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Would you date a minger?
BillieTheBot
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Go out with a person if they had a lovely personality...but they were really unattractive?
I would, I believe you can get used to the way somebody looks if you care enough.
I would, I believe you can get used to the way somebody looks if you care enough.
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but it is the inner beauty that counts!
but if the person you is with is beautiful then bounus! but it also what you class as beautiful coz everbody is different so how can we compare each other? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif">
[This message has been edited by thedevilherself (edited 27-07-2001).]
It matters not who won or lost, but how you place the blame.
Yeah exactly I think it just depends on what you think is attractive and what isn't! I've been out with guys too who I thought were well fit and my friends thought they were horrible...and the same with some of my mates boyfriends!
Everyone has their own ideas on how attractive a person is and just because someone thinks one person is a minger it doesn't mean everyone else does. (i'll keep telling myself that lol.)
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Thats just something ugly people say
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Sorry thats sooo unsensitive and, well, Turtle like. Yes it is the "inner beauty" that matters.
[This message has been edited by TheEgoHasLanded (edited 27-07-2001).]
I really don't know what I was doing but, hey, that's life <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
So, er, i'd definitly do it again.
Now i'm the imposter & the real one's gone forever
maybe it's just jaded old me, but i'm sorry, my definition a minger includes provisions (one of the by-laws, if u like) that i will not date her <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">
or something like that. damn. i think my attempt to stir up trouble failed. bugger.
but my answer is still no, i wouldn't date a minger.
i dont see, no matter how great their personality was, how you could luv/love someone and be with them if your mind, your heart and everything else just didnt respond, didn't find them attractive
if you're attracted to someone, you get attracted by looks etc and not their personality...you may then luv/love someone because of their personality, but how in the world you would have that lust and physical attraction - which is essential for a decent relationship, is beyond me
Playing with fire will ultimately see you burnt <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/ukliam2.gif">
So it is possible to go out with a minger, but i reckon most times its down to just wanting someone, thats why most men get dumped, because a better looking bloke coms a long and tells the girl he likes her and she thinks wow he's better. Of course its the same for blokes dumping girls a lot of the time to. There aint no real reason except they like the fitter person. Anyone hear of a fit person being dumped for a minger, exactly.
i know everyone here says thayd go out with a minger if they had a wonderful persoanlity and im sure some would, but i cant help but feel if it actually happened, u may actually go for the better person instead. is all about swings and round abouts.
You can love someones personality but unless you find them an incy bit attractive you cant seriously have a good relationship with them can u??
Theres unnatractive and theres mingin...
If its a case of looking at them and wanting to hurl... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> No i wouldnt date a minger...
But hey at least im honest!
Lxxx
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Sure if we became m8s & i grew 2 REALLY like them then i might but i can't imagine doin stuff wit sum1 who i consider ugly without imagining they are sum1 else & that is unfair on both of us.
Just my opinion. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
It is true that u can not be physically atrracted to someone but just be friends and as u get to no them better u like them more based on their personality. Ive had that happen quite a few times and ended up fancying mates that Id never dreamed of wanting anything with at all to start off with.
As much as its true to say its the personality that counts the most in the long run, its also true to say that its usually a case of thinking someone is nice looking to start with in my oppinion.
However, as I got to know him as a person I found myself really attracted to him and once I was attracted to his personality, I developed serious physical attraction. That's the way it worked for me anyway.
Once, I went out with the most popular guy in the school and looking back it was awful. He knew he was good looking and he knew that people fancied him rotten. It made me feel inferior and I had to take all the crap from his little fanclub of girls for going out with him...good looks are definitely not worth it!
he he <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> that`s what happened with my ex. I thought she was really nice when I went out with her (first time I met it was only partial light <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">) but now I have absolutely no idea what I EVER saw in her <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
I can`t stand even being around her, everything about her quite frankly pi**es me off. I think she`s finally got the message and hasn`t called or txted for almost a week <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
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i'd go out with someone if i loved them
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i think they are, if someone's fit and has a crap personality, then u wudnt date them
if someones alright and has an amazing personality, u wud date them - not because of their appearance but because of their personality
difference
Playing with fire will ultimately see you burnt <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/ukliam2.gif">
And it goes the other way round!!!
But i think there must be something for personality now coz loads of ppl get into internet relaionships.
So personality is important, overall but wen i see her, i want to be able to get turned on not puking up everywhere. + if i could (i would never neway) love a fat gurl, i could never have sex wif her because i just wouldnt find her physicaly attractive.
Time if advancing slowly, feels like crap.
Love advancing slowly, feels like a eternity diviness.
Time advancing fast, feels great.
Love advancing fast feels like an eternity of nothingless.
Either way ur screwed.
thats exactly how it happened with my first bf. well kinda... we talked on the internet for 3 months before meeting, and then it was another few weeks before we started going out, and i didnt initially fancy him. i didnt think he was ugly.... just not my type and not someone i would fancy or anything normally. but because of his personality he became more physically attractive to me. i dont think i would find him attractive if i saw him now though, because the feelings we shared arent there anymore.
but you dont generally flirt with people who youve never met, who you DONT find attractive, it wouldnt make sense. but personality is a LOT more important, and i think once you find someone's personality attractive, their appearance generally follows.
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
~ Nietzsche
Physical Attraction - as it sounds, drawn to someone from a looks perspective and gradually get to know the inner persons feelings and either like or dislike these.
Personallity Attraction - Possibly developing through friendship, you fall in love with the persons views and lifestyle which can later lead to a Physical attraction.
I suppose the second of the two explains why you sometimes get people where your not sure why you like them but its just something about them... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
I've thought about this in the past regarding my friends, not necessarly GF's, but same same...
It is funny...I notice that I am very outward toward just about everyone, regardless of looks.....
NOW, regarding relationships....Face to face, i pick and choose....BUT, after getting to know friends, I often begin to find them very attractive...
I think it is a package deal in every case...
I (at least) am never happy with someone who is not at least on my wave length...Regardless as to their external beauty....
I have always dated bombshell women and girls; BUT, if they had a one track mind or could not hold a decent conversation or were just flat ass boring, it killed it for me...
Every GF I've had was the result of a friendship that grew...The long relationships were not based on expectations of looks and apperance, but just being a pleasure to be with that person...
So I guess, I 'look' for the physical but always 'fall in love' with the personality...
Honestly though, it is not to say i do not still pursue attractive women...I am just constantly disappointed i can not find both qualities in LOTS of the same women...ya know...I am positive this goes the same for the men out there...
make sence..mabe...
J
It does make sense.
No I wouldn't date a minger, though i find lots of women attractive that other of my friends don't, so it's all subjective really.
On the other hand, there are women who we can all agree are ugly as Hades, and I will never know just how "nice" their personalities are.
true. i wud neva date a *minger* cuz isnt it their looks dat attract u to em in the 1st place???
*~ dont h8 me cuz im gorgeous....h8 me cuz ure boyfriend thinks im gorgeous! ~*
[This message has been edited by satans_laydee (edited 01-08-2001).]
I'm new here but I had to reply to this topic.
In reality there is unattractive and v.unattractive.
Although by no stretch of the imagination could I be called attractive, I don't think that I'm minging (most of the time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> )
You can be unnatractive to the point where no-one will give you a second look. It then does not matter what kind of personality you have.
As a second point I must say that the majority of the time the attractive people have crap personalities (ie so far up their own arse you can't talk to them or they are incredibly shallow) and the less attractive seem to be more down to earth.
"The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt"
Now you're all gonna think I'm COMPLETELY sad 'cos my first love was a MINGER!!!!!
Choc <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Choc xxx
pah, i could explain that without psych:
ugly peeps can only pull other ugly peeps. u dont see beautiful peeps with ugly peeps, cos beautiful peeps dont go for mingers. simple, really <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
If there's anything more important than my ego around here, i want it caught and shot now
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