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34yr old doc trouble
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hi guys, gotten my self in2 a situation.
u c, im a student nurse, and currently on a ward with a v.nice doctor! we got talkin 1 day last wk in between patients and seemed 2 get on well, but hes 34! and im only 18. then 2 day he walked past and kinda hit my hip, not hard just messin, then when i was with a patient waitn 2 go 2 theatre he came over and slipped a note in2 my pocket, sayin, 'wheres the valentine' his mob number and 2 ring after 4.30!
so n e way, he is cute etc, so i texed him at 6.30pm, and he texed back, and then he rang, and weve just been on the fone 4 1hr 45mins!
BUT, we chatted etc, and he said why he liked me etc, but he ses the age diff is a lot, and i agree, and couldnt c us in a serious relationship, so he just ses he wants a bit of fun! i agreed, but then he ses things like ive got a nice figure, and he bets ive got nice boobs etc! i was well shocked, it seemed a bit forward. but i just laughted. he ses hes b in straight with me, and we both kinda agreed on 'a bit of fun'. but im not to sure if he has his bit of fun & then never wants 2 talk 2 me again, i always think negatively though.
were meetin 2moro at 3pm, 2 talk, look at my tattoos, and c wot happens(thats wot he said). do u recon hes just leadin me on 2 get wot he wants?
im not realy sure wether im doin the rt thing, i want 2 but it just seems odd b in with a doctor!
i want 2 stay mates, so if i pull outta 2moro he might think im leadin him on as wew were a bit flirty on the fone, well he was ne way.
sorry its so long winded, please help, my head ses go but my heart ses no!
cheers guys, love helen
u c, im a student nurse, and currently on a ward with a v.nice doctor! we got talkin 1 day last wk in between patients and seemed 2 get on well, but hes 34! and im only 18. then 2 day he walked past and kinda hit my hip, not hard just messin, then when i was with a patient waitn 2 go 2 theatre he came over and slipped a note in2 my pocket, sayin, 'wheres the valentine' his mob number and 2 ring after 4.30!
so n e way, he is cute etc, so i texed him at 6.30pm, and he texed back, and then he rang, and weve just been on the fone 4 1hr 45mins!
BUT, we chatted etc, and he said why he liked me etc, but he ses the age diff is a lot, and i agree, and couldnt c us in a serious relationship, so he just ses he wants a bit of fun! i agreed, but then he ses things like ive got a nice figure, and he bets ive got nice boobs etc! i was well shocked, it seemed a bit forward. but i just laughted. he ses hes b in straight with me, and we both kinda agreed on 'a bit of fun'. but im not to sure if he has his bit of fun & then never wants 2 talk 2 me again, i always think negatively though.
were meetin 2moro at 3pm, 2 talk, look at my tattoos, and c wot happens(thats wot he said). do u recon hes just leadin me on 2 get wot he wants?
im not realy sure wether im doin the rt thing, i want 2 but it just seems odd b in with a doctor!
i want 2 stay mates, so if i pull outta 2moro he might think im leadin him on as wew were a bit flirty on the fone, well he was ne way.
sorry its so long winded, please help, my head ses go but my heart ses no!
cheers guys, love helen
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It sounds like he's taking advantage of the classic doctor/nurse relationship & imho the 16yr age gap isn't so big.
I'm not trying to spoil your fun, but your doubts are already there aren't they & that should tell you alot. If you go ahead, be prepared to use him as much as he uses you <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Good luck Helly.
j9
I had a life once, but I stopped feeding it so one day it just walked away.
MTS ^5
so then i found it strange that we were talkin bout sex and how many girls he shagged, im tryin not 2 b nieve bout his beliefs, but he was so 4 his religion, do u htink this makes the 'bit of fun' more of just a bit of using me? god i hate men most of the time! soz blokes.
can n e 1 fill me in on sum of his beliefs please.
Meet with him, have a laff but don't let him take advantage of you. It sounds like he just wants a shag.
Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
I know what its like to be talkin to someone n be flirting wiv them, u cant help it.
But seriously like i thought to meself @ the beginning well he said its just a bit of fun that means its just sex, n then when u end up falling in love with them they go " well u knew from the start" and all that shit,
if ur happy wiv it just being sex then fine go for it but i seriously dont think its a good idea if ur expecting just a teeny bit more even,
dont trick urself into thinking hes gonna fall for u or nothing like that because i just dont think its gonna happen, it seems to me hes laid it down on the line, he just wants some fun n about the marraige n that too,
sorry to sound harsh n if ive taken this more deeper than it realy is but i really think this guy is just after some punani.
Good Luck in makin ur mind up.
It's something unpredictable
But in the end is right
I hope you had the time of your life
n e way, we were kissin etc then we went 2 his room & things happened, but it was mainly 1sided, he did it all 2 me! he he he.
but if i said no then he stopped, he kept tryin 4 sex but never forced n e thin.
it feels weird, but bein with him most of 2day hasnt made me wanna have him so badly that i ve fallen in love or n e thin, which is wot usually happens, so thats good.
we chatted bout his religion etc, and he is suppost 2 b havin an arranged marriage, and no sex, no alcohol- that bit hes stuck 2.
he wants it 2 happen again, but i will have 2 think bout it, he is lovely, and i dont notice the age thing, though we did laugh bout it, but i will have 2 c if he ignores me when were back at work.
it was fun though.
thanx 4 the advice guys,
loadz a love helen
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