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idk if i’m being dramatic
shannonxg_
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so basically some drama happened in my class and long story short it’s massively impacting the group task:(
i emailed my class tutor about it and just said how im doing my side of the work so as i have evidence ive contributed etc.
she then emailed me asking for evidence and witnesses n everything, i emailed back asking pls could i actually speak to her about it and she replied saying next week we can and to send her any evidence etc i may have. i’m not gonna lie, i am still typing up the email explaining the situation in as much detail as i can so i have NOT yet have this person any information whatsoever, i never mentioned anyone by name either etc.
today we had our assessment as a group and everyone except for me and another person involved was asked to stay behind. they then came to the library after and i was then told through someone i trust who was stood at the desk beside them trying to book a study room for us that they were proper slabbering about me saying i reported them n everything - i NEVER provided any specific info or mentioned anyone by name and also wasn’t the only person to actually report this either as someone else in my group did too.
i’m super frustrated because my class tutor STILL has not even spoken to me about it, i never gave her any information or names etc but she spoke to them without any facts etc from me? i only really spoke up about it because of the other person who was being excluded from our group task then due to the fact i found out that basically they were gonna try and use my work and claim it was the whole ‘groups’ work… then today before they got spoke to a very snarky and directed comment was aimed at me - it took SO much to not react, i wanted to say something so bad but i decided to just be mature and ignore the fact they’re so immature.
i am trying to type an email to my class tutor about it but im so so annoyed about it all with how she has went about it and yeah im so fucking close to dropping out. i don’t even wanna come back anymore. i was already very close to it and now i actually have typed the email to my course coordinator to tell her i won’t be back again, it’s all ready to just hit send and i am so fucking close.
i emailed my class tutor about it and just said how im doing my side of the work so as i have evidence ive contributed etc.
she then emailed me asking for evidence and witnesses n everything, i emailed back asking pls could i actually speak to her about it and she replied saying next week we can and to send her any evidence etc i may have. i’m not gonna lie, i am still typing up the email explaining the situation in as much detail as i can so i have NOT yet have this person any information whatsoever, i never mentioned anyone by name either etc.
today we had our assessment as a group and everyone except for me and another person involved was asked to stay behind. they then came to the library after and i was then told through someone i trust who was stood at the desk beside them trying to book a study room for us that they were proper slabbering about me saying i reported them n everything - i NEVER provided any specific info or mentioned anyone by name and also wasn’t the only person to actually report this either as someone else in my group did too.
i’m super frustrated because my class tutor STILL has not even spoken to me about it, i never gave her any information or names etc but she spoke to them without any facts etc from me? i only really spoke up about it because of the other person who was being excluded from our group task then due to the fact i found out that basically they were gonna try and use my work and claim it was the whole ‘groups’ work… then today before they got spoke to a very snarky and directed comment was aimed at me - it took SO much to not react, i wanted to say something so bad but i decided to just be mature and ignore the fact they’re so immature.
i am trying to type an email to my class tutor about it but im so so annoyed about it all with how she has went about it and yeah im so fucking close to dropping out. i don’t even wanna come back anymore. i was already very close to it and now i actually have typed the email to my course coordinator to tell her i won’t be back again, it’s all ready to just hit send and i am so fucking close.
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she wants to meet in the library at 1:30pm on monday. i’m so so stressed about it. i haven’t done anything wrong so idk why i am.
i asked could she do a different time as im meant to be on a zoom call from 1-2pm and she offered 4:10pm over teams with her AND the course coordinator. i just said no. i’m panicking sm about it tho as we agreed on 1:30pm in the library.
It feels really frustrating that your class tutor hadn't spoken to you about it in person before speaking to the other people involved. It sounds like she should've gotten all of the facts and understood the situation a bit more before this. And it sounds to me like you was just trying to do the right thing and also get credit for the work you actually did. I've had my fair share of group activities at school and it was always deflating when I was teamed up with others who didn't do any work so I'm right here with you.
These are some big feelings and deciding whether to drop out is a pretty big decision to make. I'm sending you hugs
It sounds rather inconvenient she's wanting to meet at a time you already have pre-arranged plans. Do you think you'll still turn up to the meeting in the library with her? Your zoom call was planned before this so I hope you're still able to attend it Shannon. Did she not give you any information beforehand about what the meeting was about? No wonder it's playing on your mind so much, especially as it's currently the weekend.
i have put in the emails to her about the whole situation (which has the course coordinator copied in) that i don’t wanna go to any classes at this point, no one’s made any comment on that. i’m literally scared to go into class again though. it’s so unfair because ive literally done nothing wrong. i have a deadline on wednesday and 2 exams the following monday and tuesday, im failing them for sure. even the deadline for this week, i was SO focused on the whole situation i just couldn’t even concentrate on my work so have definitely messed it up. i also spoke to learning support officer about it n he just basically said maybe she thought it would be good to speak to them first, im sorry but on what planet is that the best way to deal with it…? i was literally sat in tears while on the teams call with him and yeah he wasn’t bothered, i told him i dont wanna go back and mentioned multiple times on the call i wanna drop out - i also emailed him an absolute essay about how i wanna drop out first day back after half term and he was also not very bothered. i also did speak to wellbeing officer too (she is the most loveliest n supportive person ever) last week and she was so helpful, she spoke to my course coordinator who was then not very helpful and quite literally NOTHING came outta it then because of the course coordinator. everything was just basically overlooked as i submitted a good piece of work for her first submission because her unit is actually so easy i think but she just basically ignored the rest of my units im doing atm where im struggling so bad but nobody cares. i thought i had a good plan i guess with wellbeing officer then on wednesday when i was so prepared to tell her how bad i am struggling in life altogether, she just came back to my email about how i feel about the course etc / how doctors went last week and said she’ll email me and check in before we finish for christmas - i genuinely dont see myself still at college by then. i do have a reply typed out to her to explain how bad im struggling but i just feel like i cant tell her now. im just annoying.
the zoom call is for something mental health related that actually helps me so much. i had to miss them the last few weeks because of college and i was SO excited to join this one but now i can’t join it either:( i don’t even know what’s happening she said about how it will just be here because i asked, then she said about a teams call with her and the course coordinator. i don’t know. i explained to her how much i struggle with social situations n everything but yeah idk. i had spoke to her last year when she taught me (i dropped out so redoing first year again) and then spoke to her earlier this year too and do genuinely like her but this has annoyed me a lot:(
im so sorry for the long reply i just feel so bad atm
im really sorry to hear this has happened it sounds like a really stressful situation to be in. Its disappointing that you tutor didn't speak to you about it first and understand how you wanted to go about the situation, it sounds like she has betrayed your trust doing that. it can take a lot to speak out when something has happened and you have done so well to do this, I hope the way the situation has been handled doesn't put you off from doing so if something was to happen in the future. its understandable for you to be annoyed and upset about this as it sounds like it has put you in a uncomfortable situation and maybe it would have been better had the tutor kept this anonymous.
im sorry to hear that this situation has made you not want to go to classes anymore, is there anyone at school/college that you could speak to about this and maybe get some support as it would be a shame for you to miss a course it sounds like you enjoy over this. it sounds like a really stressful time for you at the moment with exams and deadlines approaching, I hope these go well for you but if they don't please remember that your mental health and wellbeing is always more important than grades. It must be really frustrating that people aren't listening to you when you're telling them that you're struggling with the work, this must be so hard. Im wondering if you have anyone around you that you could to about how your feeling for some support, either at college or home?
I hope things get easier for you and I am always here if you need to chat.