday when he was reminded about how he had to go 'doctors' he said he couldnt be bothered... hes acting perfectly normal and he came out with that comment months ago.
He's been lying about having a job for 3 months now. He lies about why he doenst want to come out, he lies about where he is, who hes with, what hees been up to, what he has to do, how he feels... we always find some bit of evidence to prove his lies-hes terrible at backing himself up!
How can he lie about everything?
Its wrecking our relationship hes losing all his friends, and hes going to lose me i dont know what to do about it. if i tell him to stop lying he'll only get angry at me!
TBh i think i know why he lies - hes scared thats all. I dont know how to help him.
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If you type ` compulsive lying` into google, it comes up with loads of links which might be of help.
I was thinking about looking up comulsive lying but didnt want to label him as that, but maybe i should start looking into whether he does have a problem.
Random question - Holloway, is that where Royal holloway uni is? IOf so - whats it like to live in holloway?
random answer I dont really live in Holloway, Its meant as a joke, the infamous holloway womens prison. Never mind. Noone ever gets my sense of humour.
if hes a good friend it'll do the trick, if not then you know he's not a good friend.
My Dad also used to know someone who spouted all sorts of things, such as playing polo with Prince Charles, etc. My Dad thought it highly unlikely.
Both my ex, and my Dad, talked about the people they knew in the same way.
Mr_Wobble
Lol ooh theres a place called Holloway wanted to know a bit about it for various reasons!
I guess ill have to confront him Hes not doing himself any favours what so ever, and knowing the stubbon bloke that he is, full of pride etc he wont take it well, really dont want to have to talk about it to him. Think ill have to
Thanks everyone..xx