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My mum got a call from the hospital at around 10, they said my grandma has deteriorated rapidly and all relatives need to get there.
Mum said someone will come get me if I’m needed but probably won’t be so I’ll be stuck at home alone
Mum said someone will come get me if I’m needed but probably won’t be so I’ll be stuck at home alone
Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
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Where do you feel you would ideally like to be at the moment? I wonder whether there is anything within your control that you could ask for, e.g. to ask for text updates from your mum so you're kept in the loop? Or maybe you're wanting space?
I know how much you care for your grandma, and I can imagine it's just heartbreaking to hear she's deteriorating. We're right here with you, @Rose113. Keep us posted
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sending you so so much love, i’m so sorry to hear that🩷
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Please just take this pain away 💔💔💔💔💔
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even though you knew that this day was coming, of course it’s still going to be super difficult for you!! please take as much time as you need to get through this and look after yourself🫶🏻
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Maybe this is all a dream and I’ll wake up from this horrible nightmare and she will still be here, she has to be, she can’t leave me 😭 I need her 😭😭😭
I just keep screaming into my pillow 💔🥺
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Although it may feel incredibly difficult right now, with time that pain will soften, but for now just take all the time you need to grieve and process this for yourself.
I have attached some useful resources below if you need them.
https://www.cruse.org.uk/understanding-grief/
https://www.cruse.org.uk/understanding-grief/
We're here for you through this difficult time
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You are being so brave
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There are no words. We're all here with you while you feel this pain. If you need this space as a distraction you can do that or if you need this space to talk about exactly what you're feeling we're here for that too
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You've mentioned in the past that some things that have helped with AGR are playing on certain Apps, as well as certain comfort shows too. I wonder whether it would be possible to access these on your phone even while you're around family to help ground you?
I can imagine being at your aunt and uncles house when you're just exhausted and wanting to go home to rest now is really hard. Keep us posted
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Oh gosh I'm so sorry to hear that. That must be super tough on you right now, I cant imagine all the emotions you must be going through processing that. I'm always here if you ever want to chat 🫂🫂.
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