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trust its major right???
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i have been with my boyfriend a month and a bit and he told me that he found it really hard to get me to open up and tell him stuff. i hadnt noticed to be honest. anyway, one of the things he's been goign on about is my virginity and whether i was a virgin or not. I wouldnt tell him because i fee#l that it shouldnt matter either way and it shouldnt change his feelings. anyway, once the discussion was over i found out he had talked to someone else about it (some bitch i dont know very well) and was asking her stuff and discussing ME with her. i was soooooooo angry and he apologised but i said i wouldnt be able to trust him for a while.
eventually i begin to trust him but then i find out he has been discussing private stuff about me with complete strangers on the net and showing them pictures of himself so they now fancy him...great! discussing me with this 'bitch' still and jokinjg about it. He is away at the moment but i know as soon as i see him i might go mad. what do i do? do i tell him i know and forgive him again? should i have told him about my past even though i dont want to? i'm so confused...
eventually i begin to trust him but then i find out he has been discussing private stuff about me with complete strangers on the net and showing them pictures of himself so they now fancy him...great! discussing me with this 'bitch' still and jokinjg about it. He is away at the moment but i know as soon as i see him i might go mad. what do i do? do i tell him i know and forgive him again? should i have told him about my past even though i dont want to? i'm so confused...
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Trust is VERY important, but why cant you trust him??
If nothing then why haven't u told him?
The past does matter in every relationship, and the fact that he has been trying to find out about you must tell you something about the way he feels.
Talk to him about this, but do it calmly, and dont fly of teh handle -
Just my twopenneth
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Sex is the only liquid center at the great Newberry Fruit of friendship. - Jilly Cooper 1937 -
"The hardest part of loving is not when you get hurt. It's when you can't show the one you love how you feel because his heart already belongs to someone else."
If i was you i would just start with telling him things you feel comforatble saying & see how it goe rom there, let him in a little but not to much if you rent comfortable with it.
good luck
trust is important, but it wont necessarily be there str8away , sum ppl find it hard to trust ppl, so if u still cant trust him after christmas, it mite be time to evaluate yer relationship
<IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> good luck!