Erm, does she want me or not?

Former Member

Right, this is my first time on this board but here goes...

A couple of months ago, my mate introduced me to his new girlfriend and from that moment we pretty much clicked.

Time went on and we got talking, then all of a sudden the other week she came over to me in the pub to tell me that she had finished with him.

For the past few weeks, even when she was still seeing my mate, she has been making eyes at me and all the usual flirty body language.

So the other day I went into a pub with a few mates (not the ex!) and she came straight over and stayed with me all night, then I walked her all the way home and we had a really good talk, after which I asked her in a nice way "What about me and you, do you reckon there is a chance?" She got all embarrassed and never answered.

Time goes on and again just the other day I meet her and end up with her for a few hours, and she is really flirty and friendly.

Again, we get talking and I ask where I stand and she says something about things would get complicated...but that I have her number and to maybe ring her.

She is a few years younger than me... maybe she likes me but is just embarrassed... but then again, why should she be when she knows that I like her?

What should I do? Have I done as much as I can? Is the 'ball in her court'? Have I got any chance???

Thanks!

Former Member

Im in a similar situation. I know the feeling, she wont tell u where she u stand, well what im doing is talong her put this weekend and hopefully we can get it on then, or gpo out with loads of mates and flirt loads and just pluck up the courage to make a move for her, i doubt she will say no, by the way she sounds in the post

Former Member

Since we don't know alllll that much about the girl, it is hard to tell.

It is quite likely that you have a good chance You seem quite confident with girls - or at least girls you know - so when we suggest something it is likely you will acutally heed the advice.

With all my years and years of worldy experience, I would have to say you just have to keep dropping "hints" that you are ready for a relationship. That way, essentially the ball is in her court, no matter how many swipes she may take at it, it will not go away until she gives a straigh answer (sorry for mixing metaphor and reality).

I'm sure others will be able to give far better advice than myself, but I wish you the best of luck.

And by the way, welcome to TheSite.org...I hope you enjoy it here.

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Former Member

Ok well coming from a girls point of view,

she just split up with your mate obviously she needs time to get over him and is worried that if she gets with you the shits gonna hit the fan,

if she said uve got my number u can call me,

well call her its obvious she wants u too, girls dont say stuff like that for nuffin,

maybe shes playin a bit hard to get like tryna get u to ring her n that,

if u really like her ring her n dont mess about.

Good Luck

Former Member

dude.

don't forget to factor in ur mate. how will he feel if he knows u're going out with some one he dated.

i know this girl could be the start of something special, but if this is one of ur best mates, it may not be worth it. i know it's hard when this could quite possibly the girl of ur dreams.

just be upfront with ur mate before it gets to late and becomes something u can't fix, cause good mates are hard to come by.

then go get her with a clear conscience, tiger. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

Former Member

But she was the one who broke it off with my mate as he wasn't treating her right.

Maybe she isn'y flirting maybe she is just being friendly???

What do you think?

Former Member

So this is how it ends...

Last night out with mate (Yeah the mate I was talking about above.

He gets 2/3 phone calls off his 'ex'

He tells me and her that he is not interested anymore.

Next thing she just wanders past the pub and my mate ends up going to talk to her.

I go home. Ring mate. He said he was telling her he was not interested. I believe him.

But I cannot go on chasing this girl if she has not got over my mate even is she makes it seem that way to my mate.

Next time I see her if she still acts like that I am just going to ask her if there is any chance of me and her getting together and I want a Maybe or No answer.

If it is a maybe than I will carry on chasing. If it is a no, then that is the end obviously. If she surprises me and says YES then ... Happy Days.

Any comments?

Former Member

i kinda soundslike she likes u, but maybe she dusnt want to hurt her ex by going out with someone else so soon.

i hope it works out 4 u man! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Former Member

Hmmm well....

walking past the pub and ringing him up 2/3 times. sounds like she aint got over him really to me,

the walking past the pub thingwqs probably an attempt to get his attention,

i think u should be careful with this girl, sounds like shes still in love with ur m8, but i could be wonrg, she might also b using u to get to him,

only time well tell, just watch ur back being used isnt nice as im sure a lot of us know.

Former Member

Originally posted by PC:
So this is how it ends...

Last night out with mate (Yeah the mate I was talking about above.

He gets 2/3 phone calls off his 'ex'

He tells me and her that he is not interested anymore.

Next thing she just wanders past the pub and my mate ends up going to talk to her.

I go home. Ring mate. He said he was telling her he was not interested. I believe him.

But I cannot go on chasing this girl if she has not got over my mate even is she makes it seem that way to my mate.

Next time I see her if she still acts like that I am just going to ask her if there is any chance of me and her getting together and I want a Maybe or No answer.

If it is a maybe than I will carry on chasing. If it is a no, then that is the end obviously. If she surprises me and says YES then ... Happy Days.

Any comments?

dude. my thoughts are to steer clear of all of this til it blows over between your mate and this girl.

He may tell you it's over and he doesn't want her, and IF you ask her where you and her r at, she might even give you and indication that you may have a future...

but all the evidence indicates that at least one of them is not giving up on that relationship. if she's calling 2/3 times AND coming to talk to him in person, sounds to me like she is still carrying a torch for him.

do urself a favor. wait it out. if she likes you, you will have no problem going out with her after she sorts all this out. if you ask now.. you might just cause more hard feelings cause it sounds like she's not ready to give ur mate up.

plus, she might be using u to get to him, u never know. and that would just be horrible.

and the other bad thing to think about is if you will be her rebound. again, not another nice place to be.

yikes. good luck dude.