Am i stupid to feel this way????

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I'm new to the site. I'm 18, female and i love to shop. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months. Everythings been goin great. But on saturday i went round his place as his mum was away for the nite. We went up to his room and i found that he now has half naked girls plastered all over his walls. I'm not a very confident person and had issue years back regarding how i felt bout my body, and this incident brought it all back. He wanted to have sex but i felt inadequate compared to these girls. I felt like i didn't live up to his fantasy girl, small, blonde, blue eyes with big breasts. I'm totally the opposite, tall and flat chested. I just froze but had sex with him anyway coz i felt that it woz my problem and i had to deal with it but while we were havin sex i saw him looking at the posters. I did'nt stay and haven't spoken to him since.I don't know wot 2 do,i think i'm goin to end it as i don't see a solution to this. I woz also wondering if other girls had felt like this and is big breasts and blonde hair all blokes want. Any advice is much appreciated.

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My ex had these kinda posters all over his walls. I remember the first time I went to his house and in his room, right on the front of his wardrobe was this blonde girl wearing nothing but what looked like a silver belt...it was actually meant to be a skirt lol. At first I wondered why he was even going out with me if this is how he likes his women. But when I thought about it I don't think blokes really put these pics up to stare at all day long, I reckon they're just up there so they look normal, if you know what I mean. (Nothing wrong with that by the way guys, so don't get annoyed with me!) I'm sure your b/f's posters are just up for decoration and that he's not comparing you to those girls. Try not to worry, I hope things work out.

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My sister and her friends have pictures of blokes all over their walls. What's the difference?

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Are they naked blokes?

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would it had been better if they were half naked blokes then?

didnt think so

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I'm not whinging anyway, I couldn't care less about stupid posters. All I was trying to say was that if a bloke's g/f had pics of naked men in her room showing all their bits then he'd probably be comparing sizes if you know wot I mean, and may even feel a bit insecure about the whole thing.

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Maybe it would be best if you split with him if you're feeling like this and you can't talk to him about your insecurities. If you're in a relationship you shouldn't feel under pressure to do anything you're not happy with, you're not just an object and you have feelings which both of you have to deal with because you're in a relationship together.

As for the fantasy girl, well that's a fantasy and not reality and doesn't necessarily mean he'd rather have a porn star girl than you. Everybody is different and small girls with blond hair and blue eyes aren't going to get more attention than anyone else (well I don't anyway, but maybe it's because I've only got small breasts <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">)

Guys on here (on the whole) have always said that personality is more important than looks, and some prefer small breasts to large ones, so don't despair about the way you look. You're unique and that's a good thing to be <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Originally posted by ~*Heaven Scent*~:
I'm not whinging anyway, I couldn't care less about stupid posters. All I was trying to say was that if a bloke's g/f had pics of naked men in her room showing all their bits then he'd probably be comparing sizes if you know wot I mean, and may even feel a bit insecure about the whole thing.

not if it was just half naked pics

i dont even think i would be bothered with full nude pics in my g/f's bedroom - not like people in a picture are ever going to be competition as she wouldn't meet them anyway

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These kinda pics don't bother me either, but they do some people and in a way I can understand why. Anyway shouldn't we be trying to give "blackbeauty"? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/ssst.gif"&gt; Afterall that is the whole point...isn't it?

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Personally, i have pics of naked More men all around my room! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

As for looking at em while havin sex, thats a dif issue! Lxxx

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Sorry that was meant to say shoudn't we be giving "blackbeauty" advice?

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Originally posted by lurvlylucy:
Personally, i have pics of naked More men all around my room! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

As for looking at em while havin sex, thats a dif issue! Lxxx

Urgh how can you have them posters up they just make me cringe!! I buy More magazine all the time but the centrefolds ewww they're just...cringey and mingin! hehe. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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i agree

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Lol yea I hate those bits in the magazine lol. They're soooo annoying don't u think?

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Hiya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;
Yeah but if you think about it wee put posters on our walls, sum of them like that ( I put the picture from More mag on my wall <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; ) my boyf sees the funny side! He used to have a picture like that on his wall but that soon came down!
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k il admit some of the more ones are dodgy but some are really nice!!

I think blackbeauty should explain her insecurities to her boyf,exlain that altho she knows his entitled to have them up,that it makes her more paranoid about herself, and that shes unhappy because of it

If hes worth it, hell listen, if he doesnt listen then does he really care?

Lxxx

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Hey Blackbeauty! My bf has a calendar in his room of really thin and pretty girls in bikinis, and he has a couple of posters too of pretty girls with flash cars, but they dont really bother me coz I really dont think that those pictures are something he dreams about, they r just a typical blokish thing to have in his room, probably free in a magazine, just like the guys in More!! I bet this applies to your guy too, but you really should tell him if it bothers you so much you want to break up! At least see what he has to say first!

I am pretty insecure at times too, coz I'm not exactly a beach babe like these girls in posters, but my bf says he loves me and my body just as it is and we have been together a year now, so I think it must be love! You and your guy have been together a fair while too, so dont totally give up on it just for some silly pictures! I bet you r worth far more to him than any of them ever would be and he wouldnt want to lose u over it!!

Keep smiling!
BAGPUSS xx