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Chasing
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Hi, I met a girl exactly a week ago today! I got her number (in a pizza shop, class). I had noticed her in the pub earlier in the night and thought, waw, she's nice! Anyway, it turned out she was only 18, I'm 23! When I asked her for her number at the time she was taken aback and said to me she didn't think I would contact her (because 1, I'm a lad, 2, I was older, and 3, I think she thought I looked good). So, I went home happy in the knowledge that we'd meet because of her keeness so 2 days later I texted her and said 'Hi, How you doing, told you I'd text you' - nothing major, just a lighthearted note to see if we could get some banter going then we'd arrange to meet. However, no reply! Fine, I just thought perhaps no money in her phone so I left it! Then, last night I saw her in the pub but didn't get a cahnce to call, but seeing her reminded me how nice she was so I decided to text again last night, saying - Hi, when are we meeting'? Blunt and to the point, but again as it stands no reply. So the point of all this is, should I keep on chasing or just leave it'. Chasing isn't really the way I like to do things, 1 because it makes me feel weak and stupid and 2 because I simply think girls don't like that! Does anyone have anything to say on chasing, does it work and do girls like it because clearly the casual approach isn't working!
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Good shout - I'll do it when I'm drunk tonight so she knows I'm doing it with weakened will power anyway because I've been drinking.
heh just give her a call now. pick up your mobile and ring her number and say "hi, im the guy from last week in the pizza shop, do you remember me?" and start a conversation, then arrange to meet somewhere. then voila
It could be that she gave you the wrong number or something, or she's lost her phone or whatever... and the only you'll find out is to actually call her!
I'd guess it's the safety aspect. Texting is less personal and therefore if they blow you out then it's easier to handle. Hence the reason he wants to ring when pissed. Fully understand that reasoning.
Ok - I've not called her yet - BUT, I will probably see her tonight in the flesh down the pub. What do I do - just say hi and act like I am not bothered is probably the best idea eh? I could jokingly say, your playing hard to get eh, with ref to no getting a text or just leave it OR don't even speak and let her make the move so I don't make an arse of myself?
girls like a risktaker. so if you take the risk of making an arse out of yourself in order to speak to her, im sure she'll appreciate it. that is, unless she doesn't like you. oh well plenty more out there but who's going to care if you make an arse out of yourself? Are you going with mates?