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Who can you REALLY trust ?....

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Just reading the various threads and together with my own experiences, it's dawned on me just how hard it is to find someone totally trustworthy. Not just in a relationship, but friendship wise too.

My ex-best mate (of 10yrs) went with my ex girlfriend (thats why they're both ex's) when we were in a rocky patch.

The bastard knew EVERYTHING about me (being my best m8) and no doubt used this to his advantage <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">. Thinking about it, the only person i 100% trust is my mum (awww <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; lol), really!

Not my g/friend, not my best m8, not my brother etc. Sad really isnt it?

Also, be careful. Those who you may trust completely are potentially the most harmful to you as they know you better than anyone else.

I suppose I'm waffling now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">! Just be careful and selective in life as I've found that good people are few and far between.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    same happened to me mate. Don't trust anybody. I really wanted to post this because it is the 4000th post on relationships. YES.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well i gotta say i don't trust any1 (not even my mum!) i mean god a while back my mum thought i was on drugs cos my behavior had changed! only it was down 2 hormones! and cos she thought i was on drugs she read this book whichshe new was private and found out i was having sex with my bf.

    i dont trust my bf well.......cos i just dont! infact i dont even trust myself!!
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    trust is such a funny thing. with the girl id consider to be my best friend in school, sometimes we have long girly chats and i feel i can tell her anything and she promises not to say a word, and most of the time she doesnt. and then something happens which makes you rethink the entire person. like letting someone read text messages you thought were only for their eyes. and that person then telling another, then annoucning it on a bus. and then the whole school going. hmmm not pleasant, why cant people just keep private things to themselves? i suppose the answer is not to tell anyone anything, but if you did that youd probably explode.

    i trust my mum, although i wouldnt tell her every detail about my life, like relationships and stuff, she can be a good judge of character but she tends to base her assessments on what i tell her, and i d ont always tell her the good stuff and it tends to be moaning when i do say stuff to her. and then she gets the wrong idea about everyone and thinks they're all bad which isnt always the case. but i trust her and know she wouldnt tell anyone if i told her somethig in confidence, and she trusts me in teh same way.

    i dont have that many people i can trust. my best friend on the internet who ive known for years, i can trust him completely. and ive not even met him. i know its easy to say, ah but he doesnt know anyone in your school to tell them stuff, well he still knows people that i do on the internet and even if he did know all my friends, he wouldnt say anything i told him in confidence.

    and theres a couple of ppl up north somewhere in the same city that id trust too <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; and if i didnt id hardly say so here would i! lol.. but they both know i trust them or i wouldnt have shared stuff with them if i didnt.

    i get the feeling im off into a bit of a waffley long post here... but sid youre right in saying that the ones you trust the most can hurt you if they turn against you, as they know you best and probably know loads of stuff about you youd rather the world didnt know! i guess its just a gamble really, if you dont take risks and give a little yourself you cant expect to receive anything in return.

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't trust any of my family, I trust only three of my friends(and only two I can ANYTHING to).

    I think I trust my dog the most. Does that count?

    Cos i'm thinking about a brand new hope, one i've never known, and where it goes, cos now I know it's all that wanted.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I agree wit u all, i don't trust no1!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    everyone who i have ever trusted has only ever screwed me up, so i tend to be really cautious about who i trust. There is one friend that i trust, not because we are friends (even tho we are) it's just the way she has been brought up - she has a lot of morals.

    I don't trust myself either. In anything, especially school stuff.

    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
    No, I won't shed a tear
    Just as long as you stand
    Stand by me
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i dont trust n e 1, not even my parents, esp not my dad.
    i takes along time 4 me 2 built up trust, and just as i do the person spoils it.
    i find it espically hard 2 trust blokes, i doubt everything but people just say have confidence in urself and i cant.
    if people went so 2faced then i would b easier.
    but i do hate not being able 2 trust cause lads just cant understand it, and its mens fault i dont trust in the 1st place. sorry blokes.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The only people I trust completely is my mum and my cousin Rebecca who's one of my best friends.

    I trust my mum because I know she's always there for me and I can tell her anything and she wont tell anyone and she'l help me.

    I trust Rebecca because I've known her ever since I was born. Shes the sweetest person on this earth I think, just so nice, and I know I can tell her anything and she won't judge me or tell anyone ever.

    I think I trust other people as well, but not 100%.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    "it takes years to build up trust and only suspision, not proof, to destroy it."

    A quote from a fwd i got today <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    If the sky that we look upon
    should tumble and fall
    or the mountains should crumble in the sea
    I won't cry, I won't cry,
    No, I won't shed a tear
    Just as long as you stand
    Stand by me
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just your MUM!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

    I'm an entre preneur in life & I only trust my mum & myself. Basically, I only trust ppl to a certain extent and hardly ever enough for a close relationship (which is why I've never been with a lad).
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i agree with most of u, i cant trust ne1, and just when i do get really close 2 some1 and i am learning 2 trust them they go and spoil it.

    ten im back 2 square 1. i often ask myself why i dont trust people (mainly all men) and i think it all goes back 2 one lad called mark, it started when i was about 13, i used 2 get off with hima and stuf, but then it started 2 go further, he was always asking me 2 have sex with him but i kept saying no. i really liked him, well id say i was infatuated.

    being only 14 i was a virgin and he would only ring in the hols. i used 2 think 2 myselfthat maybe if i did sleep with him he like me. god looking back i dont know how i could have been so thick. but i was young and vunerable.

    in the end he got his way i did shag him, oh my go dit was soooooooooo awful. it really really really really hurt but even when i told him he dint really take much notice. it was'nt proper sex cos i threw him out the door as quick as i could! serves the bastard right!

    but i did it again (still not prop) and again, 3 frigging times in all. i felt really used and cheap, he took away something that i could never get back.

    if there is 1 thing i wish i could do it would be to turn the clocks back and i would have made him strip and took photos of him in the buff and stuck them up all around hull!

    i think that it is from then on that i have not been able 2 trust men, alsoi ahve a crap judje of character and always pick the bad ones (apart from my current bf who is an angel sent from heaven ! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">)

    it just goes to show that happiness can be found no matter what shit you have 2 go through 2 find it.

    but even now i still couldnt say i trust him 100%

    but i think slowly but surly i will get there, oh i think it was helly who said that blokes dont understand that some girls cant trust, they do jamie is a classic examlpe of this. i agree some lads dont but the decent ones do.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dont trust anybody, which is pretty unfortunate but the safest way to be in my oppinion. Actually, I do trust my dog and Liam...urrr maybe not coz I dont trust that my dog wont run off in the park when he meets another dog and I dont trust that Liam wont keep me up all nite....so there u go, I dont trust nobody lmao!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    no one
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    not ne more <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    IMVHO You have to trust yourself before can trust anyone else.

    Luk

    I think it's because I'm clumsy
    I try not to talk to loud
    I think it's because I'm crazy
    I try not to act to proud
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My mom is probably one of the ppl I trust the least!! Just recently she read my diary and called me a slut (which i most certainly am not!) she has gone through my bags and read notes from my friends, sometimes i hate her. but she's my mom so really i don't hate her she just makes me so mad! I trust dad more than mom and my sister is just like mom i don't trust her. the person i trust most at the moment is dylan. we're dating but we're also really good friends. but, still i don't COMPLETELY trust anyone.

    ~*~JiLLiaNNe~*~
    If you love something, set it free.
    If it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't it never was.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by wHiPCReaMKiSSeS:
    My mom is probably one of the ppl I trust the least!! Just recently she read my diary and called me a slut (which i most certainly am not!) she has gone through my bags and read notes from my friends, sometimes i hate her. but she's my mom so really i don't hate her she just makes me so mad! I trust dad more than mom and my sister is just like mom i don't trust her. the person i trust most at the moment is dylan. we're dating but we're also really good friends. but, still i don't COMPLETELY trust anyone.


    My Dad did the same as your mum has done, & they stopped me from going out from the guy I wrote about.

    It destroyed the relationship i had with my dad & he never gave me my diary back either.

    When will parents start to realise the damage they can cause by this invasion of privacy.

    It was a long time ago & I have never forgiven my dad.

    j9

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You really can't trust anybody - seriously, don't! My bf just dumped me right before my bday when everything was going great. Then i found out he had been seeing someone else while he was with me......BASTARD! No one deserves to be treated like that, especially not by someone u trust. Moral of the story: you can only trust yourself, at the end of the day everyone's out for themselves.
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