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Christmas hugs/support 2023

independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,040 Supreme Poster
edited December 2 in The subforum of Christmas Past
Hello all,

We are back for another year (can you believe it's already here) with the winter wonderland forum and therefore, the Christmas hugs thread!

We all have different experiences of christmas and while I personally love it, I know many people here don't feel the same. That can be for so many reasons, whether it's mental health, eating disorders, family issues, financial problems, the loss of someone close to us... the list really does go on! It's a time of year when many of us need support but it can be difficult to get hold of.

The christmas hug/rant/support thread is here every year. We are all here to listen and offer that much needed support. Everyone is welcome to post whatever's on your mind. Feel free to post here, keeping the guidelines of the main hug thread in mind. How are we all feeling about christmas?

Take care <3
“Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
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  • GemmaGemma Community Manager Posts: 1,138 Wise Owl
    Thank you for starting this thread @independent_ <3

    Christmas can certainly bring a mix of emotions, but having a community to connect with can make such a difference.

    Whether you find the Winter period a fun or challenging time, your emotions are valid, and this is a safe place to express them. We're all here for you <3

    Sending hugs round! 🌟
    ♡♡♡
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,804 The Mix Elder
    I am sending everyone a special hug this month to those who need it most <3. Always here if you need someone to talk to.
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • Amy22Amy22 Posts: 4,804 The Mix Elder
    independent_ wrote: »
    I’m finding christmas a lot more stressful this year. I’m so disorganised, can’t wait until everything is done that needs doing. I want it all done by 22nd so i can avoid the supermarkets from then on cuz last year was awful it was so busy.

    A stressful Christmas can be horrible at times, I definitely feel you there. But it's okay to not be as organised as the year before we can all have off-days. The shops can be so so busy at the moment especially if your having to buy gifts for everyone as well. Is there anything you find that helps de-stress you at the moment?.
    Just a person who likes pop culture and films
  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,382 Boards Champion
    AnonymousToe wrote: »
    I feel so alone. It doesn’t feel like Christmas time and I’m not sure how I’m gonna get through it. Everything just feels pointless, and I’m sad because it’s not supposed to be like that. This is supposed to be the best time of year - it was last year - but instead it’s just lonely. Someone I’m really dependent on is absent from my life for an indefinite period of time right now (I don’t wanna go into detail here but it’s nothing serious) and I’m worried about them. I just feel like Christmas is ruined. My life has been too good recently. I just know everything’s about to come crashing down 😭😭

    Update: turns out that person is probably fine and I just multiplied the situation by a million in my head. Oops. At least I’m feeling better about it now lol

  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,382 Boards Champion
    This Christmas just doesn’t feel right. I’ve had bad christmases in the past but always for a clear reason. This time I just feel crappy and I can’t work out why. I’m just so overwhelmed over about two minuscule things, I feel ridiculous being bothered by it. All I wanna do is sleep because my brain won’t function properly.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Moderator, Staff Posts: 35 Boards Initiate
    Hey @AnonymousToe

    Thanks for opening up about how you're feeling. It sounds like this is a challenging time for you, and the pressure around Christmas can add to that. I noticed you mentioned feeling overwhelmed about a couple of things. You don't have to share anything if you're not comfortable.

    I just wanted to let you know that your feelings matter, and we're here to support you. Feel free to update us on how you're doing today.
  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,382 Boards Champion
    AnonymousToe wrote: »
    I’m not ready for it to be Christmas. Not for any actual reason, it’s just come so fast and I want life to pause for a second. I’m so exhausted all the time. I was hoping to apply to university before Christmas but that hasn’t happened because I didn’t have the energy. I’m not even doing anything - I don’t know where the energy is going!! But it just won’t leave my mind. I’ve got some last little bits to do towards it and all I can do is worry about them. I don’t know what’s happened to my anxiety. Everything’s just fallen apart for absolutely no reason. I want a break from life. My brain feels like mush and I just don’t get why. It’s sad.

    Just realised I’m probably getting ill or something. Tired all the time and anxiety out of control.
  • EmLizEmLiz Moderator, Staff Posts: 50 Boards Initiate
    @AnonymousToe Thanks so much for sharing with us. The end of the year can be a challenging time for so many reasons and it can definitely feel like a reminder of what we haven't been able to do, but it's important to also reflect on how far we've come too <3

    Please keep being kind to yourself - you're allowed to feel tired and have down days. I'm really sorry to hear you have been struggling at this time of year and hope you manage to get some rest.

    How are you feeling today? We're always here for a chat or virtual hug if needed!
  • EmLizEmLiz Moderator, Staff Posts: 50 Boards Initiate
    @River sending you some love at this time of year <3
  • EmLizEmLiz Moderator, Staff Posts: 50 Boards Initiate
    @Dancer thanks for reaching out and sharing with us. It sounds like a difficult set up at home and Christmas can be a really tough time when things aren't great at home. Sending you virtual hugs.

    I'm also sorry to hear you struggle with food around this time. Unfortunately this time of year can be especially challenging food wise. Hopefully some of our content around managing food around Christmas can help? We have some content out at the moment to support with this specifically - check our our Instagram page or our article here https://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/eating-disorders/coping-with-an-eating-disorder-at-christmas-39092.html

    We're always here on the boards if you need someone to talk to <3
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Chloe234 wrote: »
    So drained and not christmassy at all but gotta pretend. Grief is bad too🥺😕

    Sending lots of hugs to you. We are here for you. It’s so hard this time of the year especially with grief. We are here for you. :heart:
  • ebyrne556ebyrne556 Moderator Posts: 1,167 Wise Owl
    Just popping in to say I’m thinking of you all today❤️
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  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 1,665 Extreme Poster
    Merry Christmas everyone - sending hugs to you all today <3
  • Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 3,579 Community Veteran
    Overwhelmed, overstimulated, drained and struggling
    🦆💜🦆💜🦆
  • Former MemberFormer Member Lyrical Poster Posts: 5,462 Part of The Furniture
    Sending hugs @Chloe234

    We are here for you. Do you want to talk about anything? :heart:
  • Rose113Rose113 Community Champion Posts: 2,492 Boards Champion
    Everything is echoing and all the alcohol is scaring and triggering me
    Want to hurt me… go ahead
    Wish to bully me…I’m used to it
    Want to talk crap about me…go on then
    Want to make me cry…feel free
  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,382 Boards Champion
    River wrote: »
    Everything is echoing and all the alcohol is scaring and triggering me

    You’ve got through a lot of the day, you’re doing well @River :heart:
  • Rose113Rose113 Community Champion Posts: 2,492 Boards Champion
    Thank you @AnonymousToe I here till 10pm :s
    Want to hurt me… go ahead
    Wish to bully me…I’m used to it
    Want to talk crap about me…go on then
    Want to make me cry…feel free
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