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Would you ever get into a relationship with someone...
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in a wheelchair?
Nothing wrong with thier brains, but say, someone had muscular dystrophe disease?
Thier muscles were wasting away and you know that when they are about 50 or 60 they might die but for now they can do everyday things but confined to a wheelchair, would you get together with them?
Nothing wrong with thier brains, but say, someone had muscular dystrophe disease?
Thier muscles were wasting away and you know that when they are about 50 or 60 they might die but for now they can do everyday things but confined to a wheelchair, would you get together with them?
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But, as it's an unlikely situation to arise, I could never be absolutely shure.
Is this hypothetical Jellygirl, or is there someone you know - a friend, or even yourself, perhaps?
Mr_Wobble
Ilora x
i'd lean towards what the others have said in that i wouldn't want to have someone rely on me for anything.
but if they were totally self-sufficient, just had no use of their legs, then yeah, why the hell not?
What she said!
I don't think meeting someone in a wheelchair would put me off if they were perfect in every other way.
and probably they wouldn't be able to give you what you wanted
A man has asked me out and says he really likes me he's nice looking and everything but i really don't think i can cope with someone in a wheelchair, his muscles are wasting away and when i told him i dont think i could cope with his illness he made me feel really bad like i'm the only person on earth that would say no so i kinda did this thread to prove it to myself that i'm not the only one.
And it's different if they're in a wheelchair and that's it - compared to an ongoing thing where they're getting worse and worse all the time.
:yes: Don't feel bad cause you told him the truth, you would feel so much worse if you had lied to him about it, or if you went out with him cause you felt sorry for him (trust me, I know!)
Mr_Wobble
Just for the record I`m with someone who, whilst he`s not in a wheelchair now, he is going to end up in one. His condition has deteriorated over the last couple of years and I have to do a fair bit for him now. It`s not something you`d take on lightly.
I think your main concerns when you first posted wasn't the fact he's in a wheelchair BUT he's gonna get worse and worse over time... I think that's the main concern most people would have.
If you meet a guy and he's in a wheel chair and he gonna stay as he is - then you know what you're letting yourself in for but if he's got something that's gonna make him more helpless day by day then that's something to think about...
Having said that - the againg process is the same exact thing anyway - just much slower and you're effected by aging just as much as your Partner..
Stuff what other people think. It`s what you think that matters.