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Hi there, ive been going out with a girl for a couple of weeks now, and we get on so well, we cant believe we have each other, and dont want to lose each other, we get on so well, ive never had this before.
In the past ive been really hurt, especially when ive felt i was gona be dumped but all my mates told me i wasnt and i was being silly, and then i was. I get hurt easily to which dont help my confidance.
Anyways i just get really worried my g/f will dump me, i know she loves me, and she wants me and every thing cos she tells me and i know she means it, but if i havent spoken to her for a day or i aint had a tx for a few hours i get really worried. i know i shouldnt be as i have nothing to worry about, and then i just go down in a spiral thinking the worse. just wondering how i can stop myself doing this. cos i know she likes me, but i just get worried and think she dont and she gona dump me. And just thinking about good times and nice things dont help either, in fact makes me worse for some reason, anyone got any advice?
Thanxs
In the past ive been really hurt, especially when ive felt i was gona be dumped but all my mates told me i wasnt and i was being silly, and then i was. I get hurt easily to which dont help my confidance.
Anyways i just get really worried my g/f will dump me, i know she loves me, and she wants me and every thing cos she tells me and i know she means it, but if i havent spoken to her for a day or i aint had a tx for a few hours i get really worried. i know i shouldnt be as i have nothing to worry about, and then i just go down in a spiral thinking the worse. just wondering how i can stop myself doing this. cos i know she likes me, but i just get worried and think she dont and she gona dump me. And just thinking about good times and nice things dont help either, in fact makes me worse for some reason, anyone got any advice?
Thanxs
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Worrying like this is going to ruin it. Take a deep breath - enjoy it while you have it - you being so insecure may ruin it all if your not careful.
You dont want that, so put some trust in her before you scare her away.
Good luck
Basically I felt very insecure in the relationship, I never really understood why she was with me, even though she said she loved me. I never felt good enough for her, and i always knew deep down she would leave me for someone else. Which she did.
Anyway I would give it time mate. You say you've only been with her a couple of weeks, this is the most important time in the relationship, and you are still really getting to know each other.
Its good for you both to have a life apart from each other aswell as being in the relationship. Do things with your mates, let her fo the same. Who knows, it might make the time you are together more special.
But most importantly, stop worrying <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
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