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Advice On A Girl

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi everyone. Im new here and felt really lost about this girl so i'll describe what's going on and if you want, you could give me some advice. Cheers!

Basically, my mate was obsessed with this girl for 18 months! He was constantly tryin to pull her but she was just too different ie. she's very shy and he's the very loud, entertaining type (that every group of friends have). As a result of this I got introduced to her and then got to know her.

He seems to have cooled off now and just before Christmas I was told by a friend that she liked me. I was surprised but didn't really think much of it. But after we'd txt each other most nights and meet up with friends whenever we could, I started to develop a thing for her as she's a lovely girl.

I thought New Years Eve would be the best time to make a move but as I was working, it would have to wait until i'd finished. She rang me and told me where she and her friends were, we met up and i then found out she'd got off with another lad. <IMG alt="image" SRC="eek.gif" border="0">

We spent around 3 hours just walkin round with everyone but she was almost constantly linked in arms with me. I couldn't say or do anything after she'd done it with someone else so we just chatted like we always have done.

I feel really depressed and can't get her out of my head. We met up the day after and I just know she likes me. You can tell when there's something in the air.

At 18 I thought all this 'funny love' stuff would be out of the way. How wrong was I!?!

So please, feel free to comment. Cheers!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wel m8 i think you should tell this girl how you feel - lay all your cards out on the table.
    Its up to her what happens next! By the sounds of it id say ud b pretty good together!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    can i just say awwwwwwwwww! u really like this girl. ask her out or at least tell her how u feel. there is no point in just longing and doin nothing. tell her how u feel.

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Nice to see 2 positive replies. Its just really odd.

    She's the sweetest girl I know and she's very pretty also so whats stopping me!?! There seems to be something there that's been planted in the way. I think it's the fact that she got off with this lad on New Years Eve.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Anyone else wanna post? Please, I just want as many peoples thoughts and opinions as possible. You dont have to have 1000's of posts.

    Please dont be shy and post something. Im dying here!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think you should definately say something to her, cos u really like her. If you dont you will always be wondering what could have been.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It sounds as if she really likes you, but doesnt't want to admit it (hence her not telling you herself). She probably just got off with this other guy to get your attention if not to prove that she could because she is perceived as "shy".
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    it woz new years eve, so she was most probarbly drunk, and clearly it meant nothing. Dude, she likes you!! you like her!! dont let this opportunity pass you by, just tell her how you feel, or ask her out, if she likes you, she's gonna say yes! Dont be afraid, get it done!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If it was a New Years Eve pull, I doubt theres any feelings. Everyone does it. But if she wants you around and she gets on well with you theres a good chance that she does like you, certainly as a mate maybe more. Youll only know if you ask her.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im textin her now and she's making it so obvious. I really like her but can never find the right time to say as im vary rarely alone with her.

    I want it to be just right and tell her exactly how I feel. I know that sounds very girly but thats how I feel about it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It doesnt sound girly. It's seriously fucked up that in our society guys are expected to act all macho and not show any feelings and when they do they get called gay or "girly".
    Tell her how much she means to you but dont let her take advantage of you.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    We had a text conversation til 3 in the morning that night. I so want her!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Look man, as hard is it is, you have to go for it here. Please! U too would obviously be great for each other, so make it happen. And let us know how it went. Good luck mate! <IMG alt="image" SRC="smile.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ive gotta agree with everyone here.. U have 2 tell her how u feel!! It sounds 2 me like u have nothing 2 lose so go 4 it! Take her out on her own and have a great time, I'm sure it'll work out cos it sounds like u already get on well and find plenty 2 chat about. Let us all know as soon as u make the move!

    Good Luck!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Okay, sorry to keep draggin this on but things have got like 100 times more complicated! <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">

    If you remember my story, my friend fancied this girl for 18 months and she just wasn't having any of it. Found him very annoying and just, basically wasn't his type.

    Now he's said to be really pissed off cause he thinks me and this girl are going out (which isn't true yet) and that this is makin the girl ignore him ie. she's spending too much time with me. Ive asked her about this and she says he upsets her so I obviously dont wanna push her and let her get hurt.

    Another twist is that my friend lost his mum last year and he depends upon this girl for support as she's lost her dad also. He won't open up to anyone else. Im thinking of it like he's leaning on her and if i take her away he'll topple over into a right mess.

    In the meantime though she's making it more and more obvious she likes me.

    What to do, what to do??? <IMG alt="image" SRC="confused.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Okay, i was just reading through that and it isn't really give a fair picture as to how much this girl hates my friend. She refuses to talk to him. Completely!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tell her the truth about how u feel.
    There's no time like the present, so go for it.
    I think she will admire your honesty, and hopefully, she'll see that you truly do, care for her.
    i'm sure you will make a happy couple.
    If she doesn't want a relationship, let it go, but still regard your friendship, as you did before you told her.
    I am sure things will work out and i hope they do, Best of luck
    <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0"> TheShyGirlBeth xxx <IMG alt="image" SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanx 4 that Beth. It's such a mess cause i really want her but I can't say <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0"> I wanna spend all my time with her. I've got exams at the end of the month and I just wanna get with her <IMG alt="image" SRC="frown.gif" border="0">
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