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Is it ever ok to cheat?
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I've been with my boyfriend for ages, and we're settled and quite happy. But on the weekend, I bumped into an ex lover. He always had the upper hand before, but this told I told him I didn't want him and that nothing was going to happen...but we kissed. So that's that, a drunken snog... but now he wants to meet up, but I don't want to jeprodise my current relationship (especially since we're going through a rough patch at the moment).
Is it ever ok to have a one off thing? Because the lover doesn't care any thing more for me, even though I do (or did) for him.
Confused.
If I do go ahead and be naughty, surely my relationship is doomed....or is there any way I can have my cake and eat it?
Is it ever ok to have a one off thing? Because the lover doesn't care any thing more for me, even though I do (or did) for him.
Confused.
If I do go ahead and be naughty, surely my relationship is doomed....or is there any way I can have my cake and eat it?
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In my opinion you need to think about it like this....
Would it be ok if your boyfriend bumped into an ex, had a snog and then met up with her? I'm guessing you'd not be too pleased if he did that to you, which would answer your question :rolleyes:
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Yeah...i know.
Nnnngh
Nope.
Mr_Wobble
Think how you'd feel if it was your boyfriend doing it to you. You'd be worried that he didn't care about you or respect you, and that there was something wrong in the relationship - wouldn't you?
I always assumed it was just common decency to end one relationship before starting another one.
If you want to meet up with an ex lover, in my book, that's fine...
...but kissing him isn't
...and wanting to take it further, or expecting it to be taken further even if you don't want it to defenately isn't
and your point is?
long answer? NO. if you want to be a whore, do yourself a favour and break it off before you run off... surely you can keep your pants on long enough to give your current boy/girl an excuse?
So is you're boyfriend really that bad? Or are you just acting out of selfish desire. Be decent to him, if you're going to cheat on him he's better off without you so do the right thing and end it with him. The alternative is to just not cheat, no matter how hard that sounds :rolleyes:.
If you choose to cheat and not end it, then you are automatically showing what you think of your boyfriend, that you dont care what you do to him as long as you get a bit extra.
No.
Lol, yes indeedy that's inevitable!
There are a couple of ways around this. Either split with your boyfriend and look for someone else who satisfies whatever craving or need you have. Or, talk to your boyfriend about whatever is eating at you. Don't cheat on him - it's a sure-fire way to destroy someone's confidence if (more likely when) they find out.
I think everyone has had the curiosity of wondering about other flings while in a relationship - it's human nature - resisting the temptation is the test.