Never Been Kissed!

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ok this is gonna sound really sad but im 14yrs old and have never been kissed!!!Im not desperate or anything, guys r interested in me and ive been out wiv um but never actually kissed ne1.Im really scared that wen i get a serious bf ill kiss him like fish and he'l go off me. all my freinds have kissed at least 5each. This is becoming a major problenm cos ive jus met this guy who is interested in me and wen i ask him how many girls he had kissed he said ova 200!

Plz has ne1 got ne advice???

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Thanks, i guess im jus gettin worked up cos most girls r more experienced dan me and i will be really crap 1st time!!But thanks alot

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Originally posted by LongboatKey:
wen i ask him how many girls he had kissed he said ova 200!

either he's

(a) talking out of his arse, in which case he's a twat
(b) a full-on man slag, in which case dont have anything to do with him
or (c) just muckin about, in which case you dont need to worry about it.

seriously, you're only 14, so it really doesnt matter how many people you have or havent kissed. besides, you've got years of practice ahead of you <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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I used to think just like u ''wot if i kiss like a fish?'' trust me u won't and it honestly does come naturally!! So just remember to relax!! And i very much doubt that this boy has kissed over 200 ppl!! If he has it obviously means hes desperate and just tryin to pull as many as he can so he show of in front of his mates, just be sure that he is being serious with u and that he does actually care becoz its not nice gettin hurt!!

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"The hardest part of loving is not when you get hurt. It's when you can't show the one you love how you feel because his heart already belongs to someone else."

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(a) talking out of his arse, in which case he's a twat
(b) a full-on man slag, in which case dont have anything to do with him
or (c) just muckin about, in which case you dont need to worry about it.

I tought that at 1st but wen i asked him bout it he said that his m8s were havin sum kind of compotition 2 c who cud kiss the most girls in 1nite!!That jus made me feel bloody insecure cos he must have like loads of girls that like him and i aint kissed ne1!!!

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look, ur only 14 ffs!!! sum of us r 18 and have neva dun all that stuff, so dont worry bout it - its not as if ur lagging behind every1 else! about the 200 girls thing - he was almost certainly lying, and if he has, and goes round boasting about it then ur probably betta off without him

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I had my first kiss when I was 16.
I've never kissed anyone and truelly meant it and I'm 17.

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Don't worry about it. I mean although i have kissed a few guys and done stuff, none of it has EVER meant anything to me, and I have never felt any passion or feeling in it. and i regret most things. It will come naturally, and will probably mean a lot to you.

I personally don't see it as that big a deal anyway, except for it being something kinda special that you have waited and that.

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oh dont get paranoid, if u act confident when u kiss, he'll never know. and dont be ashamed! at the age of 14 its hardly a crime is it!!!!my old best mate didnt have her first kiss til she was 15....strange as she had known other stuff before that! but then she was strange!!!

kissing tip: try to avoid goldfish kisses(open and close mouth), be confident and kiss his top lip, then bottom lip, top, bottom etc. its really good! if u use a diff technique and it goes wrong say what i sed on my 1st kiss "that was a bit awkward coz my ex boyf kissed differently to that"

its not so scary after all!

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I totaly know what u mean, i honestley think that before their first kiss and up to their third kiss everyone is a bit worried about "Kissing like a fish" i certainly was and i used to ask everyone for pointers and theyd say the crappiest thing; "it comes naturaly" but u know what? It does!
Just dont worry about it, relax and go with the flow!
Oh and about the 200 girls thing- he is sooooo badly lying either to impress u (in which case be flattered) or he is just having a laugh.

RELAX GAL.

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Thanx every1, i feel i little better now, like b4 i felt kinda behind cos EVERY1 i know has kissed sum1 else but uve made me feel a little better now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Originally posted by LongboatKey:
Thanx every1, i feel i little better now, like b4 i felt kinda behind cos EVERY1 i know has kissed sum1 else but uve made me feel a little better now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

Yeah that was our intention <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; *hug*

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Cheers! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Oh shit, im getting nervous again, some1 tell me 2 calm down!I think that wen i actually kiss him all be 2 nervous and itl turn out crap!!!Help me plzzzzz

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i agree with eveyone else, don't worry about it... my first kiss was at 12, it was in a game of truth or dare...
i'm sure everyone had this experience.. since then i've kissed loads of ppl, no i'm not a slag or anything like it, but i have a prob with keepin boyfreinds fo long.. ANYWAY!
i say you don't worry about it, coz i had to gradually learn by myself.. there's no one technique, everyone has there own way, you'll probably develop your own soon enough!
GOOD LUCK!

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200? i doubt it. sounds like he's tryin 2 impress u. dunno how with that, but anyway, it'll come naturally, just don't be too forceful, and let him take the lead, u'll quickly pick it up.

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THIS LAD IS PROBABLY LYING AND HES JUST AS NERVOUS AS U!! AND DONT WORRY ABOT IT THE FIRST TIME AINT GR8, BUT AS THEY SAY PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT SO GET SNOGGING!!

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anyone got any tips?

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I don't know what advice to give. I was really depressed at your age too cos I didn't have my first kiss till just after I turned 15, and loads of girls in my year would be going on about how they'd pulled 5 guys in one night etc. Now I'm nearly 17 (only a week and a half till I can start driving!) and have kissed 9 guys, which may not be a lot but it's just a number, who cares? All the advice I can give you is make sure you really like him, that way you'll be relaxed and happy and it'll be a LOT better. My first kiss was with a guy I'd just met at a party and it was horrible...

Let him lead you, follow what he does and you'll soon have the hang of it!

Good Luck - let us know how it goes!

Love 'n' snuggles,

Mags
xx

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Oh and I just thought of something else...A kiss isn't just about what you do with your lips, it's what you do with the rest of your body as well. Especially the hands - they're very important. Put your hands on his back or on his neck, show him you're not afraid (even if you are!) This will also make it a lot better.

Love 'n' snuggles

Mags
xx

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just think if u save it until u meet sum1 special it will mean more. dont rush things cos u feel insecure.