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"Hi, I'm Rob..."...Yeah right!
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I've just read the column on chat-up lines by Karla Fitzhugh who suggests that instead of classics like "Pick up your coat darlin', you've pulled", guys try a different tact at meeting women and actually just come right out and introduce themselves. This intrigued me and I decided to give it a go along with some mates down at the local.
Having put my trust in the hands of someone whom I assumed was somewhat of a prodigy on the subject of relationships, I was shocked to have my innocent lines smacked out of the ballpark with comebacks such as "So?", "Yeah, and I'm 'Not Interested'" and "Get away from me you creepy, creepy little man" (I was getting pretty desperate at this point.)
Now, I wasn't especially bothered (Kelvin Sampson's theory of starting out with "You're ugly but you intrigue me" hadn't worked either, so I put it down to having an off-night), but the thing is this...If a girl came up to me and introduced herself, I'd be more than willing to have a gabble. I definitely wouldn't go about stamping out any last shreds of self-confidence she had by in return introducing myself as "And what?". Now maybe it's the age of the girls I'm approaching (17...no, I'm not a 40-year old stalker! I'm also that age.), but it seems like they enjoy making it as hard as possible for a guy to even have a chance of chatting with them. Now girls, can you please reassure me that some of you are actually up for a good time and that you aren't just in pubs to laugh at and gun down guys' attempts at conversation?!
Having put my trust in the hands of someone whom I assumed was somewhat of a prodigy on the subject of relationships, I was shocked to have my innocent lines smacked out of the ballpark with comebacks such as "So?", "Yeah, and I'm 'Not Interested'" and "Get away from me you creepy, creepy little man" (I was getting pretty desperate at this point.)
Now, I wasn't especially bothered (Kelvin Sampson's theory of starting out with "You're ugly but you intrigue me" hadn't worked either, so I put it down to having an off-night), but the thing is this...If a girl came up to me and introduced herself, I'd be more than willing to have a gabble. I definitely wouldn't go about stamping out any last shreds of self-confidence she had by in return introducing myself as "And what?". Now maybe it's the age of the girls I'm approaching (17...no, I'm not a 40-year old stalker! I'm also that age.), but it seems like they enjoy making it as hard as possible for a guy to even have a chance of chatting with them. Now girls, can you please reassure me that some of you are actually up for a good time and that you aren't just in pubs to laugh at and gun down guys' attempts at conversation?!
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There's always a nice way of letting the bloke to know that you are not interested unless he's a really daft prick.
As for me, even if I don't like the lad that comes up to me and introduces himself, I still say 'hello' and my name.
Yeah... here you are right. If I feel good about myself and confident, I always wind that lad up to see if he'll give up or if
he really wants to pull me ;-)) he-he. I know it's cruel, but it is having a good time :-) However the ones with a sense of humour, the ones who will stay and keep talking get everything ;-)
You see, in a group of girls on a night out it's considered cool to gun down lads. Especially, among the good-looking ones, who get a lot of attention from real creeps. However a nice lass still won't be rude to you.
My advise is to keep trying and remember that sometimes she says "So??" just to test if you can go beyond just introducing yourself.
Jenny xxx