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i want to die
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Latly i just want to give up with life, it's crap. The amount of times i have become so close to doing it!! Even i am amazed i am still here to write this. it started ever since me and boyfriend split up, who i still love. I thought i couldnt live life without him and i still dont think i can, everything else has piled on top which results to me hating life. I have spoke to my ex and i know he is behind me every step of the way, but all i want in this world is him to come back to me. I feel guilty for telling him coz i dont want him to think he's got to come back to stop me from dying. I dont know what to do nemore. Plz help, i give up.
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dont give up! its not worth giving u p all your life just because of one bloke. you dont say how old you are, but i bet you have so many more years left of your life.
you may think that you cant live without him.. i thought that about my ex boyfriend when i was with him and when we were talking about splitting up, and it turns out i can live without him. i was upset at first it was over, but i moved on with the help of my friends, and a few mad rebound crushes! you have to try and move on from this bloke if its obvious youre not gonna get back together. it seems as if your ex want to stay friends with you but thats all he wants. if its too painful for you to be around him and know that friends is all your going to be and its causing problems getting over him, then consider some time apart from him, a couple of weeks or a month or two maybe to get over him. you might be horrified at the suggestion. but it works, i know from experience.
for 2 weeks after i broke up with my ex, we stayed in contact,and we kept falling out so much over everything, and just trying to hurt each other deliberately it seems. we stopped talking for a day or two here and there, but got back in touch. i thought i was over him, but i cant have been ebcause afte 2 weeks he told me he was seeing his best friend who i had always bhad my suspicions of,and i was devastated. cried solidly for a few days. but after that i didnt hear from my ex for a while, he texted me at new year (this happened around xmas time) to wish me a happy one but i messaged back and said id told him i wanted nothign to do with him and i meant it.
a few weeks after i got back in touch withhim coz i thought i might regret losing contact in a few years and wonder where he was. so we were friends for a while, until he started nto replying to my emails or texts for up to a month, so now im not anything with him, i dont want him back (god no!!) and i dont want to be friends with him and i just dont really have any feelings for him at all, good or bad. just dont like him very much as a person anymore and thats it.
so as my long and drawn out story is trying to show, you can get over this. turn to your friends for support, hopefully they will help you get through this like mine did, it helps you realise who your real friends are, the ones who will listen to you for hours on end, the ones who will buy you presents to cheer you up and who will do their best to spend loads of time on c heering you up, taking you to parties when they might feel youre not the b est company, those are the ones that care about you rthe most, i discovered who my 3 best friends in the world were after i broke up with my ex.
good luck! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
sorry to hear ur havin a bad time <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
i know how u feel coz wen i broke up wiv my ex it hurt so bad i sat in my room n cried n cried and didn't leave my bed n listened to music in the dark for about a week n i didn't eat either.
Gettin over ex's is a long, hard process that there is no quick answer to. this probbaly isnt wot u really wanna hear, but u just gotta stick it out.
Wen i broke up with my ex i wanted to die, just like u, but with the help of sum m8's and a councellor, i got thru it, and maybe u shud do the same. Lookin back, i think, why the fuck did i want to die 4 that prick?!? lol. He's defintely not more important than ur happiness, so stick things out, and when u look back, u'll see u made the right decision <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
If the sky that we look upon
should tumble and fall
or the mountains should crumble in the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry,
No, I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand
Stand by me
Puts a new meaning to the term "die trying"
I haven't been in a relationship, but I have been clinically depressed for years. I know I can't understand your situation because I'm not you, but I used to have a "friend" who I thought I couldn't get on without.
When I started college I had trouble making friends (I was shy & worried I would get bullied again), so I stuck with someone from college who "introduced" me and "helped" me make new friends. I had an arguement with her (it's a looooooong story) and after I finally split up with her I thought I'd have no friends and not be able to continue life.
The truth is that you are and individual, you can't let your life depend anyone else because you'll never reach your full potential. However, a great bard once put that "no man is an island" and that you can't carry on suffering alone. This is the hardest part, but after you've talked it through, you feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
I don't know you personally, but if you've had suicidal feelings for a while then maybe you could try councilling or phone a self-help hotline. I expect you think it will be loads of patronising and callous psychologists, but I know for a fact that talking about my own problems has saved my life.
You'll pull through it babes, take care <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
love
liberty
You can never achieve anything without taking risks!
Thanx for all your advice, since the last time i posted, i spoke it all through with my ex and i feel so much more better <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">. Your right it does help if u talk it through with some1 and it has saved me this time, but will it again <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"> ? I have thought things through and i think things may not be that bad but when it all piles up it gets to much. It helps to know that some1 is behind all the way, in my case, my ex. i spoke to him bout us, i duuno but there b another chance, he just doesnt let out his feelings, but that's him. Some1 said wot was my age, i am only 14!!!!!
Write again, it does help!!
thanx <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
If the sky that we look upon
should tumble and fall
or the mountains should crumble in the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry,
No, I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand
Stand by me
if they end up an item i will most definetly kill myself. I'm already dead inside, now it's time for the outside <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif">. he slags me off, insults me etc etc. Last night i just wanted to die, i dunno wot is happening with me, am i going insane?
Hopefully i will b around to read your replys
Thanx anyway <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"> but nothing can help me now.
Slops
xxx
hey nothing is worth killing urself over. If ur mate is any kind of mate, then she won't go out with ur ex, even if she likes him. I know its painful just to think about it, but try talking it thru with this mate, and make sure she knows that it would really really upset u if she went out with him now, coz ur still not over him.
If this guy is slaggin u off, then he's not worth even thinking about. I know it's probably hard to forget about him, but get together wiv ur girlie mates get a vid, pizza and loadsa choccie and try to have a good time. Hopefully ur mates will b there 4u when u need them most.
And like i said in another post recntly, there is no point in killing urself. When u get thru this, u will look back and think, wow i'm so glad i didn't do anything after all, he's such a twat and soooo wasn't worth it! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> And u'll b glad to be here, and want to enjoy every second. I found the only way to get over an ex is to completely detatch urself from them and anything to do with them.
I hope i have helped <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
If the sky that we look upon
should tumble and fall
or the mountains should crumble in the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry,
No, I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand
Stand by me
These past few days have been not SO good, not good at all infact. I have been with my ex and mate and they get it on, like huggin and practically kissing. I know its just a little thing but boy does it hurt!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
I spoke to her bout him and she said that she has fancied him for ages but no-body knew, and trust me this bloke is mega fancyable!!! Another problem, my mate (boy) has asked me out and he say's he loves me, how? it's been 4 days since he realised he liked me and now he loves me! he said that he will help me get over my ex etc etc if i go out wit him, i said no. Now he's ignoring me and seems very VERY upset, i mean upset. he cryed and broke his toe kicking the wall!
So now i feel reallllllllly bad, im not only hurting myself but every1 around me. I think for the best for every1 i should die, every1 will get along better without me but then something inside me says NO DONT DO It, and i havent..............yet.
Please write again u lot, i have a feeling u will help more this time??
Love Slops <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">
i feel that is the best thing you can do, go and see your doctor and tell him what youve told us, how youre suicidal and think everyone will be better off without you and youre just hurting everyone, which im sure is not the case. dont feel bad about rejecting your friend, you cant just be expected to go out with someone if they like you if you dont like them back (and to me it seems youre not over your ex yet either).everyone experiences rejection at some point in their life and people have to deal with it and move on, your friend WILL get over this. same as you'll get over losing your ex.
i still think you need professional help, more than we can offer here. try www.depressionalliance.org too, some members of thesite have recommended it before, theres a board like this and people who have been through depression can offer you advice. it has lots of information about places to contact and symptoms of depression and stuff like that.
you CAN get through this slops and we'll be here to listen if you need to get stuff off your chest <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
You feel hurt, rejected and confused right ?? Best thing to do is talk to someone about it. By pouring your heart out on the net, u've taken the first step and shown that u've realised u r not alone, and asked for help (which is always the hardest bit I find)
Try and talk to someone else i.e someone u actually know. if for whatever reason u cant (or dont wanna), then dont b ashamed to cry, cry and cry some more. It never fails to make me feel even just a little bit better, (I'm a bloke by the way) and it gets rid of some of the dodgy stuff in ure mind.
And I know the feeling, the voice inside u saying "DONT DO IT". This might sound a bit cliched, but u have ure whole life ahead of you, where u will meet new freinds in new places, and yes u will probably have ure heart broken again, but just make sure that u learn from every bad relationship, and that will be good for your mind in the long run.
Good luck babe xxx
i have been in your shoes (kinda) ive never got like this over a lad becos im in my forst SERIOUS relationship now and i hope it never ends! but i was bullied at school really badly in years 7,8,9 and a bit of 10 but im in year 11 now and nobody really says ne thing.
at more than 1 point i felt just the same as you, i wanted 2 end all the pain and i thought the only way i could do that was 2 kill myself. i am soooooo glad i didnt though cos i would have never found my hunk jamie!
please dont feel so bad, this lad is obviously not worth even a second of your time never mind your life. i mean so soon after u breaking up aand he is like that with your mate? and slagging you off? is it me or is that vvvvvinsensitive??? i think all u fine people will agree with mke on this 1!!!!
i think u should take time away from this lad and your mate and sort out your head, every1 is right find some1 close who u can talk 2 and best of all have a really good cry!
i hope all your pain eases soon good luck babes luv jo xxx~~~xxx~~~xxx
totally. very similar situation with my ex, i broke up with him and 2 weeks later he was with someone else, even though he was always the one who said he couldnt cope without me blah blah blah. so i just broke all contact with him after that, we'd been trying ot be friends but it so wasnt workign and i just couldnt forgive him for being so insensitive, it wasnt with a friend of mine but with one of his close friends who i had always suspected. so i think jolizzie has the right idea when she says find someone else to talk to about this and steer clear of your ex for a while.
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
thing is, i thought he was the last person to do that, all along he said hed never do that to me when my friends ex did it to her.. and then a few months later he was doing it himself! grrr. ah well, his new gf is welcome to him, hope i never see him again!
and yes i have found someone new and he's lovely <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> in fact you probably know him: Mark/Broken Heart/Original Prankster <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
and thanks for the compliment <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
How u all doin? Today i went to a councillor at school and talked it all through, it was great, after i had totally forgotten bout my ex and his new g/f (well nearly). So i think i'm getting over this stage but i know it'll come bk some day, dont ya think?
i have benn hearing stuff bout dis lad that has asked me out, that he will use me etc. he deny's it, but i heard it from every1 and my ex's best mate that has helped me though thick and thin wit my ex and i believe everythin he says. So? i dunno wot to do. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif">.
neway i hope all of u and ur troubles wit da similar situation as me work out, u lot and that have helped me and now i cant really believe thati actually did that, oh well, shit happens ey? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Write back boys and gals
Love Slops <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
well first of all i just want to say that slops dont do out daft its not worth it hes not worth it no1 is.
i can promise you that it will all go away one day very soon. i mean look at my gf (jolizzie) i dont really know wot she went throw but i no it was so hard for her but look at her now shes the happist person in the world (i hope).
neway chin up things can only get better.