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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 22.09.25

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  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,998 The Mix Elder
    I collapsed out of nowhere
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    ✨ 𝒯ℋℐ𝒮 ℐ𝒮 ℳℰ ✨
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    Last night was rough, low, and when getting up it was like I was waking up back to misery but it's not been too bad today. It was just I had a nice dream then it was like it wasn't real then what was real to waking up to guilt and sadness
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,621 Boards Guru
    Hey @River , that sounds so frightening to go through, especially for it to happen with no explanation or warning. How are you feeling this afternoon? I think you mentioned your mum might be back in the house by now, is that right?

    Is this something that has ever happened before?
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,621 Boards Guru
    @Redemption , it sounds like things have been heavy lately, and you've been carrying a lot of guilt. That sounds so hard - that feeling of going to bed slightly dreading the next day, and not being able to get any relief from the sadness you're feeling. Would it feel helpful to share some more about what you're feeling guilty for at the moment, and where that sadness is coming from? We're here for you and we're listening.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,998 The Mix Elder
    @Sian321 i have a bad headache but I’ve not eaten all day so it could be from that, I’m going out for dinner soon and yeah my mum is home
    ✨ ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝒷𝓇𝒶𝓋ℯ. ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝒷𝓇𝓊𝒾𝓈ℯ𝒹. ℐ 𝒶𝓂 𝓌𝒽ℴ 𝒾𝓂 𝓂ℯ𝒶𝓃𝓉 𝓉ℴ 𝒷ℯ ✨

    ✨ 𝒯ℋℐ𝒮 ℐ𝒮 ℳℰ ✨
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    Sian321 wrote: »
    @Redemption , it sounds like things have been heavy lately, and you've been carrying a lot of guilt. That sounds so hard - that feeling of going to bed slightly dreading the next day, and not being able to get any relief from the sadness you're feeling. Would it feel helpful to share some more about what you're feeling guilty for at the moment, and where that sadness is coming from? We're here for you and we're listening.

    @Sian321 i basically got told about a job but didn't look more into it and ive been struggling for so long venting and I didn't take it, more information here,
    https://community.themix.org.uk/discussion/comment/3809299#Comment_3809299

    thank you for replying to me
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 26
    Hopefully the rest of the night is better than yesterday, Im not 100 percent still but Im getting there but feeling better than yesterday
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    I was struggling last night / early morning, I just have to go on and pretend Im ok in front of everyone, I am not too bad up to now but I have to be anyway.
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,621 Boards Guru
    Hey @Redemption thanks so much for this post. Having to pretend to be okay when, on the inside, you're really struggling sounds draining. What do you wish the people around you could better understand about what you're going through right now? If you knew they would listen, what would you want to say?
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,522 Supreme Poster
    hi <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,522 Supreme Poster
    Redemption wrote: »
    I was struggling last night / early morning, I just have to go on and pretend Im ok in front of everyone, I am not too bad up to now but I have to be anyway.

    hru doing now? im here if you need to talk abt anything. <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    Sian321 wrote: »
    Hey @Redemption thanks so much for this post. Having to pretend to be okay when, on the inside, you're really struggling sounds draining. What do you wish the people around you could better understand about what you're going through right now? If you knew they would listen, what would you want to say?

    @Sian321 I wish people understand that I have been struggling and maybe to go easier on me. I think Id just talk about some dark thoughts but it does take courage to talk about them. I just wish I could have a physical hug, I need it.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    eylah wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    I was struggling last night / early morning, I just have to go on and pretend Im ok in front of everyone, I am not too bad up to now but I have to be anyway.

    hru doing now? im here if you need to talk abt anything. <3

    Im ok thank you @eylah I just wish I could have a physical hug, I hope you're well.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    I wish I could have a big physical hug, I have needed one for so long
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    Im feeling really irratable today
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    @DonnerKebab are you free to talk, bro?
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Community Connector Posts: 2,156 Boards Champion
    Redemption wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab are you free to talk, bro?

    @Redemption hey bro, sorry i've been a while, yeah, course i am
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    Redemption wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab are you free to talk, bro?

    @Redemption hey bro, sorry i've been a while, yeah, course i am

    @DonnerKebab nah thats ok, Im grateful you chat, thsnk you so much I hope it's not an issue supporting me. I had some of the food I was on about earlier and I couldn’t eat it, I didn't like it at all.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Community Connector Posts: 2,156 Boards Champion
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab are you free to talk, bro?

    @Redemption hey bro, sorry i've been a while, yeah, course i am

    @DonnerKebab nah thats ok, Im grateful you chat, thsnk you so much I hope it's not an issue supporting me. I had some of the food I was on about earlier and I couldn’t eat it, I didn't like it at all.

    @Redemption you shouldn't feel like you have to force yourself to eat food you don't like. It's madness. If you don't enjoy it, it's no different than eating an MRE pack. Your whole situation, being surrounded by people who are trying guilt you into eating it all isn't good, and it's no wonder you've been struggling.

    And it isn't an issue at all offering you what support i can. You damn well deserve support bro. I'm not as active as i used to be admittedly, and i've had times on here where i've gone full support mode for a week, and other times, i've stepped away for a bit for a week here and there. My supports been really inconsistent, but i'm always happy to try and help you where i can mate.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab are you free to talk, bro?

    @Redemption hey bro, sorry i've been a while, yeah, course i am

    @DonnerKebab nah thats ok, Im grateful you chat, thsnk you so much I hope it's not an issue supporting me. I had some of the food I was on about earlier and I couldn’t eat it, I didn't like it at all.

    @Redemption you shouldn't feel like you have to force yourself to eat food you don't like. It's madness. If you don't enjoy it, it's no different than eating an MRE pack. Your whole situation, being surrounded by people who are trying guilt you into eating it all isn't good, and it's no wonder you've been struggling.

    And it isn't an issue at all offering you what support i can. You damn well deserve support bro. I'm not as active as i used to be admittedly, and i've had times on here where i've gone full support mode for a week, and other times, i've stepped away for a bit for a week here and there. My supports been really inconsistent, but i'm always happy to try and help you where i can mate.

    @DonnerKebab I didn't have to finish it luckily, chucked it away, after taste is there though, I normally like this food but I don't like this, it stunk, didn't look the best and didn't taste the best, I was just gagging through i but its gone now. It's not even my low mood i just honestly don't like it.

    I really appreciate it. I have been having a bit of down day, been irratable, tired, been a tough week, been a tough time long term but times are tougher than others. I got really heavy on Thursdays chat. It's been tough since that time, after that chat I shortly went to bed, tough night and I think I cried, its ok to cry. I cried during that chat, I want to say a massive thank you to you and the people who supported me in that chat, thank you so much and the incredible mods, y'all amazing and youre a top lad. Im learning and reflecting. I have a meeting with this guy who had that opportunity and going to talk to him about what I want to do, Ill be wider. Can't dwell on that opportunity because its done with.
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Community Connector Posts: 2,156 Boards Champion
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab are you free to talk, bro?

    @Redemption hey bro, sorry i've been a while, yeah, course i am

    @DonnerKebab nah thats ok, Im grateful you chat, thsnk you so much I hope it's not an issue supporting me. I had some of the food I was on about earlier and I couldn’t eat it, I didn't like it at all.

    @Redemption you shouldn't feel like you have to force yourself to eat food you don't like. It's madness. If you don't enjoy it, it's no different than eating an MRE pack. Your whole situation, being surrounded by people who are trying guilt you into eating it all isn't good, and it's no wonder you've been struggling.

    And it isn't an issue at all offering you what support i can. You damn well deserve support bro. I'm not as active as i used to be admittedly, and i've had times on here where i've gone full support mode for a week, and other times, i've stepped away for a bit for a week here and there. My supports been really inconsistent, but i'm always happy to try and help you where i can mate.

    @DonnerKebab I didn't have to finish it luckily, chucked it away, after taste is there though, I normally like this food but I don't like this, it stunk, didn't look the best and didn't taste the best, I was just gagging through i but its gone now. It's not even my low mood i just honestly don't like it.

    I really appreciate it. I have been having a bit of down day, been irratable, tired, been a tough week, been a tough time long term but times are tougher than others. I got really heavy on Thursdays chat. It's been tough since that time, after that chat I shortly went to bed, tough night and I think I cried, its ok to cry. I cried during that chat, I want to say a massive thank you to you and the people who supported me in that chat, thank you so much and the incredible mods, y'all amazing and youre a top lad. Im learning and reflecting. I have a meeting with this guy who had that opportunity and going to talk to him about what I want to do, Ill be wider. Can't dwell on that opportunity because its done with.

    @Redemption that's good bro. Sounds like the food was gone of by the sounds of it. Nasty food is nasty food regardless. And I'm really glad you opened up on Thursday as well. It takes a huge amount of bravery to be admit that, and you should be proud of yourself for opening up. We're all proud of you. As you said yourself, it is okay to cry. We aren't robots, we're people. People feel things, they have low points and high points. It's probably stranger not to cry if i'm honest. And it is true as your experiencing at the moment some low points really are painful and at times, it might be difficult to see a light at the end of the tunnel when your going through it, but having been there myself, i can tell you that the light is still there, it's just hard to see during those low patches. All storms eventually pass, it's just about holding on until it does.

    And you are right. An opportunity passed isn't something you can fix unless you have a time machine. I've mentioned this once before, but all you can do is whatever is in your power currently. You can't change the past, you can't go back and change decisions made, all you can do is work on yourself, learn from it all and move forward, and that is what you are doing. Not dwelling on it, but pursuing more opportunities. So well done to you bro. Your breakthrough will come in time. You're still fighting on, so well done.
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    @DonnerKebab are you free to talk, bro?

    @Redemption hey bro, sorry i've been a while, yeah, course i am

    @DonnerKebab nah thats ok, Im grateful you chat, thsnk you so much I hope it's not an issue supporting me. I had some of the food I was on about earlier and I couldn’t eat it, I didn't like it at all.

    @Redemption you shouldn't feel like you have to force yourself to eat food you don't like. It's madness. If you don't enjoy it, it's no different than eating an MRE pack. Your whole situation, being surrounded by people who are trying guilt you into eating it all isn't good, and it's no wonder you've been struggling.

    And it isn't an issue at all offering you what support i can. You damn well deserve support bro. I'm not as active as i used to be admittedly, and i've had times on here where i've gone full support mode for a week, and other times, i've stepped away for a bit for a week here and there. My supports been really inconsistent, but i'm always happy to try and help you where i can mate.

    @DonnerKebab I didn't have to finish it luckily, chucked it away, after taste is there though, I normally like this food but I don't like this, it stunk, didn't look the best and didn't taste the best, I was just gagging through i but its gone now. It's not even my low mood i just honestly don't like it.

    I really appreciate it. I have been having a bit of down day, been irratable, tired, been a tough week, been a tough time long term but times are tougher than others. I got really heavy on Thursdays chat. It's been tough since that time, after that chat I shortly went to bed, tough night and I think I cried, its ok to cry. I cried during that chat, I want to say a massive thank you to you and the people who supported me in that chat, thank you so much and the incredible mods, y'all amazing and youre a top lad. Im learning and reflecting. I have a meeting with this guy who had that opportunity and going to talk to him about what I want to do, Ill be wider. Can't dwell on that opportunity because its done with.

    @Redemption that's good bro. Sounds like the food was gone of by the sounds of it. Nasty food is nasty food regardless. And I'm really glad you opened up on Thursday as well. It takes a huge amount of bravery to be admit that, and you should be proud of yourself for opening up. We're all proud of you. As you said yourself, it is okay to cry. We aren't robots, we're people. People feel things, they have low points and high points. It's probably stranger not to cry if i'm honest. And it is true as your experiencing at the moment some low points really are painful and at times, it might be difficult to see a light at the end of the tunnel when your going through it, but having been there myself, i can tell you that the light is still there, it's just hard to see during those low patches. All storms eventually pass, it's just about holding on until it does.

    And you are right. An opportunity passed isn't something you can fix unless you have a time machine. I've mentioned this once before, but all you can do is whatever is in your power currently. You can't change the past, you can't go back and change decisions made, all you can do is work on yourself, learn from it all and move forward, and that is what you are doing. Not dwelling on it, but pursuing more opportunities. So well done to you bro. Your breakthrough will come in time. You're still fighting on, so well done.

    Thank you so much @DonnerKebab so kind. Also what Im worried about is it might seem like Im not wanting to work but I am. It just was certain stuff but I need to maybe cut some leeway a bit. I worry about what people here think about not taking the opportunity any further. It's been tough just getting over it, just was so irratable at the thing. If you meant food gone as in out off, it wasn't off, it was just how that place was, a lot of people probably like it but I wasn't a fan unfortunately. I'm still healing from everything. Going to keep applying and keep going, keep going to my course, see this guy on Wednesday and hopefully he'll be in contact with more opportunities. I really appreciate the positivity and encouragement. Im so so glad I've got here. The watch party was a good distraction for it. I love this community so so much.
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,522 Supreme Poster
    im here crying my eyes out my bf couldn’t give two shits.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    eylah wrote: »
    im here crying my eyes out my bf couldn’t give two shits.

    @eylah Im so so sorry you're upset but we all care so much about you Im so sorry you feel like that. A massive hug from me.
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,522 Supreme Poster
    edited September 27
    Redemption wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    im here crying my eyes out my bf couldn’t give two shits.

    @eylah Im so so sorry you're upset but we all care so much about you Im so sorry you feel like that. A massive hug from me.

    hugs 🫂. just the fact that ive got so much going on rn and he is ignoring me. telling me im overreatcing for feeling what i do. etc and tonight im sad and he doesn’t give a shit. he’s even said he wants to break up with me and couldn’t care if he does. :( i just want to be loved.

    i think i just need to sleep but i physically can’t.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,522 Supreme Poster
    Redemption wrote: »
    I wish I could have a big physical hug, I have needed one for so long

    i need a hug to but im sending you the biggest hug i can possibly send you over the phone. <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    eylah wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    im here crying my eyes out my bf couldn’t give two shits.

    @eylah Im so so sorry you're upset but we all care so much about you Im so sorry you feel like that. A massive hug from me.

    hugs 🫂. just the fact that ive got so much going on rn and he is ignoring me. telling me im overreatcing for feeling what i do. etc and tonight im sad and he doesn’t give a shit. he’s even said he wants to break up with me and couldn’t care if he does. :( i just want to be loved.

    i think i just need to sleep but i physically can’t.

    @eylah you aren't overreacting at all, your feelings are completely valid I promise, we all love and care about you here. Im so so sorry he's not being supportive at all but we are here and we always will be. Im so sorry you can't sleep too. You are loved by us and we all care about you so much ❤️.
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,522 Supreme Poster
    Redemption wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    im here crying my eyes out my bf couldn’t give two shits.

    @eylah Im so so sorry you're upset but we all care so much about you Im so sorry you feel like that. A massive hug from me.

    hugs 🫂. just the fact that ive got so much going on rn and he is ignoring me. telling me im overreatcing for feeling what i do. etc and tonight im sad and he doesn’t give a shit. he’s even said he wants to break up with me and couldn’t care if he does. :( i just want to be loved.

    i think i just need to sleep but i physically can’t.

    @eylah you aren't overreacting at all, your feelings are completely valid I promise, we all love and care about you here. Im so so sorry he's not being supportive at all but we are here and we always will be. Im so sorry you can't sleep too. You are loved by us and we all care about you so much ❤️.

    thankyou so so much. <3 im here for you <3. im glad he’s having a fun and enjoyable night. making me feel like shit. he doesn’t deserve me. :(
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 9,522 Supreme Poster
    btw @Redemption you can talk to me. im here for you <3 you mean so much to me. <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,546 Part of The Furniture
    eylah wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    Redemption wrote: »
    eylah wrote: »
    im here crying my eyes out my bf couldn’t give two shits.

    @eylah Im so so sorry you're upset but we all care so much about you Im so sorry you feel like that. A massive hug from me.

    hugs 🫂. just the fact that ive got so much going on rn and he is ignoring me. telling me im overreatcing for feeling what i do. etc and tonight im sad and he doesn’t give a shit. he’s even said he wants to break up with me and couldn’t care if he does. :( i just want to be loved.

    i think i just need to sleep but i physically can’t.

    @eylah you aren't overreacting at all, your feelings are completely valid I promise, we all love and care about you here. Im so so sorry he's not being supportive at all but we are here and we always will be. Im so sorry you can't sleep too. You are loved by us and we all care about you so much ❤️.

    thankyou so so much. <3 im here for you <3. im glad he’s having a fun and enjoyable night. making me feel like shit. he doesn’t deserve me. :(

    @eylah I agree he definitely doesn't deserve you, it's making me upset that you're being treated like that. Im glad you recognise this. We are family here and we really do care.
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