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A HUGE MISTAKE!!!!!!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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I had really fancied this guy for about 4 weeks. I told his mate and he got us together. The thing is I went out one evening and saw my bf's mate and we got chatting. We got on so well, we seemed to connect instantly. He kept trying to kiss me, I stopped him. We both felt so evil, but we couldnt help it. I dumped my bf so we could be together. He was meant to tell his mate that we were going out, but he couldnt. I really wanted to tell my ex, cos I knew it was really unfair and he deserved to know. So I told him the other day. I have never seen a guy so angry and upset before in my life! I know I was a complete bitch. I never want to be in that situation again. It is so horrible on everyone. I was stuck in the middle and tore 2 mates apart. I have apologised to my ex loads and he now says he has forgiven me and doesnt mind being mates with me. He says he wont stand in the way of us. I have now dumped the mate, cos I realised that he isnt for me. This is cos one evening I met up with him and he almost completely ignored me. He was continuely flirting with other ppl and when I almost passed out from drinking too much he simply buggered off, left me with my mates. Yet a few nights later when he was pissed, almost passing out I stayed with him. I stood by him when he was chucking into the Thames and I helped him to the mens bogs in a pub, while feeling highly embaressed with loads of ppl watching us.He also lied to me and said he couldnt see me cos he was ill. In fact he was meeting up with my ex. I really care about both of these guys so much. I now really regret dumping the 1st guy. I know I cant expect n e thing to happen with us again, cos I was such a bitch going along with his mates lies for a while. I have learnt so much from this experience. It must be the worst one I have ever had concerning guys. I went for a complete idiot when all along I already had a lovely, caring guy.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont beat yourself up over it Fairy. You are regretting it now but its all part of the learning process when growing up. You have time to meet new people and stuff. I did sort of the same thing. I was with this guy who had begun to treat me nasty, saying nasty stuff and i wasnt coping so i turned to my best bloke friend for support. I split with my boyf and started seeing my friend who was my ex boyfriends worst fear and enemy when we were going out. I'm happy now though i have things sorted and you will do the same too. when thigs feel like they wont EVER get better and you think you'll end up being a spinster that owns 12 cats things suddenly slot into place. Try talking to the guy who you think was sweet and lovely, be his friend and support and you never know, things might progress again, you just have to prove you care, but even if you dont get back with him there are plenty more nice guys about (little support from nice guys on the board is always good here!!!) and you WILL find one but you will always have your friend (the nice guy you've got) and he can help you and stuff. Watch Will and Grace on fridays...thats the kind of friendship i'm talking about (obviously the guy you're talking about isnt gay!!)

    I'll shut up now, this must be my longest post ever...are ya proud!!!!!

    Good luck fairy and keep postin and keep your chin up!!

    Tinkabee.xxx.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Aww hun, i know it must b hard 4 u @ the mo but Tinkabee has given sum gr8 advice in my opinion!

    I've been in a similar position 2 u b4 except they both turned out 2 b twats & i don't regret dumping the 1st guy 4 his best m8.

    I think u should try & build up a friendship wit the guy u 1st went out wit & c wot happens from there. If u still both like each other it will work out again hopefully, but its not ur fault! We all make mistakes in life. U just have 2 try & put them behind u & carry on wit life.

    Good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thank you sooooo much for the advice guys!!!!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think you should move on and try to forget about both of these blokes. I'm sure there are plenty of really nice fellas out there dying to be your b/f! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; I hope everything works out.
    One of Heaven's lil Angels <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/angel.gif"&gt;

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