Not Over My EX

BillieTheBot

Hello again. I always seem 2 have a problem!
This time it is quite big, i'm totally not over my EX! I feel really bad coz i'm 'seeing' this really great guy (Matt) but all i can think about is Tom (my ex). Me & Tom have just recently became friends after nearly 2 months of not talking 2 each other & i really don't want 2 fuck things u wit him!
I realised that i wasn't over him on Sat nite. Tom & a couple of his mates met me from work & asked if i wanted 2 'hang out' wit them if i weren't doin ne thing else. I said OK & we were just doin the usual shit we used 2 do when i woz goin out wit Tom but then we went back 2 Tom's house & he asked if we all wanted 2 sleep the nite there....including me! So i said i would (i woz the only girl) & i had a pretty cool time except i realised i still REALLY like him! After all the shit he did 2 me & the way he treated me & i still fucking like him! Wot the fuck is wrong wit me?!?!
I can't tell ne1 how i feel though coz i also really like Matt & things r goin really well so i don't wanna fuck things up wit him!
I woz gonna tell Tom i couldn't hang out wit him 4 a while just so i won't have 2 c him but he would think that woz really weird & would then probably come up 2 my house 2 c me ne way! HELP PLEASE!!

Former Member

well i dont wanna seem like an agony aunt but ill give u some advice! you really need to decide who you like the most, i don't know wot tom did to you in the past but if it was cheating on you then i would think really carefully about whether u want to throw away wot u have got with matt? because if tom knows he can cheat on you and u will forgive him he is sure to do it again

i think u should give it a bit of time by just staying friends with tom 4 a bit, and if u still feel the same way about him, then the most decent thing to do is tell matt that u still have feelings 4 tom (u never know he may be understanding!) then talk things through with tom and tell him u r not "GETTING BAK TOGETHER" U R WILLING TO "start a fresh".

anyway i hope ive been some help 2 u

write back luv jo xxxxx

Former Member

Thanx 4 replying Jo!
I'm glad 2 say Tom didn't cheat on me but i've been cheated on b4 & it hurts! I woz wit him for 5 months & i'd say 4 and a half of those months were really good but the last couple of weeks he changed & started talking 2 me & treating me like i woz a piece of shit (he spoke 2 me the way he spoke 2 his half sis, which weren't v.nice!) & a few other things happened which i don't really wanna talk about but he never cheated on me.
I ain't gonna tell Tom how i feel about him coz i am pretty certain he doesn't feel the same @ all & i've decided i ain't gonna tell Matt just yet either until i've sorted all of my feelings out that I think i have for Tom.
I'll tell u wot happens in the end! Wish me luck! I'm gonna need it! XxX