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early 20s
toffuna101
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whats it like being in your early 20s? is it really about finding yourself, going to uni just to club, maybe finding a job? i feel bad for anyone who is that at age cause of the long term affects of the pandemic.
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i agree with you, people shouldn't be forced to go out clubbing, its just a common thing to do at university. if i went to university, i personally wouldn't do it to how loud and boisterous the environment is. im sure that they'll be other ways to hang out with people if i do decide to go
I think for many people they have different experiences and interests and self discovery is always fun to do sometimes as well.
u can still access the mix after u turn 25
It is a bit different for everyone though and it might depend whether you go the traditional routes, something less traditional, or carve your own path in that time.
I dropped out of college when I was 18, worked for a bit, then found an apprenticeship that led me to move away from home and start on a new career. It was a pretty huge change and, all things considered, a gamble, but it was what I needed to do I think.
Also, you can find this info here in What if I'm over 25?
I think after you turn 25 technically sometimes they do recocmend Mind or more adult services. I found this charity when I was 19 turning 20 so I was a late user and wish I found this website when I was a teenager around 13. But I don't they kick you straight out I think you can stay. I'll be on here as much as I can
I find that a lot of schools and sixth form colleges mention university a lot. I think for some uni can be great and fun but I know sometimes leaving uni is the hardest especially with the ongoing student loans and debt thing that has been ongoing for years. I have some friends who recently graduated university and they are still unsure of what they want to do exactly. As I heard after uni is can be harder trying to find work afterwards even this isn't always the case and sometimes some do actually find careers straight after ish. I'd say there's still plenty of time left to make those big decisions and you have fun with your teenage years and see where things take you.
given that im on the younger side of the 13-25 i personally think that its alright to find this website later on the age scale since I've found that there are people who are like older teenagers to young adults, so by that time u have enough life experience to empathise what they're going through. childline kinda has the opposite problem where there's likely to be more younger people.
I discovered Childline not too long ago and experienced the same issue, that’s why I’m here too
I’m early 20s, for me it’s been a different experience than most because of a few health conditions and disabilities, so it’s totally ok to take a different pathway through these years. I never went to uni, dropped out of college at 17 and my only work is voluntary. It’s very difficult but I get through as we all do, we have to find our own way. As others said there’s a lot of pressure to know what you’re doing with your life but actually, you have many years ahead of you to figure that out (I know people who have changed careers in their 50s).
Clubbing isn’t really my thing, I prefer having a drink at home or going to a bar. It’s not for everyone and even if you were to go to uni I’m sure you’d find there were a few people who weren’t too keen either.
If anything I’m a bit atypical, other than the education/work situation I’m quite settled. But I’ve had to because of my health really. So basically what I’m trying to say is everyone is different and unique in their own way.
You can stay here after 25 for sure, it’s a rough guideline rather than a you hit 25 and you’re out (with the exception of a limited number of services). Certainly the boards and group chat you can continue to use after you’re 25 so long as you behave yourself (I don’t always)
I'm interested as I'm in my late teens, hoping to go to university this year🤞and I'm quite worried about my ability to work due to both physical and mental health stuff and being able to pay for stuff like food etc. Where I want to do a job it's often that I could do it physically but not mentally and vice versa, and it's playing on my mind a lot as I do want to be independent but I just don't feel ready and can't think of a job suitable for my current situation. I do have supportive parents but I don't want to be dependent on them forever as it's not really fair on them and I wouldn't feel right about it anyway.
If anyone has any insight feel free
@lunarcat522 yes it's unpaid, if you have those health conditions it's 110% worth applying for PIP (or adult disability payment if you're in Scotland). That's what I've done and means I'm a bit more able to manage financially. I'm hoping to move into part time work at some point, I feel full time would be a bit of a stretch. I'm working on it.
It's a tough situation because the drive is sometimes there mentally but you're struggling physically, and sometimes it's the other way round. I find the same. Late teens was a hard time for me because I don't think I'd yet realised that the path I'm on is actually not a bad thing.
I'm worried that they'll underscore me because I can usually walk and stuff but I get a lot of pain and put out by seemingly 'simple' actions, I'm currently awaiting to hear about my referral from NHS rheumatology and enduring physiotherapy (private). I am in Scotland but I thought PIP recently just got renamed to be called adult disability payment, but I may be wrong?
@lunarcat522 it's worth a shot, worth getting help with the application, citizens advice can help you if you don't know anyone. Your brother would be very much entitled to an appeal, it sounds like he was scored incorrectly.
PIP is now adult disability payment here yeah, I'm still on PIP but then again I was on it before the change over. Not sure when I'll be moved over. If nothing else it's worth applying for universal credit if you're not in education so you at least have some money for yourself. It's not much but it can help with the worry of feeling completely dependent.
I'm not sure if I could apply for Universal Credit as I'm going to be in education for the foreseeable future. I do have some funding through education but it's really not much as it's intended for things like textbooks and smaller purchases. Luckily it's not an immediate fret but it's something I'm starting to think about ahead of time
@lunarcat522 I 100% hear that, it's exhausting having to fight for these things. It's shocking really how people are forced to fight for the things they need.
It's totally worth thinking about but please try not to stress yourself. UC is always an option when you're not in education (you can't get it as a student) but in the meantime studying is a great thing to carry on with. You're doing something for yourself that can hopefully help you in the future. I understand how you feel as I've had similar feelings to you and there are solutions out there and ways of working with it.