Is my life a lie?

Former Member

I want to know if there`s someone who could help me....
I´m 21 y/old and, since i remember, i´ve been lying abou most of things in my life, even when it`s not necessary.However, most of them are simply meaningless lies, eadible make-ups. Exagerations, show off.
In fact, i`m in a certain point of my life, when i cannot distinguish what´s a lie or not...
I´m openly gay to my family, have a long term relatioship with a older guy (whose self-esteem is lower than mine), but i don´t believe that i´m even openly gay to myself...because, again, my life seems to be a lie.
I do understand and believe it has to do with self-esteem, but how can u get to somewhere you have never been to?
I would appreciate any help.
Thanks.

Former Member

hey,
dont be too hard on yourself, i think everyone tells little lies sometimes...im sure they are harmless little porkies, little exadurations make you feel better true...but big exadurations can, as you say, confuse you.

what is it that you are afraid of telling people? why do you fell you need to lie about yourself??? answer these questions and try and find the source of this problem.

i have very low self esteem also-my self confidence is non-existant...i am only 15 im just sarting my life...so are you....plenty of time to work on your self esteem...i hope that helped! luv p!nk xXxXxXx

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Former Member

im gonna be blunt here, but i dont mean it nastily. you are a complulsive liar, and thats not an insult....you have a problem, try getting some counselling as the reason u lie is probably becoz of a deeper problem...i have had counselling in the past....even tho i was only 13 i had to have it coz i was afraid to go outside alone(fear of being kidnapped opr something-i cant quite explain) the counsellors can be patronising and make u feel like a kid, but thats good coz then u lose all your inhibitions, if this is a big problem, plz try counselling <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

Former Member

It has to do with how much i believe my lies...
Sometimes i just make up things to impress people... (I already know it has to do with atention and also for not beliving properly in my potential), however, after a short term satisfaction, there are times when i can become really sad because of this... and also because there´s nobody who could really help me besides me...On the other hand, i have to admit that, (even if i have 1000 friends and people around me) i have to solve this myself.
Is there a theorical and basic exercise to avoid this behaviour?... thanks.