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HELP: GF's Pain after sex
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Okay, me and my girlfriend have had sex quite alot in the past week, its all been fine (well, its hurt her a little, but thats because we've both not done it alot)
However, the other day, we had a rest from sex, and i just fingered her, (perhaps slightly rougher than usual)
The next day, whenever she went to the toilet, she got a really bad pain in her lady bits, however, later that day, well night, it went away.
The next day, we had sex, and she compained of pains in her stomach (she had experianced this before when we had sex, so we just took things a little slower but carried on)
However, today shes complainin that she cant pee again, and she was bleedin very slightly
She has an appointment at her doctors, HOWEVER her mother is going with her, who doesn't know that we are active (sexually) - we are both 14
What is the doctor likely to do, as we are both worried about her mum finding out.
I thought he would just take a urine sample and test for a kidney infection or something? its just i know if he looks down there, he'll know shes not a virgin, and perhaps suggest that she just irritated something down there when having sex, only saying this with her mum in the room will get her killed, (perhaps literally!), she definantly wouldn't be allowed out that house,
Her mum is a complete control freak, and has been giving my GF a hard time all week for no reason, im sure shes going through the menopause or somtehing, my gf cant say anything without being accused of having a attitude problem - anyway thats beside the point
Could anybody please help as to what the doctors likily to do, and allowed to say while her mother is in the room?
However, the other day, we had a rest from sex, and i just fingered her, (perhaps slightly rougher than usual)
The next day, whenever she went to the toilet, she got a really bad pain in her lady bits, however, later that day, well night, it went away.
The next day, we had sex, and she compained of pains in her stomach (she had experianced this before when we had sex, so we just took things a little slower but carried on)
However, today shes complainin that she cant pee again, and she was bleedin very slightly
She has an appointment at her doctors, HOWEVER her mother is going with her, who doesn't know that we are active (sexually) - we are both 14
What is the doctor likely to do, as we are both worried about her mum finding out.
I thought he would just take a urine sample and test for a kidney infection or something? its just i know if he looks down there, he'll know shes not a virgin, and perhaps suggest that she just irritated something down there when having sex, only saying this with her mum in the room will get her killed, (perhaps literally!), she definantly wouldn't be allowed out that house,
Her mum is a complete control freak, and has been giving my GF a hard time all week for no reason, im sure shes going through the menopause or somtehing, my gf cant say anything without being accused of having a attitude problem - anyway thats beside the point
Could anybody please help as to what the doctors likily to do, and allowed to say while her mother is in the room?
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If she can't get away with that, and her mother is there, and she doesn't want to (understandably) say what may have caused the problem, then she can only hope the doctor can tell she doesn't want her mother to know, and is discreet enough about it.
As an alternative to admitting she's had sex, maybe she could say she was masturbating. Still embarassing, but less problematical than saying she's had sex and been fingered.
Mr_Wobble
Come on your still children, thats a bit young for that, you could of waited at least another year...
The doctor will most likey say youve irritated something, best thing is to ask your gf to tell her mum to wait outside...
Surely you dont want to see your kids bits??!?!?!
NHS Direct
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Telephone: 0845 46 47
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Alternatively, she could call a specialist helpline or arrange an appointment at one of their clinics:
Brook Advisory Centres
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Telephone: 0800 0185023
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Helpline: 0845 3101334
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You can also get lots of good advice about contraception and STIs at either of the above clinics. If you are having sex regularly it is importnat to have a reliable form of contraception, as well as protecting against STIs wby using condoms.
If her mum is in the room and the doctor asks though her mum is going to find out so the only solution if she really wants to keep it secret is to go alone or get her mum to wait outside.
Keep us updated, and ummm try and be a bit gentler on ur gf, sex shud'n't be so painful and rough that u make her bleed!
Aleox
i dont know what the medical definition of it is, but lots of sex, or any activity, especially the rough kind can cause pains and bleeding especially if she hasnt done it much and you've been at it a lot recently.......one of my girlfriends bled a little after sex a few times when we first started sleeping together and had some stomach pains too (she had only had sex once before me).....another it hurt when she pee'd and had tummy pains...(only one previous partner)......apparently its quite a regular problem.
hope that rambling ramble was of a little help.
Peace Out