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i need serious help!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ok, so i'll start by saying a big hello 2 everyone at thesite..u all seem so great!

Well my problem is that there's this absolute perfect bloke at college, called Guy, and he has looks just to die for!(why a problem i hear u cry)
The problem is that i'm totally obsessed with him, and i gave him a valentine card and pressie, even tho i hadn't spoken to him bfor. He was really nice about it, and said how flattered he was etc etc, but i can't stop thinking about him, and i need help.
I probably don't sound that obsessed with him so far, but trust me i am.
i rang up pretending to b someone else just so that i could talk to him, i know the names of his two brothers, where he lives, what car he drives ...do i need 2 go on??
So now i'm on half term and i'm thinking that this is a great oppertunity 2 get over him, but i saw him whilst out shopping in Brighton, in Brighton for gods sake, how bigger place for two people come across each other?!?! It was quite sweet tho coz he made a real concious effort to smile at me!
i spose i better tell u all about him tho coz u are probably thinking "y doesn't she just go talk 2 him?" but he is the most unapproachable person eva, and thats not just coz i fancy him!. He's also 2 years older than me and really confident, so i have no chance of just casually striking up conversation with him.He also knows how much i want him, coz of one of my ex freinds telling him how much i fancy him!! Its now really awkward coz i cant stop thinking about him but cant talk to him either. By the way he told my ex friend that he wasn't interested in me, so that also gets me down, but i'm hoping that if i get over the whole "too scared" thing and talk to him, i can win him over with my personality!
So what do u think i should do guys??

(sorry it was soooo long!)

jules++++

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    firstly welcome to TheSite! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    ummm sounds like you really like this guy! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    i guess if he told some1 he don't like u then i ges u cant do nefin bout it. Maybe chill out a it, play it cool. don't come on too strong coz thats sure to scare him off! i think everyone has their own tale of unrequited lurve, sometimes u get the one, sometimes u don't.

    i hope u do <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    this sounds sooooo much like me when i used to fancy people obsessively for ages and not say anything to anyone about them apart from my diary, and then some of my net friends when i started using the net.

    i didnt act on any of them, just smiled at the people sometimes if i was feeling brave!! so i guess im not that one to ask for advice really, sorry! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I sick u 'ave a teeny tiny little crush on zis perzon.

    I dunno...i guess talking to him is about all you can do.

    In order to give you more confidence that he is not gonna reject you, just cos he told ur ex-best mate that he's not interested doesn't mean he's not. He coulda just been trying to avoid problems or rumours or summin! i know i wont always admit to liking a girl, even to me mates.

    hope this helps,

    DM

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    U never know, he might like you.

    Im from brighton myself, what college u go to?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Calm down a bit, when you see him don't get het up, just smile and say hi!! He says he's not interested, but he doesn't know you, just get to know him, chat casually, apologise for getting a little excited when you saw him, and if you embarrased him when you gave him the vals pressie! He'll respect you for that, and it might help to convince him that you're not actually a psycho. (I don't mean any offence by that by the way, but you've got to see it from his point of view!) HAve a little more confidence in yourself, he sounds like a nice guy, and if he's worth anything, then he'll give you the time of day. If he just ignores you when you chat to him then he was never worth it in the first place!! Oh and just because he's two years older, it doesn't mean he's any better than you, and that you don't stand a chace. It hate this whole stigma about leagues and stuff, as far as I'm concerned no - one is ever out of anybodys league, you just need to have self confidence, which lets your personality shine through, therefore making you a beautiful person!!!

    Hope this helps!

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If he's so perfect, ur ex mate probably likes him 2.
    That would explain y she sed he doesnt like u??

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey guys
    thanks for your advice, it all sounds pretty much like what all my non-net buddies have told me to do.
    i'm so pleased that other people get obsessed with who they fancy, as all of my friends just get over boys sooo quick!
    Hey Girl From Mars- my obsession for Guy all stemmed from him wearing a T-shirt with Girl From Mars on it- i'm a big Ash fan, like him!
    I go to Lewes Tertiery college, what about u Harry??
    So i'll try the whole cool approach, and casual chat thing on Monday- hope it works.
    jules++++
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey guys
    thanks for your advice, it all sounds pretty much like what all my non-net buddies have told me to do.
    i'm so pleased that other people get obsessed with who they fancy, as all of my friends just get over boys sooo quick!
    Hey Girl From Mars- my obsession for Guy all stemmed from him wearing a T-shirt with Girl From Mars on it- i'm a big Ash fan, like him!
    I go to Lewes Tertiery college, what about u Harry??
    So i'll try the whole cool approach, and casual chat thing on Monday- hope it works.
    jules++++
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by guy's girl:
    Ok, so i'll start by saying a big hello 2 everyone at thesite..u all seem so great!

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; always a good way to start
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    Originally posted by guy's girl:
    snip...
    i'm so pleased that other people get obsessed with who they fancy, as all of my friends just get over boys sooo quick!
    Hey Girl From Mars- my obsession for Guy all stemmed from him wearing a T-shirt with Girl From Mars on it- i'm a big Ash fan, like him!

    ...snip

    i fancied one guy pretty much from the moment i met him in year 6 when we went out with friends of friends to a swimming pool, and then again when i saw him in year 7 briefly in doorways and stuff, and then in year 8 it was a full on obsession really (i had 3 major obsessions in year 7-9 really.. no 4! lol and fancied loads of other guys too)... and then i could NOT make myself stop liknig him, i even fancied him some of the time when i was with my ex, i dont knwo what it was, just a major crush i think. (dont worry mark i dont fancy him now or anyone else within a hundred mile radius for that matter <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; )

    anyway im sure i had a point... oh well i kept that obsession secret until year 10/11 when i became friends with my friends now and we played truth and stuff and it turns out everyone else fancied him too!

    but guy clearly has good taste to have me on his t-shirt <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    It only takes one tree to make a thousand matches, only takes one match to burn a thousand trees
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