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What do lads go for in a lass/relationship?
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So c'mon lads, what attracts you to a lass and what makes you stay? I recently was dumped and I asked myself, as Oasis did, WHere Did It All Go Wrong? I know it's everyone to their own but help me out here - I've been single for nearly 3 months!
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Ok... as a single 26 year old, here's what I'd look for in a girl.
A girl who is and acts feminine, not a ladette! Has something to offer (not necessarily a career!) and doesn't think all she has to do if flaunt her body... sex isn't everything.
A girl needs to be able to support a man, be loving and caring, trustworthy, hasn't slept around, sensitive and not play games with him and not have to high expectations!!
If a girl gives all these things in the right way, then she'll receive what she needs from a man... and I'd guess they were in a proper loving relationship :-)
Ian.
1) A girl who is reasonably attractive
2) A girl who enjoys performing oral sex on her boyfriend
3) A girl who will always have a good sex drive
4) A girl who doesn't nag too much
5) A girl who doesn't follow football but lets her boyfreind watch it when its on the telly
6) A girl who is not lazy about the house
7) A girl with a good sense of humour
8) A girl who does not talk all the time
9) A girl who is not snobby or bitchy as this is a real turn off!
10)A girl that makes a real effort when she dresses and does her hair and stuff
11) A girl who is fine with pornography
Thats about it for now, but if there is anything else you would like to know feel free to ask my e-mail address is petethepimp@ilovesex.co.uk
Good luck on the single thing!
Pete
Bad Boy Pete
Pete, you are so predictable. You will either be eternally disappointed in life, once you trade your plastic fantasy for a real gal.
Or, probably with more success, you will have to pay by the hour for a professional pretender!
I have to say that of the two previous writers, Ian seems like he has his head screwed on (probably because he is not a teenager) and Pete... Well! I take it you are young mate and can afford such blatent humour!
Personally, attraction comes from a mixture of characteristics in a woman. A pretty face, a nice smile, big eyes, nice shaped body, articulate and interesting to talk to.
Personality ALWAYS makes up for physical deficits, so someone who can be light-hearted when required or serious if needed. Generally down-to-earth and honest.
I think that a multitude of factors make up whether or not anything will happen between you: common interests, common objectives in life and the ability to feel completely relaxed with each other.
As for coming back for more: Well although I hate to admit it, the women I always fall for are those who remain a little mysterious and don't give themselves away too soon. But then, I always end up avoiding these types of women as I feel they like the chase! So catch 22!
Being single is a great way to understand your own needs. Take the time to work out 'what you really, really want' and don't get into a relationship for the sake of it, otherwise you'll just regret it later!
Keep smiling and having fun!
Alan
Girls really should'nt take guys too seriously. I tell a lot of goofy jokes like all the time and, okay it gets tiresome but if I'm around a girl who I think won't appreciate my, heh, "unique" <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"> sense of humour then I act over serious and also bored. It's like in Men Behaving Badly, the lads start joking around while the birds look on in distain. Be a bit easy in character, the odd joke won't kill you will it <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> Okay, that sounds dumb.
I don't think girlsneed to be overtly sex crazed and I reckon it's a put off if it's obvious they've been around a bit.
Confidence, as with guys so I'm told, can be a good card to play as long as it's in the right hands. Some girls can be really confident but really bitchy at the same time ;( But if a girl shows that she has interests in life or passionate about something (e.g. music, films or anything apart from the Leo Di Caprio), that is always good. Being enthusiastic about things is what it comes down to.
Hope that's a few pointers for you.
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For what it's worth I tend to agree with Alan... the younger guy on the list needs to find some respect for girls!
The key is to be yourself and that applies to men too. Girls seem? to think that they have to wear all the right skimpy? clothes or die their hair but personally I prefere a girl who truly is different... not one pandering to todays' social climate. Just be yourself, forget girl power and in a way what your friends do... have something to offer a guy :-) Sex is important but only between to loving people where there is trust and respect etc. Otherwise it is just sex! and your likely to get hurt.
Personally I'm different to most men, I don't behave like a lad! I'm rather more sensitive and gentle... I have things to offer, like composing for piano, it's different but most of all it's me and it's real.
Does that make it all any clearer?
Ian :-)
And as for Ian, are you a poofter or something?
Bad Boy Pete
Unfortunately Pete's opinion is that one and that's what lads my age appreciate - damn! But thanks all the same to the rest of you....
What is wrong with saying you want a good looking girl who likes sex and isn't stuck up. Surely these are healthy things to look for in a relationship?
Firstly to Pete! May I suggest in the nicest way that you growup. At 52 I'd have thought you'd of learnt many of lifes lessons but obviously not! And why would you be on a list for younger people?
I am not a puff... just a caring nice guy who is looking for miss right and not an easy lay!
To the girl... guys your age may be looking for what Pete mentions but unless you are comfortable with that, then don't pander to the guys... wait a few years until you meet someone decent. If you want to have sex at all oppourtunities and get hurt often then go with your young guys. The pressure at a young age is very high to do the same but it's the people that are different that get the prize :-)
Ian.
okay but answering the 1st question what do i go for?
well unfortunatly if i was to say personality id probally be lying since i need some inital attraction sorry to be kinda shallow but thats what everyone looks for first isnt it?
But then after you get to know the person looks dont matter Personality is my main passion i guess. i love sitting around with my g/f just talking nothing else really it just makes me love her more because shes more than sex and kissing she makes me laugh and hang-on to every thing she says and i do the same to her. i love gyrls that give you that funny feelin in your tummy
guess thats called love <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
im a skater and i dont mind if the others persons not it shouldnt really matter should it?
well thats all i got to say
laterz
DaN
What the other person values?
(What really matters to them)
What their beliefs are?
(Woman should be compliant, men should be in
charge etc)
What their past experiences are?
Because its through all these that every
action and speech is shaped.
Also be weary of anyone who wants to give
away too much too soon.
Be revealing slowly, this builds intimacy.
What the other person values?
(What really matters to them)
What their beliefs are?
(Woman should be compliant, men should be in
charge etc)
What their past experiences are?
Because its through all these that every
action and speech is shaped.
Also be weary of anyone who wants to give
away too much too soon.
Be revealing slowly, this builds intimacy.
I think that girls that flaunt their sexuality have the right to do so, however it would not appeal to me if I was a bloke. I like the variety of responses on this bulletin board as I suppose it takes all sorts to make the world go round.
See ya.
I think that girls that flaunt their sexuality have the right to do so, however it would not appeal to me if I was a bloke. I like the variety of responses on this bulletin board as I suppose it takes all sorts to make the world go round.
See ya.
I really don't understand why everyone is making this so complicated. It's really simple, all you need is Ben and Jerry's phish food ice-cream (the big tub, not the little one). Forget sex, forget being yourself and all that crap, just go with the ice cream. If you only want a casual relationship, then chocolate brownie flavour would be fine also.
Happy to help,
TYT
I'm not trying to be big headed here but i am the kind of guy you would like, all you need is to be honest and feminine and enjoy my company, sex isn't everything we've still got a good 20 odd years left before we're too old so we've plenty of time for sex, and as for pete, you've got no chance with that attitude better get tensing that wrist mate cause that's all your getting. You sad twisted fool, get with it pal, be real, and stop hiding behind a macho exterior it's a turn off for girls. I think.
Live life, get drunk, you only live once, so who cares if you can't remember half of it?