In a day

ellie2000

Y does 1 thing tht a person say get me down all day?

Matthew_04

Hey @ellie2000
It's totally normal for this to happen sometimes, especially if what they said has struck a chord with you or the person saying it is quite close to you.
Would you like to share what was said?
Sometimes I find that trying to distract yourself with an activity or seeing some friends can help lift your mood a wee bit!

ellie2000

@Matthew_04 he was in the care position. I managed to play keyboard I haven't for a while coz the the hav a bee in their bonnet atm. R they supposed too, Have grudges against who they look after?

ellie2000

One of them walked passed mè, as he did he made a sound of disgust. And he sed hello politely to another tenant

Matthew_04

Aw I'm so sorry that happened. They're absolutely not allowed to hold grudges against you like that. Do you think telling someone else who works with them would help the situation?
How are you feeling about this now?

ellie2000

@Matthew_04 I told a original carer who were b4 the new management about how the deputy manager made me go without lunch once. Was tht a bad thing do?
I got told to accept support. I do I behave, mum wrote a thing to agree to but they don't follow it. Wat do I do to not think about the way of we r treated? They do stuff which r triggers.
I was feeling gd about myself originally but they slowly lower my self esteem n self worth everyday.
Things r slowly getting there but at the moment we've hit a brick wall with housing situation

Matthew_04

Hey @ellie2000
I'm so glad you told a carer about that, that wasn't okay of the deputy manager to do at all and you did the right thing telling someone about that.
It sounds so difficult to be in that situation, trying not to think about how they are treating you even though it triggers you and is hurting your self esteem. You are being very brave and strong being able to talk about this We are all here for you through this.

You mentioned your mum wrote a letter to them, would you like to share more about this? It sounds ilke she is writing to advocate for you, is that correct? Is there anyone else in your corner advocating for your needs?

Would you like to share more about the housing situation?

ellie2000

@Matthew_04 we hav an advocate now, n while mum n her were tlkn I thought to myself 'I feel bullied' I got told to keep my head down. Is it because I got an advocate they're not tlk or paying attention to wen I ask forhelp?

Matthew_04

It's so good to hear you've got an advocate now ellie!

ellie2000 wrote: »

while mum n her were tlkn I thought to myself 'I feel bullied'

It's also really good that in moments where your mum and her were talking you were able to take this time to check in on yourself and work out how you were feeling. I'm wondering, did they say for you to keep your head down or was it the other staff that told you to do that?
Sometimes trying to stay out of people's way is the best method for keeping yourself out of harms way whilst a longer term plan is thought of - if your mum and the advocate said that then maybe this is what they meant?
I'm also wondering if there have been any developments on the housing situation?

ellie2000

@Matthew_04 it was my mum thinking 4 me to stay out the way n keep my head down, my carers don't care, they should b shut down as their attitude has turned sour.
I'm still waiting n I'm sinking abit further everyday. How do I manage my mental health wen ppl r being sh*tty?

Blue_lily

Hi @ellie2000 I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, you do not deserve this kind of treatment from others around you, especially when they are supposed to be caring for you.

For your mental health maybe you could focus on the time you have with yourself and make this as peaceful and enjoyable as possible while your mum and advocate help sort out the situation.

Is there any particular activity/hobby you really enjoy doing or that you find brings you peace as this may help you feel a bit better, I often like to bake as I find it distracts me from what is going on around me, reading also helps me.

ellie2000

@Blue_lily @Matthew_04 I like playing games n I stopped playing keyboard coz I got told to by management, why wen we get unhappy we stew over wat was done or sed. Management reversed a situation someone told me and I missed daily stuff coz i stewed over it, like therapy n a wellbeing call. Why can't care places b professional ppl act for care not anything else?

ellie2000

@Blue_lily @Matthew_04

Blue_lily

@ellie2000

What kind of games do you enjoy playing?

Do you enjoy drawing as well, from the pictures above it looks like you've recently been doing lots of art.

eylah

ellie2000 wrote: »

@Blue_lily @Matthew_04

they’re well nice @ellie2000 ! you’re very talented

Matthew_04

Hey @ellie2000
Just want to echo what @Blue_lily has said and its great to see you doing some drawing to pass the time. My favourites have to be the owl and the turtle!

ellie2000 wrote: »

Management reversed a situation someone told me and I missed daily stuff coz i stewed over it, like therapy n a wellbeing call. Why can't care places b professional ppl act for care not anything else?

I can hear how frustrating this is for you, the way they are acting is really unprofessional - you're right.

I'm wondering how the past couple of days have been for you?

ellie2000

@Matthew_04 the last few days, I confronted a carer, b4 tht I was looking at a abc the manager sent me, idk y, my behaviour is gd, I'm resisting but they don't like it. I told the carer tht she belongs on a abc, so I email where I go in the day y I was absent, coz the carers n management make me unhappy. One of the managers reversed a situation saying that I was being rude bur tht day I was asking for help frm another tenant nd she butted in so I sed 'don't butt in' nd she went off on one. I tried to steer the conversation away by asking how the other manager was, then I walked away. Since then I've been feeling off.
I had a few mental mishaps but the carers didn't help me wen I sed 'help me'
I sed a rude word describing a cake n someone frm the cafe reported me to the management of where I live, is it other ppls business wen they don't no me? Ppl don't tlk to me or see if I'm alright, y?

Sian321

Hi @ellie2000 thank you very much for making this post. How are you doing this morning?

It sounds like you've been having a very hard time with your carer recently, and you've felt shut down or told off by her. You also mentioned a carer making a sound of disgust whilst walking past you, carers holding grudges against you, and also preventing you from eating a meal. This sounds concerning, and no one has a right to ever treat you this way, most especially those who care for you.

And you also mentioned that carers don't seem to be checking in on your when you're going through a mental mishap. That sounds really, really hard, and you deserve to receive help when you ask for it.

Can we ask, what do you mean when you say you've had a few 'mental mishaps'? And when you say, "I'm sinking abit further everyday." You're being really brave to talk about this.

Can I also check to ask whether you currently do have access to food, and if you'd feel comfortable sharing more about the time they didn't give you a meal?

We wonder if you've felt able to talk with anyone else about the fact that your carers have not been responding when you say 'help me'?

We're here for you and we're listening. You're doing really well to talk about this.