Christmas hugs/support 2023

Former Member

River wrote: »

Everything is echoing and all the alcohol is scaring and triggering me

Sending hugs to you we are here for you

Chloe234

I'm gonna be honest. I'm finding today really really hard. There's the grief of my stepmom because this is our second Christmas without her. And there's also the fact that I wasn't supposed to be here for Christmas or New years. With how suicidal I've been recently I would be dead if it wasn't for a teacher in school whos convinced me to stay a little longer.

AnonymousToe

Chloe234 wrote: »

I'm gonna be honest. I'm finding today really really hard. There's the grief of my stepmom because this is our second Christmas without her. And there's also the fact that I wasn't supposed to be here for Christmas or New years. With how suicidal I've been recently I would be dead if it wasn't for a teacher in school whos convinced me to stay a little longer.

You’re doing so well to still be here @Chloe234 . I think you should be proud of yourself for making it through the year! Please keep going, we all care about you

Loz

Ive never felt so alone in myself. I stayed in bed until 4pm. Ate dinner and went back upstairs. My last christmas as a child, technically, im 18 next year. I feel so alone

AnonymousToe

Loz wrote: »

Ive never felt so alone in myself. I stayed in bed until 4pm. Ate dinner and went back upstairs. My last christmas as a child, technically, im 18 next year. I feel so alone

I’m so sorry

JJLemon18

Loz wrote: »

Ive never felt so alone in myself. I stayed in bed until 4pm. Ate dinner and went back upstairs. My last christmas as a child, technically, im 18 next year. I feel so alone

Don't look at it that way. I believe we can all be children no matter how old we are! My dad is nearing his 50s yet he's still such a child lol. And theres nothing bad about that. I can't believe I'm already 21, I still feel like I'm a child myself.

So just because you're struggling right now and have had a lonely Christmas, doesn't mean it won't get better in the future

Lots of hugs

Dancer

I feel sort of... I don`t know how to describe it.

Italia

The Holidays can be a really tricky time for people, especially with the pressure to be happy and celebrate all the time.

It's okay to feel low, or feel alone or full of grief for those we've lost! We're here for you, we see you. You're not alone in feeling this way.

Take care of yourself at this time of the year. I hope your boxing days are all going okay, and you're getting some much-needed rest.

Former Member

Just wanted to pop on and send hugs to everyone. We are here for you all

AnonymousToe

I’ve just found out I have to see some family in a couple of days. I’m so scared, they’re gonna judge meeee!!

Former Member

AnonymousToe wrote: »

I’ve just found out I have to see some family in a couple of days. I’m so scared, they’re gonna judge meeee!!

Sending hugs. We are right here with you.



Do you want to talk about what is worrying you?

AnonymousToe

*BananaMonkey* wrote: »

AnonymousToe wrote: »

I’ve just found out I have to see some family in a couple of days. I’m so scared, they’re gonna judge meeee!!

Sending hugs. We are right here with you.



Do you want to talk about what is worrying you?

Thank you
We’re going there for lunch, so I’m gonna have to eat in front of them. Just to make it even worse, I’m very picky so they’ll judge me for what I eat. Also I’m literally 18 so it’s kind of ridiculous when I can’t even talk to them. I just don’t belong there, I don’t fit in and I make it so awkward- I can just tell that no one wants me there. We won’t be there very long so I suppose there’s that, I was just really hoping we wouldn’t have to see them this year. It’s embarrassing to be 18 years old and act in the same way I did as a small child. (As in, just sat there silently not joining in with anything because it’s too much for me). I’ll be ok, it’s just horrible.

Former Member

Really sorry to hear that. It sounds very difficult for you. I don’t think age matters when it comes to our worries and struggles. Sorry you feel embarrassed about it.

Are you able to chat to anyone about how you feel?

I can relate in a way. I am 35 and struggle a lot in social situations I tend to just keep quiet, but I will say it’s got easier as I’ve got older and I’ve learnt ways to cope.

You don’t have to go through this alone. We are here.

Amy22

I just wanna send those who need it most a hug or a high five (for those who may not like hugs ) always here if you need to talk to someone my dm's are always open x

Amy22

I think as an adult Christmas just hits *different* if you know what I mean. It just feels like the magic is kind of sucked out like its not the same as when you were a kid. Getting all hyped up, struggling to sleep because you knew Santa was coming, waking up super early to see if Santa came and delivered your presents. There is still magic in it still as an adult but it is so different. Maybe the joy disappeared after turning eighteen I don't know. The reality that it gets harder and harder trying to figure out what loved one want, whether they will enjoy what you bought them. The same for others getting you, I just don't know what I want or need. I need either too little or too much at the same time. Its that weird feeling in the back of the head that makes me feel not the same as before. Christmas as an adult makes you realise how much stress and worry goes into just one day that is celebrated and then to be repeated the next year. Im not saying I'm a grinch or anything in fact I do love Christmas but what I hate seeing the most is seeing loved ones becoming stressed over just one day. Its just one day really, it doesn't have to be perfect or fantastic. It can just be a normal day but maybe with that extra special icing on top as I like to call it. Maybe we stress too much over things we don't need to. (I had to edit some of this because my writing is so strange so apologies if this doesn't make any sense). Sometimes I just wonder why?.