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Internet Relationships Good and Bad
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This has to be one of the most interesting topics of modern day .. the whole meeting the person of your dreams on the internet... I've heard a couple of people's stories in previous threads .. but I don't seem to recall if anyone had any really bad experiences of meetin someone on the internet who turned out to be totally different from the way they appeared online.
(would also be good to get an update fro those of you having good online relationships).
(would also be good to get an update fro those of you having good online relationships).
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On the other hand, the whole "I want you here: NOW" thing does get a little old after not very long.:mad:
Apparently I'm totally different in real life, but she wasn't. Although we didn't meet with a view to getting together (at least, that was not my motive) I did end up asking her out. But she said no, very embarrassing but we still keep in touch and stuff.
I met Asa online and thats going great. At the time we met he lived in the local town to me, so it was really convenient for us. Then he moved back to Manchester for various reasons and although it's still only a 40 min drive yeah it put some pressure on us, mainly cos of work hours not giving us a chance to see each other or to chat really. But now I'm in Manc as well at uni and things are looking up again, although still not a great deal of time we get together. I know there's no way I want to lose him and we will both fight to keep the rel together however hard things get.
I've nver done the whole long distance net relationship where we've ever met. Seem to only meet people within an hour drive of my house.
awww
This person disgusts me.
As far as long distance relationships go I don't think they can really work.
The second one seemed like the perfect bloke to start with, then we went to the pub and omg...he drank like a fish and seemed unable to stop. He confessed he had a real alcohol problem, so he had to go, after he had a huge slanging match with my sister!!
And the third, well u prob already know about him, but I seen him for a year but it turned out in the end he already had a long term gf and me....the bit on the side!!
I'm not up for meeting anyone off the net again! It's too easy for people to lie or edit the truth, or just cover up aspects of their personality that are not necessarily attractive.
I'm probably guilty of that. But then I've only met 4 people from the net (and they'rea ll mates anyway) and we're all just mates there was never any pretence of going out etc. Though I did fancy one of them for a fair while
I do think though that LDRs work better if they start long distance, but you both have to be willing to put in the effort and trust each other.
have to agree with the lady.
i was in a long distance relationship for a year (still in it, but not long distance anymore) and even then i saw him all weekend every weekend.
i don't understand how you can have anything more than a flirty friendship with someone you've never met.
even with someone you only see 4 times a year or whatever. you have no idea what they're really like.
and for whoever said that it means you just like their personality. well, i hate to shatter your illusions, but real relationships are based on everything about that person. the way they act, the way they look, even the way they smell, sometimes, and if you never meet them how the hell can you know all those things?
I would agree to a certain extent that if I found someone physically repulsive I probably wouldn't date them, even online.
However, before you try to shatter my illusions, perhaps I should point out that even in a "real" relationship, there are going to be things that you don't like about your partner. You will never find a person who is an absolutely perfect match for you, but in the end you'll find someone with enough of an overlap that you don't notice the down sides.
That said, I think that I would have to agree that you can't have a "traditional" relationship if you NEVER meet a person, because there is so much more to a girlfriend/boyfriend than just talking.
In my case, we met in real life first and then after that we struck up an internet relationship. It probably *DOES* help that I know that she isn't fugly, doesn't act wierd and doesn't smell like the Yeti
then (a) it's not just based on personality at all, is it?
and (b) you were not included in my 'people who have never met'.
I am currently in a long distance sort-of relationship, and it's ok, as I've met him before (granted a long time before I started flirting with him online - but hey) and I saw him a week on Saturday, we aren't 'together' as such, but I miss him like hell, and after last weekend I didn't stop grinning for a week because of him and what happened with him. Blegh, I miss him even more now *sigh*
We decided to go out for 3 months and met twice lol
Dont do it
Jez
I've moved on, still speak to him on msn, but after you find something like that out...theres no going back is there really?!?! I'm still pretty gutted about it all, but the revengful side of me is coming out.... I feel like exposing him on "Trisha" or in "Take a Break". Any suggestions??
I think you should trick him into meeting up with you and get the girls number out of his phone, then we can go from there :yes: I'll be your mentor
Oh n its nasty Vic