everything is so shit 💔

eylah

when will it ever get better? im sat in my bed rn crying bc everything is rly rly overwhelming for me. 💔 my sister is hopefully coming home in the next few days ( if her obs and shit stay ok) but idk christmas is so right round the corner literally next week and im spending it alone. i know im gonna struggle i rly am bc i havent got my mum this year to celebrate with my dad is non existent ( harsh but truth) but my sister is at hers with her bf which im glad she has him etc but it wouldnt be right for me to go round after her emergency op etc.

stuff happened this week and its made me just rly struggle so much more. i ended up in hospital bc of stuff but basically i have never broke down in front of psych liaison before but i did and idk i felt like she didnt judge me? she gave me a rly long hug and she said my mum would be rly proud of me for still being here ( that broke my heart) but idk why but hearing that and i got a hug for the first time since i lost mum and it just felt rly weird but like i could open up to her. she rly was so supportive & kind to me and it just made me re think abt the psych liaison etc. but i just cant appreciate her enough.

i spoke to the mh nurse today and she said to me could i keep myself safe ( i said no bc of reasons ) but i am safe !! im safe dw and then i just feel rly stupid bc then she went to mention that shes seeing me on monday but i feel like shit bc i told her i want to discharge myself from cmht but i feel like i dont want to bc her and my psychiatrist hes amazing to theyre only ppl in my life I have around me? so i am just scared she will think shit of etc and that im throwing the help away they gave me but im not. Im just scared to see her on monday bc of that.. im such a shitty person 💔

i feel like ive rly upset ppl who i classed as friends but idk i feel like ive upset a friend of mine. its made me feel rly shitty but idk they haven’t said anything to me that ive upset them but i just know i have like its so obvious but idk i just am hating myself so much rn bc im just a shitty friend sister etc. i just wish i was just overall so shitty. 💔

i know theres so much mentioned in this thread and im rly sry but i have been holding so much in i just needed to offload it all bc everything is rly overwhelming for me. but yeah. sry 💔

TheNightmare

I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this. You’re carrying so much right now. Please don’t feel bad for offloading. You deserve support. It’s ok completely to feel overwhelmed, especially with everything going on, but you’re definitely not a bad person for struggling. You’re reaching out shows so much strength.

I’m glad the psych liaison and nurse have been kind and supportive. It sounds like they really care about you. Try to be gentle with yourself. You’re not alone in this. One step at a time. You’ve made it through so much already. Keep holding on and know that things can get better, even if it feels impossible right now. ❤️

eylah

thankyou @TheNightmare it means a lot i just wanted to clarify i am safe i was just trying to offload abt the convo i had with my mental health nurse.

i just wanted to say thankyou so much from my heart i have never been so cared abt before and noone has supported me in a long time so im rly basically saying thankyou so much for listening to my utter rubbish abt my life. but your all the kindest ppl ever and you rly are so special to me i know struggle but im always here for you all. thankyou so much again everyone your all beautiful ppl inside & out ❤️🫶🏻 keep strong xx

TheNightmare

eylah wrote: »

thankyou @TheNightmare it means a lot i just wanted to clarify i am safe i was just trying to offload abt the convo i had with my mental health nurse.

i just wanted to say thankyou so much from my heart i have never been so cared abt before and noone has supported me in a long time so im rly basically saying thankyou so much for listening to my utter rubbish abt my life. but your all the kindest ppl ever and you rly are so special to me i know struggle but im always here for you all. thankyou so much again everyone your all beautiful ppl inside & out ❤️🫶🏻 keep strong xx

@eylah Im glad you're safe. Keep offloading and reaching out.

I want to thank you for your support too and means a lot you saying that. We are all here for you on here, it's an amazing community. Everyone is very kind. We really appreciate that we're special to you. It's no problem, I and Im sure others will continue supporting you ❤️

Eminemsgirl

eylah wrote: »

when will it ever get better? im sat in my bed rn crying bc everything is rly rly overwhelming for me. 💔 my sister is hopefully coming home in the next few days ( if her obs and shit stay ok) but idk christmas is so right round the corner literally next week and im spending it alone. i know im gonna struggle i rly am bc i havent got my mum this year to celebrate with my dad is non existent ( harsh but truth) but my sister is at hers with her bf which im glad she has him etc but it wouldnt be right for me to go round after her emergency op etc.

stuff happened this week and its made me just rly struggle so much more. i ended up in hospital bc of stuff but basically i have never broke down in front of psych liaison before but i did and idk i felt like she didnt judge me? she gave me a rly long hug and she said my mum would be rly proud of me for still being here ( that broke my heart) but idk why but hearing that and i got a hug for the first time since i lost mum and it just felt rly weird but like i could open up to her. she rly was so supportive & kind to me and it just made me re think abt the psych liaison etc. but i just cant appreciate her enough.

i spoke to the mh nurse today and she said to me could i keep myself safe ( i said no bc of reasons ) but i am safe !! im safe dw and then i just feel rly stupid bc then she went to mention that shes seeing me on monday but i feel like shit bc i told her i want to discharge myself from cmht but i feel like i dont want to bc her and my psychiatrist hes amazing to theyre only ppl in my life I have around me? so i am just scared she will think shit of etc and that im throwing the help away they gave me but im not. Im just scared to see her on monday bc of that.. im such a shitty person 💔

i feel like ive rly upset ppl who i classed as friends but idk i feel like ive upset a friend of mine. its made me feel rly shitty but idk they haven’t said anything to me that ive upset them but i just know i have like its so obvious but idk i just am hating myself so much rn bc im just a shitty friend sister etc. i just wish i was just overall so shitty. 💔

i know theres so much mentioned in this thread and im rly sry but i have been holding so much in i just needed to offload it all bc everything is rly overwhelming for me. but yeah. sry 💔

Eminemsgirl

Hope ur okay lovely always here!

eylah

feeling rly shit 💔 i need to get a gift & card for someone but im just feeling crap bc i am just so emotional rn im finding it rly hard to even get up to go to town. why am i so fucking selfish 💔

eylah

heh can m day get any messed up? was doing so well with not hurting myself ( safe) and then my ‘so called’ friend who ive helped through her trauma and stuff putting her first!!! now she is saying that apparently i should of just disappeared already? huh after i have tried helping her! her threatening suicide etc and she is saying that? ive had enough 😖💔 ( just a rant!)

Azziman

Hey @eylah, thank you for sharing your experience with us on here, I can hear it's not always an easy thing to do. I can hear how you're finding Christmas this year more difficult with the change in circumstances without your mum or sister, and I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling isolated at this time of year.

It sounds like you've had a difficult week, but I'm glad to hear that the liaison was really supportive. Small gestures like a good hug and supportive words can be so helpful when we're feeling vulnerable, and it sounds like this liaison was able to help you which is lovely to hear

You mentioned that you want to discharge yourself, but that you're scared of what the mental health nurse and psychiatrist will think. What is it about their opinion that scares you? Ultimately, they'll help you as long as you want their support, but if you decide that you want to discharge yourself, then they'll respect that decision. There's no judgement or sense of "throwing away help" - they'll only help you if you want the help after all, so I'm sure they'll be okay with your decision to stay or go What do you feel about it? Do you think you still want their help?

I'm really sorry to hear about your experience with your friends - you've tried to help and support them, so I can understand that it's hurtful when someone speaks to you like that in response. It sounds like you're upset about that, and your feelings are valid given the situation! Now that a bit of time has passed since this happened yesterday, I just wanted to check in on how you're feeling about this?

You've been through a really difficult few months from your experiences, and you've done ever so well to not only keep yourself going, but to try and support others too. Be kind to yourself, because you're really trying your best! We're here to support you through this

Sian321

Hey @eylah , how are you this morning? Thank you so much for your posts here about how things are feeling with your sister as you approach Christmas, your feelings about CMHT, and what's been happening with your friend too.

It sounds like you've been carrying quite a lot of self-blame and self-criticism lately, feeling as though you have been a bad friend or a bad sister, and I know those kinds of guilt and shame can weigh so, so heavy sometimes. From where I'm standing, it sounds like you're doing your very best right now, and there's been so much to contend with in the past few months alone. It is so valid that you're feeling overwhelmed and emotional, and it sounds isolating to be having to cope with so much of this alone. I'm really pleased that you can open up to us here about it. We're listening

What you described about your psych liaison felt so moving - how she hugged you for the first time since losing your Mum, and acknowledged that your Mum would be so, so proud of you for staying here and holding on. I can imagine that just meant the world to hear, and you're so deserving of being treated with warmth and kindness like that. I heard you say that you're really scared about leaving CMHT because you're unsure if that's what you want - did I get that right? It is valid to feel conflicted at times, or to perhaps have said you'd like to discharge yourself, but then to want to stay. You mentioned you have a meeting coming up on Monday to discuss things - is that right? How are you feeling about that, and what are you hoping the outcome might be?

heh can m day get any messed up? was doing so well with not hurting myself ( safe) and then my ‘so called’ friend who ive helped through her trauma and stuff putting her first!!! now she is saying that apparently i should of just disappeared already? huh after i have tried helping her! her threatening suicide etc and she is saying that? ive had enough 😖💔 ( just a rant!)

I also just wanted to acknowledge what your friend had said to you here - that feels horrible, @eylah , and no one has a right to speak to you this way. To talk about 'dissapearing' after you have offered her so much care sounds extreamly hurtful, and I can understand why you've had enough. How have you been able to take care of yourself since this happened? And I wonder what kind of boundaries you may or may not wish to have in place with this person (if that's what felt right to you)

eylah

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Azziman wrote: »

Hey @eylah, thank you for sharing your experience with us on here, I can hear it's not always an easy thing to do. I can hear how you're finding Christmas this year more difficult with the change in circumstances without your mum or sister, and I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling isolated at this time of year.

It sounds like you've had a difficult week, but I'm glad to hear that the liaison was really supportive. Small gestures like a good hug and supportive words can be so helpful when we're feeling vulnerable, and it sounds like this liaison was able to help you which is lovely to hear

You mentioned that you want to discharge yourself, but that you're scared of what the mental health nurse and psychiatrist will think. What is it about their opinion that scares you? Ultimately, they'll help you as long as you want their support, but if you decide that you want to discharge yourself, then they'll respect that decision. There's no judgement or sense of "throwing away help" - they'll only help you if you want the help after all, so I'm sure they'll be okay with your decision to stay or go What do you feel about it? Do you think you still want their help?

I'm really sorry to hear about your experience with your friends - you've tried to help and support them, so I can understand that it's hurtful when someone speaks to you like that in response. It sounds like you're upset about that, and your feelings are valid given the situation! Now that a bit of time has passed since this happened yesterday, I just wanted to check in on how you're feeling about this?

You've been through a really difficult few months from your experiences, and you've done ever so well to not only keep yourself going, but to try and support others too. Be kind to yourself, because you're really trying your best! We're here to support you through this

i mean i wasnt thinking straight when she rang me and i was having a mental breakdown so i wasnt thinking. but shes coming monday to see me bc shes worried abt me especially bc i have noone around christmas.

i mean she knows ive tried disappearing myself and her saying that at such a difficult moment in my life it just hurts even more especially bc of what happened literally few days ago its like a wtf moment.

thankyou for replying ❤️

eylah

Sian321 wrote: »

Hey @eylah , how are you this morning? Thank you so much for your posts here about how things are feeling with your sister as you approach Christmas, your feelings about CMHT, and what's been happening with your friend too.

It sounds like you've been carrying quite a lot of self-blame and self-criticism lately, feeling as though you have been a bad friend or a bad sister, and I know those kinds of guilt and shame can weigh so, so heavy sometimes. From where I'm standing, it sounds like you're doing your very best right now, and there's been so much to contend with in the past few months alone. It is so valid that you're feeling overwhelmed and emotional, and it sounds isolating to be having to cope with so much of this alone. I'm really pleased that you can open up to us here about it. We're listening

What you described about your psych liaison felt so moving - how she hugged you for the first time since losing your Mum, and acknowledged that your Mum would be so, so proud of you for staying here and holding on. I can imagine that just meant the world to hear, and you're so deserving of being treated with warmth and kindness like that. I heard you say that you're really scared about leaving CMHT because you're unsure if that's what you want - did I get that right? It is valid to feel conflicted at times, or to perhaps have said you'd like to discharge yourself, but then to want to stay. You mentioned you have a meeting coming up on Monday to discuss things - is that right? How are you feeling about that, and what are you hoping the outcome might be?

heh can m day get any messed up? was doing so well with not hurting myself ( safe) and then my ‘so called’ friend who ive helped through her trauma and stuff putting her first!!! now she is saying that apparently i should of just disappeared already? huh after i have tried helping her! her threatening suicide etc and she is saying that? ive had enough 😖💔 ( just a rant!)

I also just wanted to acknowledge what your friend had said to you here - that feels horrible, @eylah , and no one has a right to speak to you this way. To talk about 'dissapearing' after you have offered her so much care sounds extreamly hurtful, and I can understand why you've had enough. How have you been able to take care of yourself since this happened? And I wonder what kind of boundaries you may or may not wish to have in place with this person (if that's what felt right to you)

hey sian ❤️ once again thankyoi so much!

on monday its not a meeting no its just the mental community nurse is taking me for a treat type of thing aka ( mcdonalds lol) bc i have noone to celebrate christmas with so she wants to try make me feel ok idrk lol. i want to keep working with her and my psychiatrist bc theyre literally the best mental health team ive ever had they rly are kind. tbh when i said i didnt want her help anymore i do want her help i just was pushing her away bc i do that. but tbh idk what id do without them bc theyre the best ppl to have ever stuck by me no matter what.

her saying she would rather i be ‘gone’ hurts so fucking much bc of what happened few days ago i was rly shocked she even said that to me after what happened i was rly like wtf? bc when she tells me in past she tried blah blah blah etc i never went to her you just disappear etc bc thats wrong! im still here but tbh? i feel utter shit after that bc im like someone who ive tried helping thinks that of me it’s like rly? like idk but my mind is wondering overthinking that statment ‘disappear’ im safe dw its just my mind 😅🥲

sian thankyoi so much for replying like always your help and support mean so much to me ❤️