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Best friend making me crazy

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
OK I have this wonderful BF, I love her very much, but she can be such a baby at times. heres the problem: other night she was at my house, she was watching tv and I was talking to my b/f. ok I'll admit I wasn't listening to her me and him were talking about something important. Well after that she walks out of the room and deicdes she is walking home doesn't even say a word to me, I had to run after her and drag her back.
She continues to say nothing is wrong.
<IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt; but her b/f told me today that she was feeling are relationship had changed and she feels "uncomforatble" now,(to uncomfortable to tell me i guess) she doesn't understand how I would rather stay home and talk to my b/f instead of going out and haveing fun with her

I don't want to lose my friendship with her, but theres no way I'm giving up talking to me b/f.
sorry this has gotten a bit long, Anyone have any ideas how I can fix this? ttfn <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

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Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've had a problem similar to this before and the only solution is divide your time between your b/f and your best friend.
    Friends can feel really left out once you have a relationship and it is so important to make sure that you don't lose your best friend because of not spending enough time with her.
    Explain to her that you now want to spend time with your b/f but that you dont want your friendship to change. If you set aside time for your best friend without seeing your bf Im sure she will feel a lot less uncomfortable.
    I think it is important that you talk o her though and find out if it is this that is causing her to act this way with you, and if it is, you have make sure you both set aside time to spend together and time to spend with your b/f's.
    Hope it all turns out ok, be careful with your friendship,it's very important x
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Try organising a a day each week to spend togetha catching up on everything. But still explain to her how much you wanna b with your b/f and that you don't want anything to change between the two of you.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oh god. I know how you feel (no solution, just to let you know we all have the same problem!).

    my best friend is Asian and getting to the age where her parents won't let her go anywhere without a chaperone, and they prefer her to stay boxed up indoors. in case she meets boys/smokes/drinks/takes drugs. ridiculous isn't it! obviously her culture is important and as far as possible it should be respected, but in this country it is a bit silly to expect a teenage girl to remain indoors and not socialise at all.

    that's compounded by the fact that I have a bf, and her parents think that for her to meet him or his mates would be disastrous - that she'd run off with one of them or something! so if I phone saying I'd like her to come ice-skating or something as part of a big group, she isn't allowed. consequently she's only met him once (for 5 minutes) and most of my free time is spent with him, so we hardly ever see each other out of school any more.

    I think the answer is just to set separate times for seeing different people. it seems daft but it's probably the only way <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    oh well, that's the way the cookie crumbles.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by ~*Heaven Scent*~:
    Try organising a a day each week to spend togetha catching up on everything. But still explain to her how much you wanna b with your b/f and that you don't want anything to change between the two of you.


    Thank you all for the help. I see her alot tho everyday or every other day. Oh well I'm just gonna have to talk to her I guess anyway ty <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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