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Not fitting in
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I dont know where to post this, so here will do, (i think a "life" board wud be a gud idea) anywhoo, recently ive started feeling like i really dont fit in anywhere, like i dont know anybody, and they dont know me.
I feel i dont fit in with my friends, there just so different than me.
I dont fit in at home, my parents and sisters dont understand me, and arent like me at all
I dont fit in at college, i dont know why, i just dont seem too.
I feel so lonley, like i am the only person on earth, ive been like this before an it was the start of my depression, i dont want to get like that again, i dont even know myself anymore, i dont know who or what i like or anything.
As Dido sez "i just wanna feel safe im my own skin"
I feel i dont fit in with my friends, there just so different than me.
I dont fit in at home, my parents and sisters dont understand me, and arent like me at all
I dont fit in at college, i dont know why, i just dont seem too.
I feel so lonley, like i am the only person on earth, ive been like this before an it was the start of my depression, i dont want to get like that again, i dont even know myself anymore, i dont know who or what i like or anything.
As Dido sez "i just wanna feel safe im my own skin"
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I ain't gonna b much help 2 u but i'm just writing this 2 let u know that u aren't alone in thinking like this.
I go through stages of thinking like this & i have no idea why. One minute i'm all happy, the next i feel like shit & feel like wots the point!?
Ne way soz i can't b much help. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
Anyway if you fancy a chat we could talk on msn or yahoo if you have them <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/spin2.gif">
One of Heaven's lil Angels <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/angel.gif">
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sounds like your afraid of opening up and expecting others to do the same...try and mingle more, get some invites out and start meeting people <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Playing with fire will ultimately see you burnt <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/ukliam2.gif">
My best mate got a new gf a few months ago, so it feels like ive lost him, we used to do loadsa stuff together, but not anymore, i dont wanna say nuffin to him cause he is really in love with this girls, an he was so unhappy b4 her its good to see him smiling again, and anyway, i dont think his gf likes me much, she seems to put me down all the time an make sarky comment about anything i say or do.
Things wer so much better wen i was a loner. While i was in school i had no friends, and that didnt bother me, i never went out etc, however since ive gone to college ive made loadsa friends, and gotten used to a social life etc, god my life is screwy, i wish it was back to normal, wen i didnt miss human companionship, wen the thought of loosing my friends didnt bother me, because i didnt have any.
The truth is, we're all alone 'cos we are all different, and being so alone and so different makes communication difficult, so everyone feels alone sometimes. Friends are worth keeping hold of though because they can enrich your life and you can depend on them, the more you do with your friends the closer they become and the less you'll feel alone.
As an example, I have quite a close-knit group of friends, we all live in the same town within a couple of miles of each other. By co-incidence all but two left town recently either to go on holiday to various places, visit other people etc for a week so it was just the two of them left. Both were so bored and frustrated at being left on their own that they took time off work for most of that week and sat about at home drinking. The funniest thing was that neither knew the other was taking time off so they could've got together had they known, but instead wallowed in their own induvidual misery.
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I know exactly how you feel. a few months ago I felt just the same. my best friend seemed not to like me anymore (she'd just met her boyfriend), my parents and brother seemed to be getting on with their own lives and ignoring me - even schoolwork wasn't as straightforward as usual.
then I thought, well, sod this, I can't expect my life to come to me, I've gotta go make it myself. and - this comes from another thread! - I began to say "how are you?" whenever I met someone or talked to them on the phone, which really helped me get over being shy and start conversations. I tried to see everything from every possible point of view and really understand what others were thinking and where their actions came from.
naturally your friends are different - you have a unique set of DNA <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"> and you've lived in different environments etc, so your personality is unique too. but you do fit in with your friends - otherwise they wouldn't be friends. make it clear to your best friend that you'd like to see him without his gf sometimes, like you used to (I assume) - and if she's making sarky comments, tell him and he can ask her to tone it down.
good luck <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Seek first to understand, and then to be understood.
- Stephen Covey
I used to fit in with my friends, but i dont know if it is me or them that has changed, all i know is that i find it hard to make convo with them cause i dunno wot to say, its all changed so much, everyone is breaking away aswell, this girl who i was good friends with recently broke off an made sum new friends to hang around with cause she was gettin grief from others in our group, and since then its gone down hill. Ive tried hanging around wi this girl an her mates as she suggested, but i dont really like her new friends, grrr @ life!